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I'm so unhappy.

xSmackSoundxxSmackSoundx Posts: 479
edited October 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
I think shes slipping away... I don't know how I got to this point... but she might be gone forever... I don't know whats gonna happen... how can I be happy without her?
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  • OffHeGoes29OffHeGoes29 Posts: 1,240
    xSmackSoundx wrote:
    I think shes slipping away... I don't know how I got to this point... but she might be gone forever... I don't know whats gonna happen... how can I be happy without her?

    Oh you will, trust me. And if its taking a turn for the worst and you have no idea why......well then its out of your control and maybe a good thing for you.

    Don't rely on other people to make you happy, because you will never truly be happy. People add to your life, not define it.

    You'll get over her, thats what time, booze, and Pearl Jam is for.
    BRING BACK THE WHALE
  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    women....can't live with 'em....pass the beer nuts :)
  • SoonForgotten2SoonForgotten2 Posts: 2,245
    Mate, I dunno how old you are or how much experience you've had with women... but it always feels like you're losing your only chance at happiness. If it didn't then it means you probably weren't in love anyway.

    There's always another chance.
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  • spongersponger Posts: 3,159
    Give it your best so that you can say that you did. Otherwise, you'll wonder if you could've done more.
    reigning champion

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  • Rhinocerous SurpriseRhinocerous Surprise Posts: 4,423
    xSmackSoundx wrote:
    I think shes slipping away... I don't know how I got to this point... but she might be gone forever... I don't know whats gonna happen... how can I be happy without her?
    Here's how: if memory serves correct, you're 15/16. That gives you... at least two years to find true happiness.


    But yeah, if you're not happy by 20, give up, dude. It's over.
    Smokey Robinson constantly looks like he's trying to act natural after being accused of farting.
  • Jeremy1012Jeremy1012 Posts: 7,170
    xSmackSoundx wrote:
    I think shes slipping away... I don't know how I got to this point... but she might be gone forever... I don't know whats gonna happen... how can I be happy without her?
    This the homecoming girl? She wasn't worth it dude. Trust me. It sucks right now and you don't want to hear that from anyone but it's true. You'll look back on it one day and laugh. Probably with your arm around some lovely girl.
    "I remember one night at Muzdalifa with nothing but the sky overhead, I lay awake amid sleeping Muslim brothers and I learned that pilgrims from every land — every colour, and class, and rank; high officials and the beggar alike — all snored in the same language"
  • xSmackSoundxxSmackSoundx Posts: 479
    I've liked her since freshman year (thats 3 years)... shes been the only girl i ever thought about in the way that I do... its been a long time coming to ask her out... now that I did I totally regretted it... I wasn't ready... I was too awkward to come out of the box and be myself... she'll never know me for real... I don't think i'll get another chance
  • SoonForgotten2SoonForgotten2 Posts: 2,245
    Rhinocerous Surprise wrote:
    Here's how: if memory serves correct, you're 15/16. That gives you... at least two years to find true happiness.


    But yeah, if you're not happy by 20, give up, dude. It's over.

    16, eh? Well, if that's the case, OP, you've only just begun to taste the misery that the opposite sex can unload upon you. On the flip side of that, as good as it may have been, it gets so much better.
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  • SoonForgotten2SoonForgotten2 Posts: 2,245
    xSmackSoundx wrote:
    I've liked her since freshman year (thats 3 years)... shes been the only girl i ever thought about in the way that I do... its been a long time coming to ask her out... now that I did I totally regretted it... I wasn't ready... I was too awkward to come out of the box and be myself... she'll never know me for real... I don't think i'll get another chance

    It's her loss then. Seriously. It may seem like the end of the world, but trust me on this- I've been through all kinds of heart-break... I'm like a collector... or an addict... you'll get over it and move on.
    <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/jmgphotos/sets/72157600802942672/">My Pearl Jam Photos</a>

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  • Jeremy1012Jeremy1012 Posts: 7,170
    xSmackSoundx wrote:
    I've liked her since freshman year (thats 3 years)... shes been the only girl i ever thought about in the way that I do... its been a long time coming to ask her out... now that I did I totally regretted it... I wasn't ready... I was too awkward to come out of the box and be myself... she'll never know me for real... I don't think i'll get another chance
    Her loss. You'll get over it eventually and when you do, there's a whole world of women out there to mess you around and make you feel awesome, all at the same time. I know it sounds really patronising but at your age, this is not the be all and end all. Girls come and go. You have to be you forever so make sure you're cool with yourself and don't beat yourself up about it.
    "I remember one night at Muzdalifa with nothing but the sky overhead, I lay awake amid sleeping Muslim brothers and I learned that pilgrims from every land — every colour, and class, and rank; high officials and the beggar alike — all snored in the same language"
  • xSmackSoundxxSmackSoundx Posts: 479
    SoonForgotten2 wrote:
    It's her loss then. Seriously. It may seem like the end of the world, but trust me on this- I've been through all kinds of heart-break... I'm like a collector... or an addict... you'll get over it and move on.

    I've fell into a pattern with her... IDK if I can say I LOVE her because we never talk in that way or spend massive amounts of time together... but every time I started to spend time with her I have feelings for her, and every time i'm away I think it was just a phase... then again I have feelings for her and so on... this has happened many times... I eventually felt like it was never a phase at all and she was meant for me... then I ask her out, but IDK what it is about her... I just can't be myself.. I can never be myself... and I have a feeling if I could be myself she would like me back, but as of now she probably thinks i'm awkward and a little weird. IDK if I know exactly what love is... but if I ever felt it... it was towards her..
  • Rhinocerous SurpriseRhinocerous Surprise Posts: 4,423
    xSmackSoundx wrote:
    I've fell into a pattern with her... IDK if I can say I LOVE her because we never talk in that way or spend massive amounts of time together... but every time I started to spend time with her I have feelings for her, and every time i'm away I think it was just a phase... then again I have feelings for her and so on... this has happened many times... I eventually felt like it was never a phase at all and she was meant for me... then I ask her out, but IDK what it is about her... I just can't be myself.. I can never be myself... and I have a feeling if I could be myself she would like me back, but as of now she probably thinks i'm awkward and a little weird. IDK if I know exactly what love is... but if I ever felt it... it was towards her..
    See, the problem is you're overthinking it. If you just acted like a regular Horny Howard, you'd probably have got some action by now. Girls dig assholes.

    [/soulsinging] :p

    Also, for the record, I'm acutely aware of how weird and ugly the mental picture "girls dig assholes" conjures up is.
    Smokey Robinson constantly looks like he's trying to act natural after being accused of farting.
  • SoonForgotten2SoonForgotten2 Posts: 2,245
    xSmackSoundx wrote:
    I've fell into a pattern with her... IDK if I can say I LOVE her because we never talk in that way or spend massive amounts of time together... but every time I started to spend time with her I have feelings for her, and every time i'm away I think it was just a phase... then again I have feelings for her and so on... this has happened many times... I eventually felt like it was never a phase at all and she was meant for me... then I ask her out, but IDK what it is about her... I just can't be myself.. I can never be myself... and I have a feeling if I could be myself she would like me back, but as of now she probably thinks i'm awkward and a little weird. IDK if I know exactly what love is... but if I ever felt it... it was towards her..

    Yep, I've done the patterns thing. Look, fact is you probably are awkward. You're at an awkward age. Shit, I'm still awkward at 28. You'll grow either into it or out of it. Either way, things will get better, I promise you. There are all kinds of incredible women out there, both within reach and out. Just don't give up.
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  • xSmackSoundxxSmackSoundx Posts: 479
    Rhinocerous Surprise wrote:
    See, the problem is you're overthinking it. If you just acted like a regular Horny Howard, you'd probably have got some action by now. Girls dig assholes.

    [/soulsinging] :p

    Also, for the record, I'm acutely aware of how weird and ugly the mental picture "girls dig assholes" conjures up is.

    trust me... I am a regular "Horny Howard" lol... that's the root of my problem I just can't act like that around her... its physically impossible.. I prolly come off like a sensitive, weird, awkward nice guy... but nothing else I have none of my normal backbone or character when i'm around her...
  • SoonForgotten2SoonForgotten2 Posts: 2,245
    Rhinocerous Surprise wrote:
    Also, for the record, I'm acutely aware of how weird and ugly the mental picture "girls dig assholes" conjures up is.

    Yeah I pictured a woman wearing one of those miner hats with the light on it holding a pick-axe.

    Ouch!!
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  • Rhinocerous SurpriseRhinocerous Surprise Posts: 4,423
    xSmackSoundx wrote:
    trust me... I am a regular "Horny Howard" lol... that's the root of my problem I just can't act like that around her... its physically impossible.. I prolly come off like a sensitive, weird, awkward nice guy... but nothing else I have none of my normal backbone or character when i'm around her...
    Okay, I've been an ass so far in this thread, but seriously... That sensitive, weird, awkward nice guy is who you really are. I'm that guy too. And worse, I'm the sensitive, weird, awkward nice guy who feels compelled to make as many jokes per minute as possible as soon as he's in the company of pretty girls. So trust me when I say this: it'll work out. Just by being myself, I landed the most perfect girl I could ever have hoped for. And she loves me for being that sensitive, weird, awkward nice guy. :)
    Smokey Robinson constantly looks like he's trying to act natural after being accused of farting.
  • xSmackSoundxxSmackSoundx Posts: 479
    Rhinocerous Surprise wrote:
    Okay, I've been an ass so far in this thread, but seriously... That sensitive, weird, awkward nice guy is who you really are. I'm that guy too. And worse, I'm the sensitive, weird, awkward nice guy who feels compelled to make as many jokes per minute as possible as soon as he's in the company of pretty girls. So trust me when I say this: it'll work out. Just by being myself, I landed the most perfect girl I could ever have hoped for. And she loves me for being that sensitive, weird, awkward nice guy. :)

    But who I am with my friends and family is who I wanna be with her... I'm actually likable and hilarious... not to toot my own horn lol... I don't think she really has a good time around me...
  • PatrickBatemanPatrickBateman Posts: 2,243
    SoonForgotten2 wrote:
    16, eh? Well, if that's the case, OP, you've only just begun to taste the misery that the opposite sex can unload upon you. On the flip side of that, as good as it may have been, it gets so much better.
    X2
    If a man speaks in a forest and there is no woman around to hear him, is he still wrong?
  • Rhinocerous SurpriseRhinocerous Surprise Posts: 4,423
    xSmackSoundx wrote:
    But who I am with my friends and family is who I wanna be with her... I'm actually likable and hilarious... not to toot my own horn lol... I don't think she really has a good time around me...
    We all think we're likable and hilarious. :p The key is to find the girl you can be that guy with. If you have to force it... chances are she's not the one. So it looks like you really will be tooting your own horn for another while, guy. ;)
    Smokey Robinson constantly looks like he's trying to act natural after being accused of farting.
  • xSmackSoundxxSmackSoundx Posts: 479
    Rhinocerous Surprise wrote:
    We all think we're likable and hilarious. :p The key is to find the girl you can be that guy with. If you have to force it... chances are she's not the one. So it looks like you really will be tooting your own horn for another while, guy. ;)

    BUT I LIKE HHHHHHHHHEEEEEEEEEEEERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • gnr+pj=2bestevergnr+pj=2bestever Posts: 358
    Rhinocerous Surprise wrote:
    We all think we're likable and hilarious. :p The key is to find the girl you can be that guy with. If you have to force it... chances are she's not the one. So it looks like you really will be tooting your own horn for another while, guy. ;)


    hahahhaha good one rhino!!

    this thread is hilarious.
    Whats got the whole world faking?
  • AyedavanitaAyedavanita Posts: 1,443
    You can only do your best. If she doesn't like you back then there is someone else for you out there or the timing just isn't right. Hang in there...
    "You think I got my eyes closed but I'm lookin' at you the whole fuckin' time..."
  • Rhinocerous SurpriseRhinocerous Surprise Posts: 4,423
    xSmackSoundx wrote:
    BUT I LIKE HHHHHHHHHEEEEEEEEEEEERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Ah, to be young again. :)

    Hey, by all means, go after her with everything you've got. But this is your first crush, guy. I'm not gonna say she's definitely not the one, but odds are, you've got about 15 more of these to go through before you hit a serious relationship, and then countless more after that. Get used to the feeling.
    Smokey Robinson constantly looks like he's trying to act natural after being accused of farting.
  • SoonForgotten2SoonForgotten2 Posts: 2,245
    Rhinocerous Surprise wrote:
    Hey, by all means, go after her with everything you've got. But this is your first crush, guy. I'm not gonna say she's definitely not the one, but odds are, you've got about 15 more of these to go through before you hit a serious relationship, and then countless more after that. Get used to the feeling.

    Amen, Brotha Surprise!!
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  • Heineken HelenHeineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    Rhinocerous Surprise wrote:
    And worse, I'm the sensitive, weird, awkward nice guy who feels compelled to make as many jokes per minute as possible as soon as he's in the company of pretty girls.
    I'll take it as a compliment then that I thought you were funny :p

    To the OP... one thing most of us wish we knew at your age is that everyone's going through the same shit... everyone! Even she's probably going through it over some unobtainable asshole guy. It gets soooo much easier when you know you're not the only one!

    I know it's cliched... but people DO grow up and things change sooooooooooooooooooo much!
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • Rhinocerous SurpriseRhinocerous Surprise Posts: 4,423
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    I'll take it as a compliment then that I thought you were funny :p
    Funny looking!!!


    There I go again. :o:p
    Smokey Robinson constantly looks like he's trying to act natural after being accused of farting.
  • geniegenie Posts: 2,222
    OffHeGoes29 wrote:
    Don't rely on other people to make you happy, because you will never truly be happy. People add to your life, not define it.

    That's the problem i've got, people is my drug, no alcohol or weed is more addictive than someone with a strong personality. I really do seem to get high of certain people
  • Sian-of-the-deadSian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    Rhinocerous Surprise wrote:
    See, the problem is you're overthinking it. If you just acted like a regular Horny Howard, you'd probably have got some action by now. Girls dig assholes.

    [/soulsinging] :p
    Best. Post. Ever. :D
    Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...

    ... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
  • Rhinocerous SurpriseRhinocerous Surprise Posts: 4,423
    Sian-of-the-dead wrote:
    Best. Post. Ever. :D
    If I could have one wish, it'd be that "Horny Howard" becomes a part of everyone's everyday vocabulary. :p
    Smokey Robinson constantly looks like he's trying to act natural after being accused of farting.
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