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Divorce at this time of year...

BridgeBitchBridgeBitch Posts: 87
edited January 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
I was listening to the radio the other day and there were discussing that this time of year has the highest rate of divorce. They were even able to pin it down to a day, January 7th, that is the actual day with the most divorces filed.

After reading the boards for the last few days I find it interesting that those statistics are definitely reflected here. I think I've seen at least 4 threads from people who have just split up and are getting divorced since the new year.

The theory is that for some reason the Holidays seem to bring to the front all the things that people have been stewing about and this finally drives them to that final decision.

My question is, what do you think it is about the Holidays, particularly, that does this?
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  • harmless_little_f***harmless_little_f*** Posts: 8,005
    I don't know but I think you're right. Something's pretty weird about the holidays this year.
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  • mookie9999mookie9999 Posts: 4,677
    BridgeBitch wrote:

    My question is, what do you think it is about the Holidays, particularly, that does this?

    In-Laws. You usually don't like them but put up with them for the sake of your mate. Once that relationship is on the rocks the time machine taking you to twenty years down the road is sitting right in front of you on your couch working on their 15th egg nog and it's only 10:30 a.m. Or it could be they just hate the colors of the season. What do I know?
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  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    holidays....the new year (resolutions, starting anew) and i think the weather.....short days, cold, gray skies.....



    btw...i'm not a doctor.....and either is dr phil but he plays one on tv.....;)
  • HawkshoreHawkshore Posts: 2,160
    BridgeBitch wrote:
    I was listening to the radio the other day and there were discussing that this time of year has the highest rate of divorce. They were even able to pin it down to a day, January 7th, that is the actual day with the most divorces filed.

    After reading the boards for the last few days I find it interesting that those statistics are definitely reflected here. I think I've seen at least 4 threads from people who have just split up and are getting divorced since the new year.

    The theory is that for some reason the Holidays seem to bring to the front all the things that people have been stewing about and this finally drives them to that final decision.

    My question is, what do you think it is about the Holidays, particularly, that does this?

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  • LizardLizard So Cal Posts: 12,091
    The theory I heard is that people thought of it BEFORE but did not want to ruin the holidays so once they are over, they're outta there!
    So I'll just lie down and wait for the dream
    Where I'm not ugly and you're lookin' at me
  • justamjustam Posts: 21,412
    Lizard wrote:
    The theory I heard is that people thought of it BEFORE but did not want to ruin the holidays so once they are over, they're outta there!

    Yeah, my mom did this to one of her husbands. :p
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  • harmless_little_f***harmless_little_f*** Posts: 8,005
    Lizard wrote:
    The theory I heard is that people thought of it BEFORE but did not want to ruin the holidays so once they are over, they're outta there!

    Mine didn't think about what my Christmas was gonna be like.. She just got it out the way, and then went to buy a Christmas tree. OK the Christmas tree part isn't true...
    'We're learning songs for baby Jesus' birthday. His mum and dad were Merry and Joseph. He had a bed made of clay and the three kings bought him Gold, Frankenstein and Merv as presents.'

    - the great Sir Leo Harrison
  • vital5vital5 Posts: 5,486
    BridgeBitch wrote:
    I was listening to the radio the other day and there were discussing that this time of year has the highest rate of divorce. They were even able to pin it down to a day, January 7th, that is the actual day with the most divorces filed.

    After reading the boards for the last few days I find it interesting that those statistics are definitely reflected here. I think I've seen at least 4 threads from people who have just split up and are getting divorced since the new year.

    The theory is that for some reason the Holidays seem to bring to the front all the things that people have been stewing about and this finally drives them to that final decision.

    My question is, what do you think it is about the Holidays, particularly, that does this?
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  • Stone Is GodStone Is God Posts: 1,331
    It's the holiday's that bring out the negative in people. Everyone gets sunk into debt and it takes their tax returns (if they're lucky enough to get one) to bail them out of the hole. Most of these people probably come from 'middle class' America like most of us on this board. Living pay check to pay check and trying to pay a morgage that's half your monthly net pay along with buying presents for people that you barely know is stressful.

    Life is a struggle and when you turn on someone who is supposed to be your partner or vice versa it will bring up all the things that people have been harboring. It seems to manifest when one person feels that the other is not pulling their weight.

    I really hate the holiday's. I think losing one of my close family members around that time kind of killed it for me. There is no joy during the family dinners. The running and the hastle of that time of the year is enough to drive anyone mad.

    Holidays are supposed to be a time to enjoy the company of loved ones and appriciate what you have in life, not to try and buy the greatest material thing you can for a loved one or your significant other.

    I'm not married or even attached but I see what many of my friends, who are attached, go through and it has absolutley no appeal to me.

    I'm not really this bitter, it's just my POV on the time of the year.
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  • Brain of J.LoBrain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    Lizard wrote:
    The theory I heard is that people thought of it BEFORE but did not want to ruin the holidays so once they are over, they're outta there!

    Yeah, I did that once. :o It wasn't a divorce, but it was a breakup. I felt like doing it right before the holidays would be extra mean or something.
  • brain of cbrain of c Posts: 5,213
    it's the only new years resolution that sticks.......
    d'oh!!!!!!

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  • RolandTD20KdrummerRolandTD20Kdrummer Posts: 13,066
    People hold grudges over crappy Christmas presents

    Having to pretend you like a shitty gift kills a little bit of your soul each day... :D

    edit: that and gaining extra weight over the holidays...hehe takes the edge off the sex.
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  • memememe Posts: 4,695
    mookie9999 wrote:
    In-Laws. You usually don't like them but put up with them for the sake of your mate. Once that relationship is on the rocks the time machine taking you to twenty years down the road is sitting right in front of you on your couch working on their 15th egg nog and it's only 10:30 a.m. Or it could be they just hate the colors of the season. What do I know?

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  • BridgeBitchBridgeBitch Posts: 87
    So, let's see...

    Crappy Presents
    Getting to see what your wife/husband will look like in 30 years
    Not wanting to ruin the holiday
    Money stress

    Yeah, I could see how all these would add up...
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  • SpunkieSpunkie i come from downtown. Posts: 6,732
    Out with the old in with the new.
  • FnCircusFnCircus Posts: 439
    BridgeBitch wrote:
    They were even able to pin it down to a day, January 7th, that is the actual day with the most divorces filed.
    Well "they" must have been talking to my ex, cause that's the day I was served with the papers............

    but I am a better man because of it. :D
  • BridgeBitchBridgeBitch Posts: 87
    F'n_Circus wrote:
    Well "they" must have been talking to my ex, cause that's the day I was served with the papers............

    but I am a better man because of it. :D

    Yes, yes you are :D
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  • eyedclaareyedclaar Posts: 6,980
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  • decides2dreamdecides2dream Posts: 14,977
    tish wrote:
    Out with the old in with the new.




    hahaha...this made me laugh. :D



    i think the holidays just amplify everything, although i highly doubt the idea to divorce just springs up, just like that, over the holidays and one files for divorce as of january 7th. more than likely, i think it's something that has been festering a good loooooooonnnnngggg time, and thinking ahead to the holidays a spouse may think, damn, i do NOT want another year to go by living like this! however, also don't want to forever associate the holiday season with your divorce, so go thru one last holiday season...try to keep it pleasant so as not to infect future memories, perhaps even hope to make it nice, one last pleasant memory of the marriage? and then sure, file for divorce in january b/c the time is NOW. just my thoughts on it. :p
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  • CollinCollin Posts: 4,931
    My parents divorced a couple of years ago on January 8th. They're always late :D
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