I can't go out with my friends for the dumbest reason

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  • well THAT I can't help ya with... but you're gonna need to cheer up a bit before you go shopping or you certainly won't find anything :o

    Good luck and just have fun :)
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  • justamjustam Posts: 21,410
    unfortunately, this is my 3-4 workouts/week size. I just gain fat very very easily, and I'm big boned and big muscled underneath it all, so it looks worse/makes it harder to buy clothes. When I was just a little kid the doctor told me that I have to learn to live with the fact that I have to eat less and exercise more than most people. I'm not really "letting myself go" the way most people would think, i've just let myself go relative to myself. It's not like I get no exercise or eat a lot, I'm pretty normal right now (actually I'm probably better than normal). the problem is, my body does not seem to understand "normal."

    my weight doesn't go up and down all that much- well it does in the short term, like day to day it could vary by 5-10 lbs of water-but I mean this is only the second time I've had a drastic change.

    Please don't think I meant that you HAD let yourself go. Heavens! :D

    I just meant, be kinder to yourself and accept the weight you are when you are exercising on a reasonable schedule rather than an excessive one. :)
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  • soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    When I was just a little kid the doctor told me that I have to learn to live with the fact that I have to eat less and exercise more than most people.

    that's fucked up that your doctor was telling you "you're gonna be a fattie if you don't work twice as hard as everyone else" as a little girl.
  • that's fucked up that your doctor was telling you "you're gonna be a fattie if you don't work twice as hard as everyone else" as a little girl.

    I think they just meant that I'm naturally big underneath and have a really slow metabolism to boot. they were right though. I had one of those metabolism tests at the gym a few years ago. I don't think they are very accurate, and I forget how it's measured, but mine basically came back as like dead. Or at least it was shockingly low for someone in as good shape as I was. I also really buy the new idea that's out in the medical world that people have different stomach flora, some of which doesn't process nutrients very well.
  • JaneNYJaneNY Posts: 4,438
    I think if you can fit in even some exercise (a reasonable amount, not the 2 hours, 6 days a week that you mentioned) that can help raise your metabolism some. Have you ever had your thyroid checked? If those levels aren't correct peoples' metabolisms can be too low making it hard to control weight. An instructor that teaches with me has this issue, and so did my mother, though I do not.
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  • JaneNY wrote:
    I think if you can fit in even some exercise (a reasonable amount, not the 2 hours, 6 days a week that you mentioned) that can help raise your metabolism some. Have you ever had your thyroid checked? If those levels aren't correct peoples' metabolisms can be too low making it hard to control weight. An instructor that teaches with me has this issue, and so did my mother, though I do not.

    oh yeah exercising definitely raises metabolism (and I do still exercise, just more moderately as you mentioned). It just doesn't raise it ENOUGH for me. It's still lower than other people who exercise at the same level. I have my thyroid checked like, all the time, not just because I gain fat so easily, but also because I am always hot and I have trouble waking up, even after plenty of sleep. also I think the doctor once made me get one because of my inability to sit still. doctors always make me get the test. It's always normal though. I have to say, I almost wish it wasn't so it could explain some things about my physiology better. I mean I am ALWAYS sitting right next to people who are FREEZING and grabbing for sweaters, and I'm sweating and shedding layers. and I'll sleep for 9-10 hours, and still practically be in a coma when my alarm goes off.
  • Get_RightGet_Right Posts: 13,133
    my friends were grabbing drinks tonight at a bar in our neighborhood. I can't go because it's really cold out, and I have no warm clothes or a winter jacket because since last winter I have gained 2 sizes and I haven't had time to go shopping yet! so the only clothes I have that fit are summer clothes. I tried on everything I kept from previous winters, and they are all too small. it is really crappy because I don't think my friends believe me, but I really want to go out! but it's under 30 degrees out and it's a 10 minute walk to the bar, I can't wear a short sleeved tshirt and a light jacket!


    your female right?


    just checking
  • well I just went to the GAP nextdoor and got $200 worth of sweaters and long-sleeved tshirts. I am going to need some pants at some point though...I don't think it's very professional to show up to work wearing just a sweater.
  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    oh yeah exercising definitely raises metabolism (and I do still exercise, just more moderately as you mentioned). It just doesn't raise it ENOUGH for me. It's still lower than other people who exercise at the same level. I have my thyroid checked like, all the time, not just because I gain fat so easily, but also because I am always hot and I have trouble waking up, even after plenty of sleep. also I think the doctor once made me get one because of my inability to sit still. doctors always make me get the test. It's always normal though. I have to say, I almost wish it wasn't so it could explain some things about my physiology better. I mean I am ALWAYS sitting right next to people who are FREEZING and grabbing for sweaters, and I'm sweating and shedding layers. and I'll sleep for 9-10 hours, and still practically be in a coma when my alarm goes off.


    you should go to a endocrinologist....i'm hypothyroid and everything you've said leads me to believe you might be also.....the average test doctors give to test your thyroid will most likely say your thyroid is normal....see a specialist....:)
  • rival.rival. Posts: 7,775
    well I just went to the GAP nextdoor and got $200 worth of sweaters and long-sleeved tshirts. I am going to need some pants at some point though...I don't think it's very professional to show up to work wearing just a sweater.

    .....or the bar!
  • cutback wrote:
    you should go to a endocrinologist....i'm hypothyroid and everything you've said leads me to believe you might be also.....the average test doctors give to test your thyroid will most likely say your thyroid is normal....see a specialist....:)

    really? wow, interesting. they always just eschew it when it comes back normal.
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  • pearljamjenpearljamjen Posts: 13,578
    .....or the bar!

    well she might get some free drinks! ;)
  • Try charity shops, and jumble/rummage sales. Fuck the snobs. I don't give a damn about wearing second hand clothes. (Okay, I stop at underpants, socks and shoes.) Don't starve yourself to fit into clothes you're not meant to fit into anymore. Be yourself.
  • JaneNYJaneNY Posts: 4,438
    really? wow, interesting. they always just eschew it when it comes back normal.

    Yes I totally agree with cutback - you should follow through with more detailed thyroid testing, esp. since his/her experience seems somewhat similar to yours. The things you describe (being tired after 9/10 hours sleep, being hot when others are cold) sure make it sound like some level of *something* is off, and that its not just your fault for not exercising or eating or something.
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  • prismprism Posts: 2,440
    I have the opposite problem. not that it keeps me from going out or anything but almost all of my clothes are too big for me cause I've lost 22 pounds since the end of july. not that i'm complaing but I look kinda silly wearing baggy clothes all the time. I don't want to buy new ones yet cause i want to lose some more.

    oh well this Thanksgiving I can pig out and not have to worry about my pants getting too tight :)


    I wish you luck with finding clothes that fit. I know that i'd be pretty bummed out if my weight was going in the other direction
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  • I started working at a lovely food shop and have gained 30 pounds in the last year. I refused to buy new clothes at the start of it all, but I eventually learned to like the added "curves" and decided that instead of fighting the flab, I'd go with the flow and make time (it's only a couple of hours out of your life) for some clothes shopping. Boy was I in for it. I looked everywhere and could not find anything that fit or looked ok on me. Then I saw an episode of "What not to wear" and it hit me....I'm still shopping for the body I used to have. (Praise be to Stacey and Clinton, those annoying fu*!ers) Now I know I can't be shopping in the regular size section of the store, and I've found some kick-ass clothes on the forbidden plus-size rack.
    Want to be enlightened, like I want to be told the end.
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