I fucked my life up, now I'm paying for it.

pjfan31pjfan31 Posts: 7,334
edited February 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
Edit: Fuck, wrong thread sorry guys. Just another fuck up on my part lol...

So when I was at school(finished 5 years ago), I fucked up. I didn't take maths in year 11 or 12, didn't study just went to far too many parties and mucked around in school. As a result my U.A.I (universities admissions index)/my final mark was shit. To put it simply I just didn't know what I wanted to do in my life.

Education wasn't for me, and I had a job, just at a supermarket. I got offered a pretty big carrot there to train to become a store manager (in excess of $100,000) per year and my boss was saying "you don't need an education, I can see your potential"

This carrot was big enough for me to pursue when I realised that I didn't want to spend my life there, I dropped the training thing and then started looking for a course to do. I wanted to become a sports journalist at the time, and had a meeting with the head of Sky sports in Australia, he told me once I get in the course call him and he will put me on. I had to work weekends.

I was thinking,"fuck I'm only 19 I'm still going to go out and get pissed on the weekends" In the days where that was my life, going out with mates getting drunk.

I got into the course, I never called him. Halfway through this journalism course my path in life became clear, I was to become a primary school teacher. I love kids and I had been working in before and after school care, looking after kids aged between 5 and 12. It was/is/* great, and I truly believe that this is my calling.

I finished my course(no point leaving half way through) and passed everything, and I did quite well.

I applied for 3 Uni's. I recently have got letter's back saying that my results when I was at school are no good and I should of done maths in year 11 and 12 (no words can express my regret of not doing it). The only uni for memory that you don't need maths for was a good 4 or 45 hours away from where I live, and I'm not prepared to move there. However I can do part of the course at a private college which costs $14, 000 a year. Which I just can't afford.

I am quite depressed at the fact that I am now 5 years out of school, I know what I want to do, but they won't let me because of my past. I am so focused on this being my career, and they are taking it away from me.

I know that there are ways around it, but that will probably mean I will have to apply next year and whose to say that I won't get the same response....

These days I have matured, I only go out about once a month on the sauce, I work long hours, I have the commitment.

How can anyone gain from their fuck ups when someone won't even give you a chance?

I know there are so many people worse off then me, but it still sucks.

Any jammers have any positive stories to help get me out of my rut???

Cheers.
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  • brainofPJbrainofPJ Posts: 2,361
    i couldnt read it all because it blurry...eyes.


    the wrong thing do do which i will now is tell you that i am now deeper in dept than how much i make a year,,,,,,alot.

    it seems like people i know all my life have been geting breaks...people giving them chances..

    never got any out of school and it sucls.

    keep your head up man....sorry but its what i got right now.

    persavere.


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  • redrockredrock Posts: 18,341
    Can you not just gain the qualifications you missed out on? Here in the UK, it's never too late to go back and study and do the exams you were meant to do when you were younger (16 or 18).
  • pjfan31pjfan31 Posts: 7,334
    redrock wrote:
    Can you not just gain the qualifications you missed out on? Here in the UK, it's never too late to go back and study and do the exams you were meant to do when you were younger (16 or 18).


    Yeh you can, problem is the timing of them/location. I'm looking in to it, but it will definatley mean getting out of at least one of my jobs (which i'm looking to do anyway) and because of the location, it will effect my other job travelling wise. I will have to do it, not looking forward to it thats for sure.
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  • danedane Posts: 1,062
    I know what it's like. When I was 18, I knew excactly what I wanted to become. A firefighter/EMT. But they wouldnt let me. So I started taking other educations, that's kinda related. I eventually became volunteer firefighter and that helped me get a job as an Airport firefighter. 10 years and 5 applications had passed, so I decided to try one last time. This time it worked! Started my education in may and 2 years from now I'l be a fully trained EMT.
    I know you can't work your way in to school, the way I did. Seems like they are very focused on this math thing. But keep trying. Try to get a job that's related. Maybe do some volunteer work. Take the remaining math courses. Think again about moving to the uni, where you can get in. Apply next year and the year after that. Basically hang in there. Don't let the fuckers get you down!
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  • omg dude.
    i have no good advice for your currnet situation. but i do have elder adivce(SP?)
    your still young, 20 ish right? im 28, going to be 29 in march.
    when i wa in high school, in shop class. my teacher told me i have a gift for what i do. working with steel etc..
    back when i was in high school, when the econmy(SP?) drinking btw!
    back when thigs were good, at the level im at now in my trade i should be making at leat $35-37/hr
    i make $20.
    pay attention, do all your homework(sounds gay i know)
    and get good marks. keep going furrther. excell at what you can do best.

    all in all, if i could go back, i would in a heart beat. id be a nurse or a dr.
    something that everyone is gonna need no matter what.
    pay attention. you have many many years to party and fuck up. fuck up at least for the night, then resume your normal life. the life that is gonna give you happiness.
    because trust me, bouncing your mprtgage payments, house insurance and life insurance, will cause you a lot of stress you dont need.




    go to school!!!!!!!

    word!
    Just, not enough.
    I need more.
    Nothing seems to satisfy.
    I said, I dont want it.
    I just need it.
    To breathe, to feel, to know Im alive.
  • I know in our Uni in Newcastle australia that you can do somthing called open foundation. this course helps you bridge across whatever lack of education you have to what the Uni requires to enter a course. check it out http://www.newcastle.edu.au/centre/elfsc/open/
    Maybe ther is a way to bridge where you are
    best of luck
    Its never to late, some in these courses are in their 40s'and 50's.
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  • redrockredrock Posts: 18,341
    pjfan31 wrote:
    Yeh you can, problem is the timing of them/location. I'm looking in to it, but it will definatley mean getting out of at least one of my jobs (which i'm looking to do anyway) and because of the location, it will effect my other job travelling wise. I will have to do it, not looking forward to it thats for sure.
    A pain in the butt now, but it will be well worth it. You already learned the hard way what happens if you don't have those qualifications people want.

    It's a shame we don't have 'adult' wisdom and foresight when we are teens, but you are still very young - now is the time to sort yourself out!
  • haffajappahaffajappa Posts: 5,955
    omg dude.
    i have no good advice for your currnet situation. but i do have elder adivce(SP?)
    your still young, 20 ish right? im 28, going to be 29 in march.
    when i wa in high school, in shop class. my teacher told me i have a gift for what i do. working with steel etc..
    back when i was in high school, when the econmy(SP?) drinking btw!
    back when thigs were good, at the level im at now in my trade i should be making at leat $35-37/hr
    i make $20.
    pay attention, do all your homework(sounds gay i know)
    and get good marks. keep going furrther. excell at what you can do best.

    all in all, if i could go back, i would in a heart beat. id be a nurse or a dr.
    something that everyone is gonna need no matter what.
    pay attention. you have many many years to party and fuck up. fuck up at least for the night, then resume your normal life. the life that is gonna give you happiness.
    because trust me, bouncing your mprtgage payments, house insurance and life insurance, will cause you a lot of stress you dont need.




    go to school!!!!!!!

    word!
    you should move to the west coast, as far as i know, trades is where its at right now. industry is crying for people... actually my uni is building a new campus specifically for trades, only they can't finish it because in a big twist of irony, they're arent enough trades people to build it.
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  • you should move to the west coast, as far as i know, trades is where its at right now. industry is crying for people... actually my uni is building a new campus specifically for trades, only they can't finish it because in a big twist of irony, they're arent enough trades people to build it.
    i totally hear what you are sayin. if i was going to go north, bieng in the most southern part of canada and all. i would go to alberta.
    ive actually jusr for shits and giggles applied to jobs in BC ad never got a reply.
    my family is in windsor, to take my son away from my dad would kill me.
    its things like that that stop me from going out west. otherwise id be there and we be drinking a beer togeather!!
    peal jam fans are the best people!
    but to my woman, your all a bunch of no life loosers that want to suck eddies balls!!!!
    thats mee too so dont worry.
    fuckung loosers that we are!!!!
    word!
    Just, not enough.
    I need more.
    Nothing seems to satisfy.
    I said, I dont want it.
    I just need it.
    To breathe, to feel, to know Im alive.
  • haffajappahaffajappa Posts: 5,955
    i totally hear what you are sayin. if i was going to go north, bieng in the most southern part of canada and all. i would go to alberta.
    ive actually jusr for shits and giggles applied to jobs in BC ad never got a reply.
    my family is in windsor, to take my son away from my dad would kill me.
    its things like that that stop me from going out west. otherwise id be there and we be drinking a beer togeather!!
    peal jam fans are the best people!
    but to my woman, your all a bunch of no life loosers that want to suck eddies balls!!!!
    thats mee too so dont worry.
    fuckung loosers that we are!!!!
    word!
    hahaha!! i fear if you came out here you'd consume all our weed as you've appeared to consume alcohol tonight?
    and i am a female!
    live pearl jam is best pearl jam
  • pjfan31pjfan31 Posts: 7,334
    I know in our Uni in Newcastle australia that you can do somthing called open foundation. this course helps you bridge across whatever lack of education you have to what the Uni requires to enter a course. check it out http://www.newcastle.edu.au/centre/elfsc/open/
    Maybe ther is a way to bridge where you are
    best of luck
    Its never to late, some in these courses are in their 40s'and 50's.
    YOU JUST NEED TO WANT TO DO IT
    NEVER SURRENDER GO FOR IT
    LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT

    Thanks mate, word of wisdom :D
    redrock wrote:
    A pain in the butt now, but it will be well worth it. You already learned the hard way what happens if you don't have those qualifications people want.

    It's a shame we don't have 'adult' wisdom and foresight when we are teens, but you are still very young - now is the time to sort yourself out!


    Yeah where I work now at a school, there is a young kid who just moved from England (thick Liverpool accent I love it) and he is a bit off the rails, and I have told him and I have told his dad (funniest bloke ever) about my situation and how I regret it and I just hope he keeps his head down, I know he is young, but while he is silly, he has a good head on him I just wish I could stay in his life, so when he is older I can try and keep him on track
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  • haffajappahaffajappa Posts: 5,955
    oh i guess i should reply to the thread starter,
    you're not ht eonly one in a rut :)
    tho i wont be leaving teenager status until this march (the thought of being 20 is freakY!) i feel like i'm just. stuck.

    at least you've sorted out WHAT you want to do, now you've got the drive and motivation to make it happen - and it will happen you'll get you're break!
    luckily i always managed to slip by with good grades in high school, though most of my classes consisted of arts courses- history being my heaviest course- i really havn't gone anywhere in post secondary. hell, i havnt gone at all! (you cant really count 2 courses over the 2 years since i've been out of high school)

    now i'm working 2 shitty part time jobs (with full time hours) and havnt been able to figure out where i wanna go or what i wanna do... which is the biggest pain in the ass imaginable.

    just keep you're head up, you know what you want. it'll pan out, it'll happen for you!!
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  • hahaha!! i fear if you came out here you'd consume all our weed as you've appeared to consume alcohol tonight?
    and i am a female!
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    i dont need your weed my dear ;)
    but i like it, grows good if u know what im sayin.
    and yes im drinking, woohoo
    Just, not enough.
    I need more.
    Nothing seems to satisfy.
    I said, I dont want it.
    I just need it.
    To breathe, to feel, to know Im alive.
  • pjfan31pjfan31 Posts: 7,334
    I opened my itunes library, pressed random and present tense came on. I wonder if it was a sign???

    Have you ideas on how this life ends?
    Checked your hands and studied the lines
    Have you the belief that the road ahead, ascends off into the light?
    Seems that needlessly it's getting harder
    To find an approach and a way to live
    Are we getting something out of this all-encompassing trip?

    You can spend your time alone re-digesting past regrets, oh
    Or you can come to terms and realize
    You're the only one who cannot forgive yourself,
    oh
    Makes much more sense, to live in the present tense
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  • HinnyHinny Posts: 1,610
    It's really quite simple.

    Clarify with the various uni departments of education on their exact requirements.

    You can take bridging units of study at Macquarie Uni if they require particular prerequisite background in whatever. If they need high school level maths, you can do this at TAFE- pretty easy to look up which TAFEs offer the relevant subjects once you know which courses the Uni will accept as a HSC course substitute.

    And if you're unwilling to travel to complete these courses, that's your own prerogative.

    Alternatively, ask them if you can do a general BA, and use that as a basis to come back later on for a Dip. Ed. Just PM me if you need to know more about how this works.
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  • pjfan31 wrote:
    I opened my itunes library, pressed random and present tense came on. I wonder if it was a sign???

    Have you ideas on how this life ends?
    Checked your hands and studied the lines
    Have you the belief that the road ahead, ascends off into the light?
    Seems that needlessly it's getting harder
    To find an approach and a way to live
    Are we getting something out of this all-encompassing trip?

    You can spend your time alone re-digesting past regrets, oh
    Or you can come to terms and realize
    You're the only one who cannot forgive yourself,
    oh
    Makes much more sense, to live in the present tense
    hers the thing. you need to get something out of yor own encompassing trip. im a big way.
    Just, not enough.
    I need more.
    Nothing seems to satisfy.
    I said, I dont want it.
    I just need it.
    To breathe, to feel, to know Im alive.
  • haffajappahaffajappa Posts: 5,955
    http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v408/disposition46n2/IMG_0326.jpg

    http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v408/disposition46n2/IMG_0286.jpg
    i dont need your weed my dear ;)
    but i like it, grows good if u know what im sayin.
    and yes im drinking, woohoo
    oh my!

    hahah i never would have guessed... doesnt reflect in your typing at all!
    live pearl jam is best pearl jam
  • haffajappahaffajappa Posts: 5,955
    pjfan31 wrote:
    I opened my itunes library, pressed random and present tense came on. I wonder if it was a sign???

    Have you ideas on how this life ends?
    Checked your hands and studied the lines
    Have you the belief that the road ahead, ascends off into the light?
    Seems that needlessly it's getting harder
    To find an approach and a way to live
    Are we getting something out of this all-encompassing trip?

    You can spend your time alone re-digesting past regrets, oh
    Or you can come to terms and realize
    You're the only one who cannot forgive yourself,
    oh
    Makes much more sense, to live in the present tense
    holy shit!
    i did that when i was debating on whether to go to europe or save money incase a big pearl jam announcement happens. er, i mean or to save for school!

    then i said, fuck it! its about the present!
    and booked my flight

    yeehawww.
    live pearl jam is best pearl jam
  • Wow. If you've fucked up your life, then I may as well can mine in right now.

    Cheer up... there doesn't seem to be much wrong. This is just life's up and downs.

    I didn't have a CV even looked at until about 5 years out of uni. I put it down to discrimination.. I have 2 A-Levels and 3 GCSES.. Two degrees now, as well, but I fought to get them when the world was telling me it was too late and I shouldn't bother. You can too.

    I only decided that the charity sector was for me.... ooh, six months ago? I'm nearly 26. I've found my path and you will too. Chin up.
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  • pjfan31 wrote:
    I know there are so many people worse off then me...

    You are so right.

    You're in your mid-twenties, you still have time to get your head out of the muck and go for what you want.

    Just do it.
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  • Are you in debt? I read your post three times and I don't gather you're in debt. am i wrong?

    you are YOUNG dude! Don't put the weight of the world on your shoulders. Someone's going to put it there eventually. You have time to figure it out. Think it out, make a plan. Think four years ahead. when you figure out where you want to be the path becomes clear.

    DO NOT under ANY circumstances get married or have kids until you are at least 30!

    If you are spending money on ANYTHING that does not relate to LIFE SUPPORT (shelter , food etc) STOP IT IMMEDIATELY!! sell everything else.

    This is the time where you work your ass off SAVE MONEY, MAKE INVESTMENTS.

    go sit by the ocean and listen to pj every day!

    that is all.
  • This reminds of a talk a had with my high school (10th grade) students a few days ago. I have to teach them how to write a business letter, so I decided to make it authentic and have them write to a college/university that they are interested in knowing more about.

    I soon learned that my students know pretty much nothing about colleges/universities and how one gets into them. Most were under the impression that they could just graduate from high school and choose wherever they wanted to go. Many of my students with low grades (I have many who are in the 1.0-1.5 range) were expecting to go to Stanford, UCLA, etc. What a wake up call!

    So I spent a day talking to them about colleges and the realities of getting into them. I took them to the collegeboard.com website and showed them how to look up a college and see what it's requirements are (for example, 90% of entering freshmen at UCLA had a GPA of 3.75 or above). I also emphasized to them that most universities look only at 10-12th grade grades; so even if they screwed up last year, they were exactly at a point in their lives where they could turn things around if they chose to do so.

    Now I'm seeing a number of students who were previously lazy and apathetic beginning to flourish. It's amazing how much of a wake up call it was to them.

    I suppose the point is that it is important for young people to be shown, told, and explained the realities of what happens after they leave high school far before they actually get there. Sadly, I have had a number of students in the past who had high aspirations, only to learn the realities of college entrance a few months before earning their diploma. I firmly believe that many would have taken a completely different path in life -- for the rest of their lives -- if they had been aware sooner.
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