Am i a nagging husband/partner/b/f.etc

monster95

As a kinda continuance to the "nagging wife,anyone" thread
has anyone got a wife/partner/g/f who just refuses to listen at all !!!!
e.g.
my other half promised that after the kids got to school age she'd go back to work..which i thought..happy days. so for the past 10 years the financial burden has been on me.
now the kids have been at school this past number of years and am tired working round the f'ing clock for soo long i thought i'd bring the issue up.
but will she get up of her backside now to help my(our)financial situation? nope.i've talked explained argued ranted..huffed..you name it ..no good!
sometimes..i just wanna give up !


or in most cases...blast some PJ and forget my troubles.....then she nags about the music too........fuuuuuuuuuuck!!

CityMouse

monster95 wrote:

sometimes..i just wanna give up !


or in most cases...blast some PJ and forget my troubles.....then she nags about the music too........fuuuuuuuuuuck!!

then give up.
this is why god created divorce.

if you're this unhappy, why bother?

Stone Is God

monster95 wrote:

As a kinda continuance to the "nagging wife,anyone" thread
has anyone got a wife/partner/g/f who just refuses to listen at all !!!!
e.g.
my other half promised that after the kids got to school age she'd go back to work..which i thought..happy days. so for the past 10 years the financial burden has been on me.
now the kids have been at school this past number of years and am tired working round the f'ing clock for soo long i thought i'd bring the issue up.
but will she get up of her backside now to help my(our)financial situation? nope.i've talked explained argued ranted..huffed..you name it ..no good!
sometimes..i just wanna give up !


or in most cases...blast some PJ and forget my troubles.....then she nags about the music too........fuuuuuuuuuuck!!

This would be a problem with me. If you're not contributing to the cause, you're taking away from it. It''d be pretty funny, one day, when she went out for a while and came home to find all the locks changed. You want a new key, find a job.

decides2dream

ouch.

perhaps counseling would be a good idea to vent these frustrations between you if conversation on your own doesn't help. there really isn't much else to do.....work it out....or present an ultimatum? she may have a lot of fears returning to work, not all rooted in laziness. as to the music, again....mutual respect for each other's interests, always a good thing. i'd go with counseling if you wish to salvage your marriage AND get her to go back to work.


good luck!
such situations are never easy!

AmentsChick

I'm of the belief that marriage is a partnership. Hubby and wife are a team...and should be on the same side...whether it's involving finances, child-rearing, or who takes out the garbage (him!).

That being said...I've never been married...and apparently contributed to getting the other thread locked. I suck. :(

eyedclaar

Oh, this is nothing a bj couldn't...

Oh wait. Nevermind. I didn't say anything.

saveuplife

monster95 wrote:

As a kinda continuance to the "nagging wife,anyone" thread
has anyone got a wife/partner/g/f who just refuses to listen at all !!!!
e.g.
my other half promised that after the kids got to school age she'd go back to work..which i thought..happy days. so for the past 10 years the financial burden has been on me.
now the kids have been at school this past number of years and am tired working round the f'ing clock for soo long i thought i'd bring the issue up.
but will she get up of her backside now to help my(our)financial situation? nope.i've talked explained argued ranted..huffed..you name it ..no good!
sometimes..i just wanna give up !


or in most cases...blast some PJ and forget my troubles.....then she nags about the music too........fuuuuuuuuuuck!!

Obviously, I'm not one to give advice. I've learned in the last thread that I'm not necessarily supposed to anyway.

So, I'll try what I just learned.... I'm sorry to hear that. That b-lows.

The Champ

saveuplife wrote:

Obviously, I'm not one to give advice. I've learned in the last thread that I'm not necessarily supposed to anyway.

So, I'll try what I just learned.... I'm sorry to hear that. That b-lows.

We all learned a lot in that thread ..

TrixieCat

AmentsChick wrote:

I'm of the belief that marriage is a partnership. Hubby and wife are a team...and should be on the same side...whether it's involving finances, child-rearing, or who takes out the garbage (him!).

That being said...I've never been married...and apparently contributed to getting the other thread locked. I suck. :(

I take the garbage out here most of the time.

NY PJ1

AmentsChick wrote:

I'm of the belief that marriage is a partnership. Hubby and wife are a team...and should be on the same side...whether it's involving finances, child-rearing, or who takes out the garbage (him!).

That being said...I've never been married...and apparently contributed to getting the other thread locked. I suck. :(

GOOD JOB ruining the fun lol

SENROCK

monster95 wrote:

As a kinda continuance to the "nagging wife,anyone" thread
has anyone got a wife/partner/g/f who just refuses to listen at all !!!!
e.g.
my other half promised that after the kids got to school age she'd go back to work..which i thought..happy days. so for the past 10 years the financial burden has been on me.
now the kids have been at school this past number of years and am tired working round the f'ing clock for soo long i thought i'd bring the issue up.
but will she get up of her backside now to help my(our)financial situation? nope.i've talked explained argued ranted..huffed..you name it ..no good!
sometimes..i just wanna give up !


or in most cases...blast some PJ and forget my troubles.....then she nags about the music too........fuuuuuuuuuuck!!

thats retarded. why should she get to stay home & not worry about stuff? I always get trash talk for this but.......when u get married isnt it a shared deal? Like a partnership? A business Deal? TEAM WORK!!!! What is WITH chicks these days. Dude, blast some Pearl Jam & forget stuff like u want to. If SHE wants to drown u out she'll probably go in the room and slam the door AND SHE WONT EVEN HAVE GOOD TUNES ON!!!! :eek:

NY PJ1

TrixieCat wrote:

I take the garbage out here most of the time.

hey u woke up from your nap?

AmentsChick

TrixieCat wrote:

I take the garbage out here most of the time.

GO TC!!! LOL! You're a better woman than me, that's for sure!

I do it...but only because there's no man around. I'm having it written into the marriage contract that I will do laundry if he takes out the trash. It's the WORST chore...ICK!

monster95

why bother? someone said? cos i got a nice house kids car. and am fucked if am gonna throw all that away just to start again ! ha! if the other half is quite nice ! its just this one issue...i've tried everything with her on this issue..and fuck all works ! dont need a counsellor to tell me(us) whats goin on ..she knows! and knows the soloution too!!! it just doesnt sink into her thick skull..thats the problem !!!
i've spent sooo much of my time at work these past few years..i took a weeks vacation this week...just to sit at home chill out..get some beers down my neck...music/dvds etc.....sad thing is...am bored i actually miss work !!!

AmentsChick

monster95 wrote:

why bother? someone said? cos i got a nice house kids car. and am fucked if am gonna throw all that away just to start again ! ha! if the other half is quite nice ! its just this one issue...i've tried everything with her on this issue..and fuck all works ! dont need a counsellor to tell me(us) whats goin on ..she knows! and knows the soloution too!!! it just doesnt sink into her thick skull..thats the problem !!!
i've spent sooo much of my time at work these past few years..i took a weeks vacation this week...just to sit at home chill out..get some beers down my neck...music/dvds etc.....sad thing is...am bored i actually miss work !!!

Yeah, I saw that...I wasn't going to address it because, while divorce is clearing the answer to some miserable marriages, it is quite often the easy way out.

TrixieCat

NY PJ1 wrote:

hey u woke up from your nap?

wakey, wakey
eggs and bakey

NY PJ1

TrixieCat wrote:

wakey, wakey
eggs and bakey

hehe

decides2dream

monster95 wrote:

why bother? someone said? cos i got a nice house kids car. and am fucked if am gonna throw all that away just to start again ! ha! if the other half is quite nice ! its just this one issue...i've tried everything with her on this issue..and fuck all works ! dont need a counsellor to tell me(us) whats goin on ..she knows! and knows the soloution too!!! it just doesnt sink into her thick skull..thats the problem !!!
i've spent sooo much of my time at work these past few years..i took a weeks vacation this week...just to sit at home chill out..get some beers down my neck...music/dvds etc.....sad thing is...am bored i actually miss work !!!

you know...she knows...yet still no change. if you want the change, that's where counseling could be a help. that's the only reason i mentioned it. as i said, there may be more to it than her simply 'avoiding work'...but also a lot of insecurites and fears if she's been out of the job market a long while. perhaps career counseling for her would help? or perhaps you could do some research, help her along, be supportive? the only way i would consider any of it 'nagging' is if you just continually tell her she needs to get a job, but offer up no soutions/support to help her get back out there. for the last 10 years her 'job' has been mother/caretaker.....it's a big adjustment swithcing roles again. and if all your supportiveness still falls on deaf ears, this is why i suggest counseling. that's all.


good luck.

monster95

RANT over !!!!
sorry Jammers...just needed to rant at someone/anyone/anything !!
Beer time ....and a neil young cd to listen too !

saveuplife

monster95 wrote:

RANT over !!!!
sorry Jammers...just needed to rant at someone/anyone/anything !!
Beer time ....and a neil young cd to listen too !

Drink a Beamish for me, bro. God, I miss that beer. Work sux.

monster95

decides2dream wrote:

you know...she knows...yet still no change. if you want the change, that's where counseling could be a help. that's the only reason i mentioned it. as i said, there may be more to it than her simply 'avoiding work'...but also a lot of insecurites and fears if she's been out of the job market a long while. perhaps career counseling for her would help? or perhaps you could do some research, help her along, be supportive? the only way i would consider any of it 'nagging' is if you just continually tell her she needs to get a job, but offer up no soutions/support to help her get back out there. for the last 10 years her 'job' has been mother/caretaker.....it's a big adjustment swithcing roles again. and if all your supportiveness still falls on deaf ears, this is why i suggest counseling. that's all.


good luck.

played the supportive partner me ! asking what she'd like to do..what hours..i could cut back at work to help out (like i used too do anyways) but........
duhhh !!!!!! nothing