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Is it possible to be nice to EVERYONE?

TrailerTrailer Posts: 1,431
edited March 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
Someone who used to be close to me recently committed suicide and it has changed my life. His parents kicked him out of the house when he was 15… and they never spoke again. Now his parents are devastated and they told me that they were always hoping that he would come back to the family. It’s a long, difficult situation that I don’t want to get into here… but now I’ve realized that decisions made in anger are often wrong in hindsight. I’ve decided that from now on I am going to make an honest effort to be nice and respectful to everyone I meet... even if they aren't to me... because I never want to be in a situation that his parents are in now.
Whoa, chill bro... you know you can't raise your voice like that when the lion's here.
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  • in_hiding79in_hiding79 Posts: 4,315
    Trailer wrote:
    Someone who used to be close to me recently committed suicide and it has changed my life. His parents kicked him out of the house when he was 15… and they never spoke again. Now his parents are devastated and they told me that they were always hoping that he would come back to the family. It’s a long, difficult situation that I don’t want to get into here… but now I’ve realized that decisions made in anger are often wrong in hindsight. I’ve decided that from now on I am going to make an honest effort to be nice and respectful to everyone I meet... even if they aren't to me... because I never want to be in a situation that his parents are in now.


    What an awful story.....but if it changes you for the better then that is great!! :)
    And so the lion fell in love with the lamb...,"
    "What a stupid lamb."
    "What a sick, masochistic lion."
  • JOEJOEJOEJOEJOEJOE Posts: 10,515
    Trailer wrote:
    Someone who used to be close to me recently committed suicide and it has changed my life. His parents kicked him out of the house when he was 15… and they never spoke again. Now his parents are devastated and they told me that they were always hoping that he would come back to the family. It’s a long, difficult situation that I don’t want to get into here… but now I’ve realized that decisions made in anger are often wrong in hindsight. I’ve decided that from now on I am going to make an honest effort to be nice and respectful to everyone I meet... even if they aren't to me... because I never want to be in a situation that his parents are in now.

    It is possible to be nice to everyone, but don't try to please everyone...thats very difficult.
  • josevolutionjosevolution Posts: 29,573
    Trailer wrote:
    Someone who used to be close to me recently committed suicide and it has changed my life. His parents kicked him out of the house when he was 15… and they never spoke again. Now his parents are devastated and they told me that they were always hoping that he would come back to the family. It’s a long, difficult situation that I don’t want to get into here… but now I’ve realized that decisions made in anger are often wrong in hindsight. I’ve decided that from now on I am going to make an honest effort to be nice and respectful to everyone I meet... even if they aren't to me... because I never want to be in a situation that his parents are in now.

    let me be the 1st to extend my hand out for a shake that's what is all about even if i know someone from my family is wrong about something i make sure i let them know it can't come between them & me i won't let it happen ....to important to me .......damm i love "save you" sorry about your friend that really does suck ....i'm your friend :)
    jesus greets me looks just like me ....
  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    sorry about your friend, dude.....:(


    in answer to your ??, you can be nice to everyone....just don't expect it to be reciprocated....
  • JeanieJeanie Posts: 9,446
    oh trails! :(

    I'm so sorry love. (((HUGS))) to you.

    In answer to your question, I think some of us strive to be nice to everyone, sometimes we falter but ultimately I am not one that likes leaving things in a bad way, leaving harsh words un addressed. It means having to take more than my fair share of negativity from others but ultimately I will survive.

    So yes, try, it's a very rewarding thing to strive for.
    NOPE!!!

    *~You're IT Bert!~*

    Hold on to the thread
    The currents will shift
  • BibbsBibbs Posts: 229
    It would be extremely difficult to be nice to everyone all the time. This forum is a fine example of that.
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  • in_hiding79in_hiding79 Posts: 4,315
    josevolution wrote:
    let me be the 1st to extend my hand out for a shake that's what is all about even if i know someone from my family is wrong about something i make sure i let them know it can't come between them & me i won't let it happen ....to important to me .......damm i love "save you" sorry about your friend that really does suck ....i'm your friend :)

    you are a huge sweetheart!! :)
    And so the lion fell in love with the lamb...,"
    "What a stupid lamb."
    "What a sick, masochistic lion."
  • SENROCKSENROCK Posts: 10,736
    Trailer wrote:
    Someone who used to be close to me recently committed suicide and it has changed my life. His parents kicked him out of the house when he was 15… and they never spoke again. Now his parents are devastated and they told me that they were always hoping that he would come back to the family. It’s a long, difficult situation that I don’t want to get into here… but now I’ve realized that decisions made in anger are often wrong in hindsight. I’ve decided that from now on I am going to make an honest effort to be nice and respectful to everyone I meet... even if they aren't to me... because I never want to be in a situation that his parents are in now.

    u alreddie ARE nice to everyone babycakes!!! :)
    ~~~~~~ALWAYS HAVE A GOOD TIME~~~~~~
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    EVENFLOW PSYCHOS H.N.I.C~FEEL THE FLOW!!!

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  • josevolutionjosevolution Posts: 29,573
    in_hiding79 wrote:
    you are a huge sweetheart!! :)

    i just feel that we are only here on this earth for such a short amount of time i think it is imperetive to be just plain nice ...
    jesus greets me looks just like me ....
  • JeanieJeanie Posts: 9,446
    josevolution wrote:
    i just feel that we are only here on this earth for such a short amount of time i think it is imperetive to be just plain nice ...

    :) You rock jose.
    SENROCK! wrote:
    u alreddie ARE nice to everyone babycakes!!! :)

    and I agree with sen, trails. You are already nice to everyone. :)
    NOPE!!!

    *~You're IT Bert!~*

    Hold on to the thread
    The currents will shift
  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    josevolution wrote:
    i just feel that we are only here on this earth for such a short amount of time i think it is imperetive to be just plain nice ...

    negativity is a wasted emotion.....i'll you'll make you feel is worse.....yours is the best attitude to have jose....:):)
  • small town becksmall town beck Posts: 6,691
    D,

    I am so sorry about your friend :( Those are very wise words and as someone said impossible to please everyone but very noble to be nice to everyone :)

    xo

    stb
  • g under pg under p Posts: 18,196
    Dalton: All you have to do is follow three simple rules. One, never underestimate your opponent. Expect the unexpected. Two, take it outside. Never start anything inside the bar unless it's absolutely necessary. And three, be nice.

    From the movie..."Road House". It appears it's always best to be nice until the time comes to not be nice. When one is always nice others can take advantage of one's niceness.

    Look at the decision a mother and father made with their daughter in mind. It leads to 3 being killed all over their decision to break up their daughter with her boyfriend.

    Here's the story...Father Clings to life After Brutal Killings. In hindsight if those parents knew what their daughter was capable of they would've chosen another direction while being nice.

    Peace
    *We CAN bomb the World to pieces, but we CAN'T bomb it into PEACE*...Michael Franti

    *MUSIC IS the expression of EMOTION.....and that POLITICS IS merely the DECOY of PERCEPTION*
    .....song_Music & Politics....Michael Franti

    *The scientists of today think deeply instead of clearly. One must be sane to think clearly, but one can think deeply and be quite INSANE*....Nikola Tesla(a man who shaped our world of electricity with his futuristic inventions)


  • AnonAnon Posts: 11,175
    im sorry about your friend. you can be nice to everyone. even if they dont appreciate it or dont act the same way back to you, at least you can feel good about yourself that you did the right thing.
  • TrailerTrailer Posts: 1,431
    There are some great responses in this thread.. thank you. Yes, it is very difficult to be nice to everyone.. especially if it is not reciprocated.. but it's worth it to myself to try. The other thing that this situation has taught me is to not hold any grudges. Like Jose said, life is too short... and now that I'm getting older, this is finally starting to make sense to me.
    Whoa, chill bro... you know you can't raise your voice like that when the lion's here.
  • lukin2006lukin2006 Posts: 9,087
    josevolution wrote:
    let me be the 1st to extend my hand out for a shake that's what is all about even if i know someone from my family is wrong about something i make sure i let them know it can't come between them & me i won't let it happen ....to important to me .......damm i love "save you" sorry about your friend that really does suck ....i'm your friend :)
    Very well said, and you must be an extremely tolerant person and thats great.
    I have certain rules I live by ... My First Rule ... I don't believe anything the government tells me ... George Carlin

    "Life Is What Happens To You When Your Busy Making Other Plans" John Lennon
  • wolfbearwolfbear Posts: 3,965
    Very sorry for your loss. :( But to answer your question, I feel JOE answered it best.
    "It is possible to be nice to everyone, but don't try to please everyone...thats very difficult."
    As long as you are true to yourself you won't regret anything. You can only do what you can do. After that, it's up to the individual. Being nice is part of it though, putting yourself in others shoes and not judging. Just being there and being a friend or lending an ear when needed. :)
    "I'd rather be with an animal." "Those that can be trusted can change their mind." "The in between is mine." "If I don't lose control, explore and not explode, a preternatural other plane with the power to maintain." "Yeh this is living." "Life is what you make it."
  • MattCameronKicksButtMattCameronKicksButt Posts: 4,317
    cutback wrote:
    sorry about your friend, dude.....:(


    in answer to your ??, you can be nice to everyone....just don't expect it to be reciprocated....

    :o:D Yeah, cutback's a good example of this. Certainly online, he's nice to everyone.

    I'm sorry about your friend and I'm REALLY sorry for the parents. Losing a child is the worst thing I can think of.

    Personally, I can never be nice to everyone all the time because PMT gets in the way. :D But I try, not because it's a wasted emotion but because you trully don't know anyones mind set or if they can help the way they act. :)
    It sounds like I'm missing your point but I'm not. Sorry, I know what you mean though.
  • Sian-of-the-deadSian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    I'm sorry for your loss dude :(

    Personally, I try to get on with everyone but, like some others have mentioned, it isn't always possible with things like PMT, others people's bad manners/ignorance etc.
    I just really try to make a consious effort to apologise if i'm wrong and generally be approachable and pleasant with a sense of humour towards life and myself. It hasn't failed me so far :D
    Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...

    ... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
  • catefrancescatefrances Posts: 29,003
    NO i don't think you can be nice to everyone. and why would you want to be? some people just arent worth the effort. and sometimes it is beyond me.
    hear my name
    take a good look
    this could be the day
    hold my hand
    lie beside me
    i just need to say
  • KosmicJelliKosmicJelli Posts: 1,855
    can we define nice? I mean you gotta sometimes be mean to people cause they just dont understand any other way....


    Im always nice... in fact I "killem with kindness"
  • Heineken HelenHeineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    it's not possible... you'll wear yourself into the ground if you try. Some people you're just better off steering clear from at all costs.
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • josevolutionjosevolution Posts: 29,573
    just to keep it going i hope everyone here today enjoys the day, don't waste any energy in anger i won't do it at all, i'm here to enjoy everyone's perspective. I might not agree with everyone but i won't spew any more anger, specially if you have children i wan't them to feel me with only positive vibes yeah i get mad when they don't do their chores or what ever but at the end of the day i wan't them to know they can come to me for any discussion that is on their mind i stoop down to their level ........:)
    jesus greets me looks just like me ....
  • redrockredrock Posts: 18,341
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    it's not possible...
    Of course it is... I'm a prime example :D:D:D:D

    Joke apart.. why would you want to be nice to everyone all the time? You'll just be considered a wimp and pushover. That doesn't mean you have to be nasty, but you needn't always go out of your way to be nice, just try to be considerate and polite with as many people as you can - that's just manners. Save your 'nice' for those who are worth it.
  • TrailerTrailer Posts: 1,431
    Yeah I was in a weird state of mind yesterday.. there's no way I can keep up being nice to everyone! Some people can still fuck off as far as I'm concerned.. :D
    Whoa, chill bro... you know you can't raise your voice like that when the lion's here.
  • SENROCKSENROCK Posts: 10,736
    KosmicJelli wrote:
    can we define nice? I mean you gotta sometimes be mean to people cause they just dont understand any other way....

    hahahaha i LOVE this post!!! :D
    ~~~~~~ALWAYS HAVE A GOOD TIME~~~~~~
    Sir Mike McCready is....THE MASTER!!! WAHHH!!!
    EVENFLOW PSYCHOS H.N.I.C~FEEL THE FLOW!!!

    "Pearl Jam fans are obsessed, they'd see the boys in HELL if tickets were sold."-CROJAM95

    It takes balls to put out a UKE album!
  • SENROCKSENROCK Posts: 10,736
    Trailer wrote:
    Yeah I was in a weird state of mind yesterday.. there's no way I can keep up being nice to everyone! Some people can still fuck off as far as I'm concerned.. :D

    WOOHOOO!!!! thats the spirit!!!! :D
    ~~~~~~ALWAYS HAVE A GOOD TIME~~~~~~
    Sir Mike McCready is....THE MASTER!!! WAHHH!!!
    EVENFLOW PSYCHOS H.N.I.C~FEEL THE FLOW!!!

    "Pearl Jam fans are obsessed, they'd see the boys in HELL if tickets were sold."-CROJAM95

    It takes balls to put out a UKE album!
  • TrailerTrailer Posts: 1,431
    SENROCK! wrote:
    WOOHOOO!!!! thats the spirit!!!! :D

    haha... well atleast I tried (for one day);)

    **goes and looks for a fight**
    Whoa, chill bro... you know you can't raise your voice like that when the lion's here.
  • chiquimonkeychiquimonkey Posts: 9,337
    sorry about your friend.

    and yeah, you can be nice to everyone, just don't expect it to always be reciprocated. i've always been of the mindset of 'do unto others as you would have done unto you'.
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