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HushBullHushBull Posts: 996
edited June 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
Well, at the tender age of 21, I have been completely let down by a relationship. I've, of course, had girlfriends in the past that didn't work out. This one though, it's a new level. I feel betrayed, let down, and mainly confused. I wish I had an alcohol dependance, something to keep my mind off of it, maybe I'll go push a small child. That'll make me feel better. :(
"When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro"
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  • Sian-of-the-deadSian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    Your age makes no difference dude, relationships breaking down, whenever it happens and for whatever reason, hurts :(
    I'm sorry to hear about your situation, were you together long?
    Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...

    ... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
  • CollinCollin Posts: 4,931
    I know the feeling and was reminded of it last night. Either way, if you push enough small children, the feeling will go away.
    THANK YOU, LOSTDAWG!


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  • HushBullHushBull Posts: 996
    Sian-of-the-dead wrote:
    Your age makes no difference dude, relationships breaking down, whenever it happens and for whatever reason, hurts :(
    I'm sorry to hear about your situation, were you together long?
    Two years, off and on. This was the final straw though. I told her I hated her now, but I don't. I wish I could though...
    "When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro"
  • Sian-of-the-deadSian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    HushBull wrote:
    Two years, off and on. This was the final straw though. I told her I hated her now, but I don't. I wish I could though...

    I understand. I'm sure she probably knows that angry words get exchanged in the heat of the moment and that you didn't mean it. By 'This was the final straw' i'm assuming whatever ended it is last in a list of things? Don't let her take advantage of the fact you wish you could hate her but don't.
    You're probably gonna hear this alot and you're probably gonna go "yeah yeah yeah... change the record :rolleyes:" but time does heal all wounds man, hang in there :)
    Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...

    ... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
  • HushBullHushBull Posts: 996
    Sian-of-the-dead wrote:
    I understand. I'm sure she probably knows that angry words get exchanged in the heat of the moment and that you didn't mean it. By 'This was the final straw' i'm assuming whatever ended it is last in a list of things? Don't let her take advantage of the fact you wish you could hate her but don't.
    You're probably gonna hear this alot and you're probably gonna go "yeah yeah yeah... change the record :rolleyes:" but time does heal all wounds man, hang in there :)

    I don't feel wounded so much. More like, "dumb all over".

    It's funny. Well, actually, no it isn't. But in consequence to my situation, I find it settling, as if it were a good laugh. This would be more of a chortle-- the pompous, all knowing, bellowing of a foreseen event. In a movie, right as the protagonist is being gruesomely killed, you snicker. Not because of the painful death he is about to meet, but because you saw it coming from a mile away. We deserve it.
    "When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro"
  • Sian-of-the-deadSian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    HushBull wrote:
    I don't feel wounded so much. More like, "dumb all over".

    It's funny. Well, actually, no it isn't. But in consequence to my situation, I find it settling, as if it were a good laugh. This would be more of a chortle-- the pompous, all knowing, bellowing of a foreseen event. In a movie, right as the protagonist is being gruesomely killed, you snicker. Not because of the painful death he is about to meet, but because you saw it coming from a mile away. We deserve it.

    I know that feeling allllllll too well! :rolleyes:

    I laugh about stuff now that, in my relationship at the time, I spotted but chose to ignore and hope it'd go away... ah the gift of hindsight ;)
    Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...

    ... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
  • JordyWordyJordyWordy Posts: 2,261
    HushBull wrote:
    I don't feel wounded so much. More like, "dumb all over".

    It's funny. Well, actually, no it isn't. But in consequence to my situation, I find it settling, as if it were a good laugh. This would be more of a chortle-- the pompous, all knowing, bellowing of a foreseen event. In a movie, right as the protagonist is being gruesomely killed, you snicker. Not because of the painful death he is about to meet, but because you saw it coming from a mile away. We deserve it.

    ive been there before too. sorry to hear you're in that place. im only 22 and it happened me when i was 21 too....ahhh the memories.

    my view on it was that i knew (like u), what was coming, but that i had to stick it out till the point where things broke down too much.....if (when) i jumped ship before that i wuda just come back again.....etc etc....

    you need to go through that shit ...it helps you learn what you do / don't want in a relationship, and teaches you to avoid certain situations arising in future relationships. you need to see out the end result to get some closure.
    sure, you feel like a clown for it for a while, but i hope u dont regret it. part of learning about relationships is having shit ones so u can deal with problems and better cope in future ones.

    power to ya for giving it a shot even if it was likely to end in disappointment. youre young, this shit thickens your skin and teaches you a lot about yourself. (from my experience).

    maybe this post was very vague, but i hope u kno what i mean! from the way you say its "settling", i think you do get it
  • Heineken HelenHeineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    JordyWordy wrote:
    part of learning about relationships is having shit ones so u can deal with problems and better cope in future ones.

    power to ya for giving it a shot even if it was likely to end in disappointment. youre young, this shit thickens your skin and teaches you a lot about yourself. (from my experience).
    this is so true... each of my relationships have been better than the last... they've all kinda been a stepping stone and a way of learning what to do and what not to do.
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • mookie9999mookie9999 Posts: 4,677
    HushBull wrote:
    Well, at the tender age of 21, I have been completely let down by a relationship. I've, of course, had girlfriends in the past that didn't work out. This one though, it's a new level. I feel betrayed, let down, and mainly confused. I wish I had an alcohol dependance, something to keep my mind off of it, maybe I'll go push a small child. That'll make me feel better. :(

    In case you didn't have the conviction in you, I pushed a small child on the way into work this morning for you. I hope you feel better!
    "The leads are weak!"

    "The leads are weak? Fuckin' leads are weak? You're Weak! I've Been in this business 15 years"

    "What's your name?"

    "FUCK YOU! THAT"S MY NAME!"
  • eyedclaareyedclaar Posts: 6,980
    mookie9999 wrote:
    In case you didn't have the conviction in you, I pushed a small child on the way into work this morning for you. I hope you feel better!


    I wasn't even feeling bad but I still feel a lot better now. Thanks, Mook.
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  • mookie9999mookie9999 Posts: 4,677
    eyedclaar wrote:
    I wasn't even feeling bad but I still feel a lot better now. Thanks, Mook.

    No problem! I was born a giver. I just can't help it!
    "The leads are weak!"

    "The leads are weak? Fuckin' leads are weak? You're Weak! I've Been in this business 15 years"

    "What's your name?"

    "FUCK YOU! THAT"S MY NAME!"
  • CobCob Posts: 858
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  • SwanSwan Posts: 350
    HushBull wrote:
    Well, at the tender age of 21, I have been completely let down by a relationship. I've, of course, had girlfriends in the past that didn't work out. This one though, it's a new level. I feel betrayed, let down, and mainly confused. I wish I had an alcohol dependance, something to keep my mind off of it, maybe I'll go push a small child. That'll make me feel better. :(

    welcome to life.
    I'm the only Hell Mama ever raised.
  • Phantom PainPhantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    Just put BLACK on repeat...it's worked for me

    Except for these damn razor marks....
    My drinking team has a hockey problem

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  • HOOKERHOOKER Posts: 1,443
    mookie9999 wrote:
    In case you didn't have the conviction in you, I pushed a small child on the way into work this morning for you. I hope you feel better!

    HEHE..
    Nice to know you.
  • stu geestu gee Posts: 1,174
    I cant be fucked with relationships anymore, they just mess with your head. Maybe ill think differently in the future but as for now at the age of 23, i am finished with serious relationships. People say stuff like its better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all but i think that is rubbish. Im fine just now but sometimes the way you feel at the end of a relationship, particularly my most recent one last year, overshadows any happiness you ever had.
    People say im paranoid. Well, they dont say it, but i know that's what they are thinking.
  • JordyWordyJordyWordy Posts: 2,261
    stu gee wrote:
    I cant be fucked with relationships anymore, they just mess with your head. Maybe ill think differently in the future but as for now at the age of 23, i am finished with serious relationships. People say stuff like its better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all but i think that is rubbish. Im fine just now but sometimes the way you feel at the end of a relationship, particularly my most recent one last year, overshadows any happiness you ever had.

    im on hiatus too. its good aint it? the freedom to not feel like crap? :)
  • JordyWordyJordyWordy Posts: 2,261
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    this is so true... each of my relationships have been better than the last... they've all kinda been a stepping stone and a way of learning what to do and what not to do.

    im very insightful arent i? ;)
  • WildChildRoseWildChildRose Posts: 568
    That sucks. Sorry to hear that happened to you. You're only 21 and sorry to say it, but there's going to be a lot more where that came from. It's just how relationships go... up and down... and trust me, the deeper you get involved with someone, the more aggravating the issues become.
    "I'll ride the wave where it takes me.."
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