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i now officially have no grandparents anymore

BoardroomJimmyBoardroomJimmy Posts: 55
edited February 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
my grandfather died last night... he was my dads step-dad.. my dads real died back in 1974. his wife, my grandma died back in 2003.. the week after i got back from the Santa Barbara show. my grandpa lived in a retirement community in Bradenton, Florida.. i live up in PA.. i havent seen him since my grandma's funeral back in 2003. last time i got to talk to him was xmas eve. because he was in a hospital that didnt have a phone in his room

my moms mom died in 1986, and her dad died in 1993...

so i'm now officially grandparent-less.. and it sucks bigtime :(
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  • QuarterToTenQuarterToTen Posts: 3,636
    yes it does suck.

    i'm sorry for your loss.
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  • tybirdtybird Posts: 17,388
    Hate to hear of your loss.....I still have a Grandfather that is with us and in good health. He has re-married since my grandmother died, and his new wife is accepted as part of the family.

    I was lucky enough to see four of my great-grandparents alive....the last one died in 1983 when I was seventeen.

    My grandparents left the world in this order: 1972 (paternal grandfather), 1987 (paternal grandmother), 2004 (maternal grandmother)
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  • vedderfan10vedderfan10 Posts: 2,497
    My last grandparent died in 1992 (my dad's mom)...and I remember feeling very upset, not so much that my grandmother died but the fact that I didn't have any grandparents anymore. To this day my mind still screams once in awhile for no apparent reason: "I HAVE NO GRANDPARENTS"...I really miss my mom's parents and think about them a lot. They died in 1985 and 1987 respectively.

    Yeah - it sucks when you suddenly are in that situation...

    My husband's grandfather is still alive (he's 98) - he's doing OK, though...but we arent' that close to him...

    Anyway, hang in there - acceptance actually comes fairly quickly... and sorry for your loss....
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  • prljamgirlprljamgirl Posts: 602
    I can relate, I just lost my grandma 2 weeks ago, we were very close. She was 87 and was my last living grandparent. It's certainly a weird feeling!! And it really hits home that my parents generation are the next to start getting old....
  • vedderfan10vedderfan10 Posts: 2,497
    prljamgirl wrote:
    I can relate, I just lost my grandma 2 weeks ago, we were very close. She was 87 and was my last living grandparent. It's certainly a weird feeling!! And it really hits home that my parents generation are the next to start getting old....

    I'm sorry to hear that :( Being grandparentless feels quite strange at first. The numbness does wear off eventually...When my grandmother died in 1992 and I was wailing away about how I had no grandparents anymore, my soon to be husband (who's grandparents lived up the street) said, "You can have my grandparents..." (and he didn't even mean in the way that he didn't particular care for them)...
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  • FinsburyParkCarrotsFinsburyParkCarrots Posts: 12,223
    My last grandparent died in 1991. My own parents are 81 and 73. Shit, time hurtles by ...
  • given2fly78given2fly78 Posts: 404
    I'm very sorry.

    When I was home for Christmas I caught my Grandma out of the corner of my eye (she's 89) and what I saw shocked me. All of a sudden, she looked old. She had that glazed look in her eyes, kind of slack too. I was super sad. She has Alzheimers and is slowly wearing down.

    But I'm very very sorry for your loss. Grandparents are super special people.
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  • Ms. HaikuMs. Haiku Posts: 7,265
    I'm really sorry for your loss.

    My last one is 96 years old.
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  • decides2dreamdecides2dream Posts: 14,977
    firstly, i am so truly sorry for your loss. :(



    me, i never really had living grandparents. the only grandparent that was still around by the time i was born was my maternal grandmother, and she died when i was 3. i have maybe one memory of her, but it's more like a *snapshot* in my mind of her than anything else. this is what happens when you are the youngest child, have MUCH older parents who were both the youngest in their families too. my one paternal aunt, was quite *grandmotherly* to me, and we were quite close.....so i feel fortunate for that relationship. i remember my childhood best friend and her grammy, and realized....wow, i will never have that. :o kinda sad to miss out on that. coincidently, we are celebrating my mother's 80th birthday with a huge surprise party this saturday. :) my fater has been long gone now....so really, all i have left is my mom and sure, extended family and my siblings.


    so, in your saddness, remember all the love, and feel fortunate to have been blessed with such a relationship. my heart goes out to you and your family in your time of loss.
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  • BoardroomJimmyBoardroomJimmy Posts: 55
    Vedderfan10 wrote:
    I'm sorry to hear that :( Being grandparentless feels quite strange at first. The numbness does wear off eventually...When my grandmother died in 1992 and I was wailing away about how I had no grandparents anymore, my soon to be husband (who's grandparents lived up the street) said, "You can have my grandparents..." (and he didn't even mean in the way that he didn't particular care for them)...
    my gf said the same thing to me today.. about her sharing her grandparents with me
  • chiquimonkeychiquimonkey Posts: 9,337
    i'm so sorry :( my condolences to you and your family
  • JeanieJeanie Posts: 9,446
    I'm really sorry Jimmy. Grandparents are so special, such an amazing group of folk to have in your life. It's awful to lose them.

    When I was a kid I had both sets of grandparents and 5 great grandparents still living and I spent some of the best days of my childhood with them, doing all kinds of great stuff. Learning, laughing, spending time. :)

    I've lost them all now except for my lovely Nan, who's just turned 84. I cherish every minute I get to spend with her and I dread losing her.

    I hope your memories of your grandparents stay bright and shiny and the times you shared, the things they taught you stay with you always.
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  • SENROCKSENROCK Posts: 10,736
    sorry jimmy.
    i guess i can say i have no grandparents either. my moms parents died years ago. my dadds father died 2years ago and you guys may find this weird but, we hadd an AWESOME time at his funeral! Not cuz he was DEAD but becuz everyone was together. We all haddnt seen each other in years and we live so close. it was a huge street party. and my granny, his wife is still alive but dude; she's just CRAZY. The woman is a 2 faced liar and a back stabber. ANNNND she like NEVER calls or visits or anything and doesnt act like a REAL grama. ugh so whatever. i feel im grandparentless too!
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  • ladygooddivaladygooddiva Posts: 4,169
    i am sorry
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