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prljmngrlprljmngrl Posts: 320
edited April 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
On another thread, the topic of who raises the children came up. So to ensure "thread integrity" I am starting a new one on the topic.

Men, when you have kids (or if you already have them) will you share equally in taking responsibility for them or will you expect your wife to be the primary caregiver?
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  • pjtradekingpjtradeking Posts: 4,045
    prljmngrl wrote:
    On another thread, the topic of who raises the children came up. So to ensure "thread integrity" I am starting a new one on the topic.

    Men, when you have kids (or if you already have them) will you share equally in taking responsibility for them or will you expect your wife to be the primary caregiver?

    No that it is going to happen, but if I do ever have one, I look forward to sharing EQUALLY if not more...I would be a GREAT Dad! :D
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  • prljmngrlprljmngrl Posts: 320
    pjtradeking wrote:
    No that it is going to happen, but if I do ever have one, I look forward to sharing EQUALLY if not more...I would be a GREAT Dad! :D
    Im not asking about being a great dad, Im asking about taking the responsibility. So are you going to equally take time off of work to care for sick kids? Are you going to do the grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning etc?
  • pjtradekingpjtradeking Posts: 4,045
    prljmngrl wrote:
    Im not asking about being a great dad, Im asking about taking the responsibility. So are you going to equally take time off of work to care for sick kids? Are you going to do the grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning etc?

    ABSOLUTELY!! The only thing that wouldnt apply(right now) is taking time off from work. She works from home these days. Otherwise, yes, I would be a GREAT RESPONSIBLE Dad...:)
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  • prljmngrlprljmngrl Posts: 320
    pjtradeking wrote:
    ABSOLUTELY!! The only thing that wouldnt apply(right now) is taking time off from work. She works from home these days. Otherwise, yes, I would be a GREAT RESPONSIBLE Dad...:)
    so then if she weren't working from home, who would take the time off work?
  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    prljmngrl wrote:
    Im not asking about being a great dad, Im asking about taking the responsibility. So are you going to equally take time off of work to care for sick kids? Are you going to do the grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning etc?

    although i never plan on having kids, of course i would.....why wouldn't I?
  • pjtradekingpjtradeking Posts: 4,045
    prljmngrl wrote:
    so then if she weren't working from home, who would take the time off work?

    We both would.
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  • harmless_little_f***harmless_little_f*** Posts: 8,005
    Although I won't be a dad in the conventional sense, if I was, I could imagine myself as a stay at home dad - if only because I think children are awesome and the conventional work world is a big pile of steaming cocoa-butter.
    'We're learning songs for baby Jesus' birthday. His mum and dad were Merry and Joseph. He had a bed made of clay and the three kings bought him Gold, Frankenstein and Merv as presents.'

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  • Jam10Jam10 Posts: 654
    I have a one year old daughter and I absolutely love her. I am a firefighter and we work shift work so I have a lot of days off, so I am at home with my daughter most of the time. My wife works straight days, so when I work nights I come home in the morning be with my daughter and then my wife goes to work. The only time we need babysitting is 5 days a month. It just works out perfect with my schedule that I am one of the lucky dads who get to spend most of my time with my daughter and I love it. I wouldn't trade it for the world!
  • prljmngrlprljmngrl Posts: 320
    Jam10 wrote:
    It just works out perfect with my schedule that I am one of the lucky dads who get to spend most of my time with my daughter and I love it.
    exactly my point...this isn't the norm
  • _Crazy_Mary__Crazy_Mary_ Posts: 1,299
    My husband is a stay-at-home dad and I work 6 days a week. Yet, it is me who schedules the doctor and dentist appointments and takes the kids there. I am the one who will be registering my daughter for kindergarten, even though he believes I'm leaving it up to him.... I am the one who does all the laundry.
    I really screwed that up. I really Schruted it.
  • harmless_little_f***harmless_little_f*** Posts: 8,005
    _Crazy_Mary_ wrote:
    My husband is a stay-at-home dad and I work 6 days a week. Yet, it is me who schedules the doctor and dentist appointments and takes the kids there. I am the one who will be registering my daughter for kindergarten, even though he believes I'm leaving it up to him.... I am the one who does all the laundry.

    This would be my only fear about being a stay at home dad... getting lazy.
    'We're learning songs for baby Jesus' birthday. His mum and dad were Merry and Joseph. He had a bed made of clay and the three kings bought him Gold, Frankenstein and Merv as presents.'

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  • WildsWilds Posts: 4,329
    I work a normal shift. My wife is a stay at home mom. It works out great for us.

    I do as much as I can when I am home. I would switch with her if we could and she wanted. (But we are both happy in our roles)

    I would say we put in an equal amount of time to balance off, work, kids, and the household chores.
  • nowayimfaithfullnowayimfaithfull Posts: 2,051
    prljmngrl wrote:
    On another thread, the topic of who raises the children came up. So to ensure "thread integrity" I am starting a new one on the topic.

    Men, when you have kids (or if you already have them) will you share equally in taking responsibility for them or will you expect your wife to be the primary caregiver?


    I take more, and expect more, parenting is hard you both have to have both feet in.
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  • Brain of J.LoBrain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    I stay at home, so during the hours of the day my husband is at work, I'm obviously the primary caregiver. However, when my husband is home, we split the responsibility. I think he does a lot more in the way of childcare than most working dads I know, and he is awesome with our little girl. :) Personally, I think this is how it should be...but maybe we're just spoiled. :) We're very lucky to have him.
  • nowayimfaithfullnowayimfaithfull Posts: 2,051
    harmless_little_f*** wrote:
    Although I won't be a dad in the conventional sense, if I was, I could imagine myself as a stay at home dad - if only because I think children are awesome and the conventional work world is a big pile of steaming cocoa-butter.


    See I work out of my office so I have been home since my lil was 3. We used to do day care with the older child. I do all the housewrok, do all the sports and coach, my wife gets the kids ready, does the doctors, gets up and feeds them, we split school down the middle. We both have income but my wife works harder.
    Balance it works. Now if I for some reason am not around due to busy shedules, travelling, when I come home I give her a break.
    We have 2 daughters that have allowed us to use this system by behaving.
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  • prljmngrlprljmngrl Posts: 320
    Wilds wrote:
    I work a normal shift. My wife is a stay at home mom. It works out great for us.

    I do as much as I can when I am home. I would switch with her if we could and she wanted. (But we are both happy in our roles)

    I would say we put in an equal amount of time to balance off, work, kids, and the household chores.
    I don't understand that last part. If she is the stay home mom, how is your involvement with the kids and home equal to hers? Does she stop doing things when you are home? Do you take off work to stay home even though she is home during the day?
  • prljmngrlprljmngrl Posts: 320
    nowayimfaithfull wrote:
    See I work out of my office so I have been home since my lil was 3. We used to do day care with the older child. I do all the housewrok, do all the sports and coach, my wife gets the kids ready, does the doctors, gets up and feeds them, we split school down the middle. We both have income but my wife works harder.
    Balance it works. Now if I for some reason am not around due to busy shedules, travelling, when I come home I give her a break.
    We have 2 daughters that have allowed us to use this system by behaving.
    I love the whole working from home concept. I think its great that employers are seeing this as a viable option for families.
  • prljmngrlprljmngrl Posts: 320
    _Crazy_Mary_ wrote:
    My husband is a stay-at-home dad and I work 6 days a week. Yet, it is me who schedules the doctor and dentist appointments and takes the kids there. I am the one who will be registering my daughter for kindergarten, even though he believes I'm leaving it up to him.... I am the one who does all the laundry.
    what exactly does he do then?
  • Jeremy1012Jeremy1012 Posts: 7,170
    Yes, I would share responsibility equally.
    "I remember one night at Muzdalifa with nothing but the sky overhead, I lay awake amid sleeping Muslim brothers and I learned that pilgrims from every land — every colour, and class, and rank; high officials and the beggar alike — all snored in the same language"
  • Nothingman54Nothingman54 Posts: 2,251
    prljmngrl wrote:
    On another thread, the topic of who raises the children came up. So to ensure "thread integrity" I am starting a new one on the topic.

    Men, when you have kids (or if you already have them) will you share equally in taking responsibility for them or will you expect your wife to be the primary caregiver?

    Im a proud stay at home dad. My son is 11 months old. I'm the primary caregiver and I have no problem with it. I enjoy waking up everyday to take care of my baby. This is why I feel the way I do. Its like this 24/7

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=snR7hwNQ0VI


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  • prljmngrlprljmngrl Posts: 320
    Nothingman54 wrote:
    Im a proud stay at home dad. My son is 11 months old. I'm the primary caregiver and I have no problem with it. I enjoy waking up everyday to take care of my baby. This is why I feel the way I do. Its like this 24/7
    How did you come to be a stay at home dad?
  • South of SeattleSouth of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    I would love to be the stay at home dad :)

    I'll cook, clean, and vacuum. I'll coach the sports teams too. As long as I don't have to punch a clock, I'm cool. :cool:
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  • Nothingman54Nothingman54 Posts: 2,251
    prljmngrl wrote:
    How did you come to be a stay at home dad?



    My wife is a doctor. Alot of people think I dont want to work or im a bum or whatever because im a guy but im not. Its funny to see peoples reactions.
    I'll be back
  • Get_RightGet_Right Posts: 13,296
    Monday to Friday, I expect my wife to take care of the kids and the house. Its just reality in our world, and Id change places in a heartbeat if we could afford it.

    Sat-Sun. should be family time IMHO, but mostly I entertain the kids so my wife can have a little free time.
  • Get_RightGet_Right Posts: 13,296
    South of Seattle wrote:
    I would love to be the stay at home dad :)

    I'll cook, clean, and vacuum. I'll coach the sports teams too. As long as I don't have to punch a clock, I'm cool. :cool:

    I agree 100%.
  • fanch75fanch75 Posts: 3,734
    prljmngrl wrote:
    On another thread, the topic of who raises the children came up. So to ensure "thread integrity" I am starting a new one on the topic.

    Men, when you have kids (or if you already have them) will you share equally in taking responsibility for them or will you expect your wife to be the primary caregiver?

    Woman, get off the damn internet and get that cleaning done. And fry me up some meat.
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  • GreenTeaDiseaseGreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    _Crazy_Mary_ wrote:
    Yet, it is me who schedules the doctor and dentist appointments and takes the kids there. I am the one who will be registering my daughter for kindergarten, even though he believes I'm leaving it up to him.... I am the one who does all the laundry.

    I think this is the kind of thing a lot of dads overlook. when you see kids say, at the dentist waiting room or something, they are usually with their mums!
  • Steve DunneSteve Dunne Posts: 4,965
    fanch75 wrote:
    Woman, get off the damn internet and get that cleaning done. And fry me up some meat.

    hehe nice fanch!
    I love to turn you on
  • elmerelmer Posts: 1,683
    I'll be sure to start wearing a belt!
  • blackredyellowblackredyellow Posts: 5,889
    Our son is three months old, and I can say that I've put in as much time as possible. My wife has been off since he was born, and has just started going into work part-time these last couple of weeks. In May, she will be back full-time, but working from home a couple of days a week.

    So on time spent with him, she obviously spends more time. But I do everything else that I can. I help cook (sometimes dinner is done when I get home from work).

    When I'm home in the evenings and weekends, I try to take him as much as I can, because I really do miss him throughout the day. I change pretty much all of the diapers and feed him as much as possible. I have no problem getting up in the middle of the night to feed him, because I really do like those times we get to spend together alone, when everything else is quiet.

    We all go together to grocery shop, do laundry, run errands, etc. My work is pretty flexible, so I have been able to make most of his doctors appointments and everything else.
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