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You know when you have tried everything in your power to deal with awkward people and situations, but it still blows up in your face? thats where im at right now.
basically, my dad has never accepted my boyfriend, in spite of my bfs best efforts, in the three years we have been together. I am in a really tough spot career wise, working up to 14 hour days, five days a week and dealing with unimaginable scenarios. So, me being tired and stressed out all the time is apparenty all my bfs fault and nothing to do with how hard im working, of which there is no acknowledgement. (parents never really been on board with my career, and its out of their remit anyhow, not their fault but they just dont get it at all-im a trainee teacher)
so im at my bfs now, where there are people who show a little faith in me and are proud of what I am trying to do, showing support. having half my stuff spread all over the place is a little nuts, but i can put up with that,. i cant put up with being made to feel worthless and my bf being slagged off when we have done nothing wrong, other than, shock horror! I stayed at his place fri night!!!
basically, my dad has never accepted my boyfriend, in spite of my bfs best efforts, in the three years we have been together. I am in a really tough spot career wise, working up to 14 hour days, five days a week and dealing with unimaginable scenarios. So, me being tired and stressed out all the time is apparenty all my bfs fault and nothing to do with how hard im working, of which there is no acknowledgement. (parents never really been on board with my career, and its out of their remit anyhow, not their fault but they just dont get it at all-im a trainee teacher)
so im at my bfs now, where there are people who show a little faith in me and are proud of what I am trying to do, showing support. having half my stuff spread all over the place is a little nuts, but i can put up with that,. i cant put up with being made to feel worthless and my bf being slagged off when we have done nothing wrong, other than, shock horror! I stayed at his place fri night!!!
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Be glad that the future looks bright. Likely, work will take less of your time once your training is over
I had similar experience when I was in my late teens.Dad was furious I wanted to and could go to uni.My dad came from nothing and thought that to want more was "ideas above your station"!He also refused to let my bf in the house.(He was right there though,he turned out to be an arse,but I had to find that out for myself) It was a hard slog but they learned to let me make decisions right or wrong.Give it time,you are doing a great thing planning your career and have the support of your bf's family.Let your family get to know your bf and stick to your plans.They are probably very proud of you and want the best but probably freaking out a little at the changes you are making in your life that they have no control over.Probably up till recently they made most of the decisions on what you could do.Its now your rightfull turn.
nice to know that ur not alone.
My bf is great friends with my lil bro and my mum likes him, but my dad just doesnt try, its sad but its his choice to accept the situation at the end of the day and if he doesnt, it will affect his relationship with me, again, its up to him now.