biggest sacrifice you've had to make in your life.

Drop The Leash 10

im young, mine is pretty minor. in early winter last year, i sacrificed my girlfriend and best friend for self dignity.


what about you people???

Cree Nations

Drop The Leash 10 wrote:

im young, mine is pretty minor.


what about you people???

im in the process of one right now. I have a real good job and I am leaving it for another good in the city so that me and my fiancee can start our life. It was a real tough decision but in the end, I made the right choice and everything is falling into place.

eyedclaar

I sacrificed 5 years of my life while married to my first wife. I want that time back now please...

StateOfLoveBoatCptn.

Although mine is exciting to an extent, I feel its the biggest one I've ever had to make. I'm leaving all my friends and family that is near to me, to move to TX for a job, where I know no-one, except for a few people I'll be working with that I met a few weeks back. I've lived where I am my entire life, so yeah, I'm walking away from a lot here. But at the same time I'm welcoming this change. Bittersweet.

urbanhippie

eyedclaar wrote:

I sacrificed 5 years of my life while married to my first wife. I want that time back now please...

My first marriage was 15 years...


I'd be lying if I said it was all time wasted. How about 50/50?

Touchofgray16

eyedclaar wrote:

I sacrificed 5 years of my life while married to my first wife. I want that time back now please...

I sacrificed my high school education to care for a sick Mom ( way back when). I've since obtained a Bachelor's degree in social work.

I just re-read my post and laughed. Social work, well, what else would I be doing, but helping others. It's always about "others" and that is why I am selfish when it comes to my PJ time.

decides2dream

i've never *had* to sacrifice anything. any of the choices i have made were my choices to make, i never viewed any of them really as 'sacrifices.' per se. sure, perhaps if i weren't married young i might've made different decisions at times, but i always looked at the 'greater good' of our relationship. so thankfully, really no sacrifices. also, pretty lucky i lived a LOT before marriage, and even afterwards....even studied abroad again after marriage, traveled solo, etc. perhaps the 'biggest sacrifice' would be living without my husband for 2 months b/c he wanted a new career direction and it required study away. again tho, i never really saw any of it as sacrifice. so yea...i am rambling......hahaha.......


*edit - reading the post above, hmmmm...yea, i guess i did sacrifice a lot of my time in college when my dad was ill, arranging his care, taking him to doctor's appointments, etc. i never really thought of it like that before, but it was a pretty big burden as a young woman. i'd do it again in a heartbeat though.

SoonForgotten2

Self-respect while searching for happiness.

(Well, not to say that I had to make such a sacrifice, but that's what has happened and I hate the fact)

markymark550

I haven't really had to make any big sacrifices, so I consider myself to be lucky in that regard. I guess it would be career related, but since the outcome was me staying with the woman who would become my wife, I don't really consider it a sacrifice at all.

saveuplife

I sacraficed much of my college life and early twenties for a girl. I dated her for 7 years. She was from out of town, so my family took her under their wing. Throughout this period, when all of my friends were sewing their wild oats... I was in a relationship. Was it my choice? You bet.

I don't know if this classifies as a sacrafice, but it feels like one now. Obviously, our relationship didn't work out. I had opportunities to date and get to know a bunch of other people while dating her, But, I didn't because I was committed. Anyway, that was probably a mistake.

But, I don't know if I'd go back and change it. Who knows who I would be today.

CityMouse

decides2dream wrote:

i've never *had* to sacrifice anything. any of the choices i have made were my choices to make, i never viewed any of them really as 'sacrifices.' per se.

I see it pretty much the same way, so I'm having a hard time thinking of "sacrifices." I did live with my parents for a while in my early 20s, which I sort of view as a sacrifice now. I sacrificed a lot of my time, independence, sanity...and I'm not sure what for-to please my family I guess.

working in jobs I've never really enjoyed is also sort of an on-going sacrifice I guess.

GraySaturday

I sacrificed all of my friends to move to Chicago.

I had so many friends in college and highschool and I had to leave them all behind to move to Chicago.

I love my friends dearly and still stay in contact with most of them, but it was worth it. I adore Chicago. I wish I could have had both but, hey... Life in the chi is good

curmudgeoness

I left Seattle to spend three years in a s---hole of a city for my husband's job.

I quit my work/career to care for and homeschool a special-needs child who was refused an education by the schools. I have been doing that for seven years.

Given the horror and misery that exist all over the world, I guess I should consider myself lucky that these are the biggest sacrifices I have had to make.

GraySaturday

oh I also had to sacrifice my 6+ beer a day habit to get into shape.


Can't say I miss it.

decides2dream

CityMouse wrote:

I see it pretty much the same way, so I'm having a hard time thinking of "sacrifices." I did live with my parents for a while in my early 20s, which I sort of view as a sacrifice now. I sacrificed a lot of my time, independence, sanity...and I'm not sure what for-to please my family I guess.

working in jobs I've never really enjoyed is also sort of an on-going sacrifice I guess.

exactly.

i look at it all that in the end, brought me so much more that i just don't consider em sacrifices really. even work related. the fact that i have a job and make good $$$, etc.....i look at all what that adds to my life. then again, i like my job well enough, but certainly not ever what i 'dreamed' of doing. i've done things i've dreamed of, and this is just more suitable, financially and time-wise. however, i see it as a trade-off and not much of one really. balancing life priorities. actually, i think most come off as trade-offs than sacrifices. all choices.




now the post above, yes...while sure, the location a trade-off, the home-schooling with no choice, a definite sacrifice. good for you for doing right by your child! kudos!

Touchofgray16

decides2dream wrote:

*edit - reading the post above, hmmmm...yea, i guess i did sacrifice a lot of my time in college when my dad was ill, arranging his care, taking him to doctor's appointments, etc. i never really thought of it like that before, but it was a pretty big burden as a young woman. i'd do it again in a heartbeat though.

Me, too.

SENROCK

Drop The Leash 10 wrote:

im young, mine is pretty minor.


what about you people???

Shouldnt you have listed YOUR biggest sacrifice in here?

Rhinocerous Surprise

My sanity for some fun.

decides2dream

Touchofgray16 wrote:

Me, too.

exactly.

thus why really i see most of these types of things as trade-offs as opposed to actual sacrifices. sure, i get that they can be viewed as sacrifices, some of em anyway.....just perspective eh?

i am an optimist.


i can go off and rant and rage with the best of em, but at the end of the day....i usually see the good.

urbanhippie

Rhinocerous Surprise wrote:

My sanity for some fun.

Small loss

Rhinocerous Surprise

urbanhippie wrote:

Small loss

Hey... don't mock the guy who's making you a comic.

Black Diamond

See the "Just got my vasectomy 3 days ago ..." post below for my answer

CityMouse

I guess I also made some sacrifices last year to be in a relationship. I don't regret the relationship, but I regret some of the sacrifices, if that makes any sense-because I'm still stuck with reprocussions even though the relationship is long gone.

SENROCK

GraySaturday wrote:

Life in the chi is good

dammit Gray!!!

patrickredeyes

Leaving Denver/happyness so I can be with my dad who is ill here in Wisconsin.

Denver will always be there but my dad won't always be. It was a easy but tough choice.

Touchofgray16

decides2dream wrote:

exactly.

thus why really i see most of these types of things as trade-offs as opposed to actual sacrifices. sure, i get that they can be viewed as sacrifices, some of em anyway.....just perspective eh?

i am an optimist.


i can go off and rant and rage with the best of em, but at the end of the day....i usually see the good.

I hear ya and that is why I actually looked up the meaning of sacrifice because I didn't see it that way, either. But then I read this from the Answer website:

Sacrifice: Forfeiture of something highly valued for the sake of one considered to have a greater value or claim.

Spending the time with Mom during the last few months of her short life was of greater value than a high school edumacation.

And, Hi M - this is Ronnie. We met on the 10c ticket line for MSG night 1 last month. Then again in McGarry's. I will see you next week on night 2.

Drop The Leash 10

SENROCK! wrote:

Shouldnt you have listed YOUR biggest sacrifice in here?

fine, ill edit it now.

JOEJOEJOE

I once sacrificed a goat to soothe the anger of the gods.

But seriously, I've sacrificed some professional success so that I could remain true to myself and deal with the sort of clients I currently represent.

decides2dream

Touchofgray16 wrote:

I hear ya and that is why I actually looked up the meaning of sacrifice because I didn't see it that way, either. But then I read this from the Answer website:

Sacrifice: Forfeiture of something highly valued for the sake of one considered to have a greater value or claim.

Spending the time with Mom during the last few months of her short life was of greater value than a high school edumacation.

And, Hi M - this is Ronnie. We met on the 10c ticket line for MSG night 1 last month. Then again in McGarry's. I will see you next week on night 2.

i guess i always see sacrifice in bibilical terms, hahahahaha. abraham sacrificing his son, people offering up goats in pagan rituals, etc. ha. so to me it always carries a negative connotation. but absoutely, you are right! i guess i just can't warm up to the word in a positive light. damn upbringing.


and hey there! good to see you. and very cool on night 2, most definitely see you there!


i'll be 'sacrificing' a night home with hubby to see ed on my own.
what a sacrifice!

Brain of J.Lo

Drop The Leash 10 wrote:

im young, mine is pretty minor. in early winter last year, i sacrificed my girlfriend and best friend for self dignity.


what about you people???

My husband and I left a city that we loved so that I could continue being a stay-at-home mom, and so that there would be more family for her to grow up with.

Also, I left my career just as it was really picking up steam to stay home with the kiddo. I'm sure that if I end up going back to the same career, I will have set myself back pretty far. Oh well. Edited to add: that's sort of not really a sacrifice, though....because I definitely did it for myself as much as I did it for her. I know she would have been fine in daycare and if I have another baby, that one might go to daycare out of necessity.)

Jeremy1012

I sacrificed my happiness and self-respect for a person I cared deeply about who, at the time, showed themself unwilling to repay the favour.

It took a long time to right that situation in my mind.

But i'm young, it's nothing that major.