absolutely!
6 weeks in prague....2 weeks....2x...in europe to see pearl jam.........:D it's all good! hubby has his fishing trips, etc......all about balance.
6 weeks wow.
my wife heads out to japan with the little ones for a month every summer.
That is tough.
But a week here, a weekend there, nights out with separate friends, and we are always glad to be home together.
That and my wife knows hows to bribe me to let her do whatever she wants.
6 weeks wow.
my wife heads out to japan with the little ones for a month every summer.
That is tough.
But a week here, a weekend there, nights out with separate friends, and we are always glad to be home together.
That and my wife knows hows to bribe me to let her do whatever she wants.
well it was only once.
besides, errrrrrrrrrrr 21 years ago when we first started dating, he knew that within 3 months i was planning on studying abroad for a year. he still wanted to date, so he knew what he was getting into.
well i think the longer you're together as a couple, the more time you need apart. haha. not really, but yes...i think it is essential to a healthy relationship, and most definitely some people need more time on their own than others. it's all about finding that balance.
i know for us, during the workweek, we usually commute on the train together and spend most evenings together. doesn't mean every moment, but we do try to have dinner together, maybe watch a movie, etc. weekends, saturday nights are ALWAYS *our night*....but the rest of the weekend entirely up for grabs whether joint or solo activities. and sure, band practice nights are perfect for shopping, or a little extra time here, whatever...:p
That sounds nice Yeah - definitely balance is key...and finding things you DO enjoy together...and as life gets busier it is important to find time that you can set aside just for the 2 of you.
Well since this thread was posted he has apologised to me for getting jealous.
So thats good, I said I was sorry if her felt like I was ignoring him, as thats the LAST thing I would want him to feel!
Saying that, he gets jealous if I spend too much time talking or patting the cat :eek: soooo......maybe this thing is just going to continue???
And ive also decided to post more when hes not here, when he is home I will limit the time on here. But geez, its hard not to just "quickly" come on here and see whats happening!!!
"....and was very surprised to see that he didnt actually have a recipe for anus-ankle soup." - Big Ed
I have this vision of him holding a modem up in the air while you jump up and down trying to retrieve it! It's a slow night here in Cali, sorry!
No, he just hides it and if I started rummaging around for it and shouting, I'd be behaving like a stroppy teenager but I'm a parent now. That's what I mean about not being able to do anything about it. I don't know how much longer I can put up with all this though. I'm a more than reasonable person but it's turning me into something I'm not. Angry, miserable bitch. Men just drive me to distraction. Not you though, Mookie.
...he is shitty with me being on here because he thinks im ignoring him!
Which, im not really, I try and involve him in the subject matter and tell him about things that are posted here...but he is not interested!!!! :eek:
Any one else in this situation???
Its bloody annoying!!!
Let the brotha hit it from behind when you're online. Problem solved.
Let the brotha hit it from behind when you're online. Problem solved.
yeah but you allow that and you find yourself having to make too many spelling corrections. it's just a pain to have to concentrate on two things at once.
hear my name
take a good look
this could be the day
hold my hand
lie beside me
i just need to say
yep, this is gonna continue, you're not kidding about him getting jealous if you talk or pat the cat?
get the hell out off there.......seriously....
and the getting to bed at the same time as him was enough for me, let alone this!!!!!
I agree, Linda 100%. At a point in my life I might have thought all of that control stuff was just the guy liking you/loving you a lot, but now at this point in my time and myself, I would not want to be so violated.
And, although it may not be true in every case, in my view, it is a bit too much.
Baby, You Wouldn't Last a Minute on The Creek......
Together we will float like angels.........
In the moment that you left the room, the album started skipping, goodbye to beauty shared with the ones that you love.........
Well since this thread was posted he has apologised to me for getting jealous.
So thats good, I said I was sorry if her felt like I was ignoring him, as thats the LAST thing I would want him to feel!
Saying that, he gets jealous if I spend too much time talking or patting the cat :eek: soooo......maybe this thing is just going to continue???
And ive also decided to post more when hes not here, when he is home I will limit the time on here. But geez, its hard not to just "quickly" come on here and see whats happening!!!
do you give him enough physical attention, whether sexual or just sweet affection? seriously, we ALL need to be *touched* by our significant others, and often. again, it's not all about sex, but *connecting* too...and sometimes w/o even relizing it, that does wane. i do believe jealousy of a pet, being online, whatever...is very often a manifestation of not feeling enough love/touch time. cuddle on the couch, even quick kisses more, bit of a neck massage, quick hug in the kitchen, etc...incorporate more touching, and i bet he'll feel a lot less jealous, if at all, of you giving your attnetion elsehere......whether the cat ...or online.
Guilt is like a self inflicted gun shot wound. It's not anyone else's fault when you feel it and it should be saved for a time when you really mean it. If you're being bitched at, that's one thing, but the guilt that you feel as a result is all on you. You might want to explore that emotion a little more deeply and see if you feel the guilt because you know your actions are wrong for your relationship, or if you feel guilty because you're tired of your husband and really don't want to be in the relationship anymore, or both. If you are unhappy, you should figure out if you can mend your probs with hubby before it's too late, or consider what it would take to move on and start getting that in order. I don't want to come across as knowing anything about you, nor do I want to push anything down your throat, put you on the defensive or otherwise manipulate a perfect stranger, but as little as you've said here would indicate to me that there are more serious problems brewing in your camp than you may realize. Take it seriously and take the time to talk to your husband about how you feel, even if it makes him uncomfortable. Give each other ideas about what you would like and find common ground to learn to share.... AND, just as importantly, enjoy your time apart from eachother enjoying the interests that you do not share.
I wish the best to any of you who have read this and are having such a problem.
Peace
Sue
EDIT: Sorry (I edit all the time) but I just had a very simple idea on how to sum up everything I said above.. If you don't water the flowers, they'll die.
do you give him enough physical attention, whether sexual or just sweet affection? seriously, we ALL need to be *touched* by our significant others, and often. again, it's not all about sex, but *connecting* too...and sometimes w/o even relizing it, that does wane. i do believe jealousy of a pet, being online, whatever...is very often a manifestation of not feeling enough love/touch time. cuddle on the couch, even quick kisses more, bit of a neck massage, quick hug in the kitchen, etc...incorporate more touching, and i bet he'll feel a lot less jealous, if at all, of you giving your attnetion elsehere......whether the cat ...or online.
just a thought.
Exactly. Context is important here. It's probably less about petting a cat and more about being ignored while the cat gets all of the attention and people on the internet get all the conversation.
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6 weeks wow.
my wife heads out to japan with the little ones for a month every summer.
That is tough.
But a week here, a weekend there, nights out with separate friends, and we are always glad to be home together.
That and my wife knows hows to bribe me to let her do whatever she wants.
well it was only once.
besides, errrrrrrrrrrr 21 years ago when we first started dating, he knew that within 3 months i was planning on studying abroad for a year. he still wanted to date, so he knew what he was getting into.
smart woman.
and....exactly.
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
So thats good, I said I was sorry if her felt like I was ignoring him, as thats the LAST thing I would want him to feel!
Saying that, he gets jealous if I spend too much time talking or patting the cat :eek: soooo......maybe this thing is just going to continue???
And ive also decided to post more when hes not here, when he is home I will limit the time on here. But geez, its hard not to just "quickly" come on here and see whats happening!!!
No, he just hides it and if I started rummaging around for it and shouting, I'd be behaving like a stroppy teenager but I'm a parent now. That's what I mean about not being able to do anything about it. I don't know how much longer I can put up with all this though. I'm a more than reasonable person but it's turning me into something I'm not. Angry, miserable bitch. Men just drive me to distraction. Not you though, Mookie.
Let the brotha hit it from behind when you're online. Problem solved.
yeah but you allow that and you find yourself having to make too many spelling corrections. it's just a pain to have to concentrate on two things at once.
take a good look
this could be the day
hold my hand
lie beside me
i just need to say
EV- 08/09,10/2008.06/08,09/2009
yep, this is gonna continue, you're not kidding about him getting jealous if you talk or pat the cat?
get the hell out off there.......seriously....
and the getting to bed at the same time as him was enough for me, let alone this!!!!!
don't marry a non PJ fan...........just don't
Together we will float like angels.........
In the moment that you left the room, the album started skipping, goodbye to beauty shared with the ones that you love.........
I agree, Linda 100%. At a point in my life I might have thought all of that control stuff was just the guy liking you/loving you a lot, but now at this point in my time and myself, I would not want to be so violated.
And, although it may not be true in every case, in my view, it is a bit too much.
Together we will float like angels.........
In the moment that you left the room, the album started skipping, goodbye to beauty shared with the ones that you love.........
do you give him enough physical attention, whether sexual or just sweet affection? seriously, we ALL need to be *touched* by our significant others, and often. again, it's not all about sex, but *connecting* too...and sometimes w/o even relizing it, that does wane. i do believe jealousy of a pet, being online, whatever...is very often a manifestation of not feeling enough love/touch time. cuddle on the couch, even quick kisses more, bit of a neck massage, quick hug in the kitchen, etc...incorporate more touching, and i bet he'll feel a lot less jealous, if at all, of you giving your attnetion elsehere......whether the cat
just a thought.
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
I wish the best to any of you who have read this and are having such a problem.
Peace
Sue
EDIT: Sorry (I edit all the time) but I just had a very simple idea on how to sum up everything I said above.. If you don't water the flowers, they'll die.
Peace again and out
Exactly. Context is important here. It's probably less about petting a cat and more about being ignored while the cat gets all of the attention and people on the internet get all the conversation.
very nice....:p
"What a stupid lamb."
"What a sick, masochistic lion."