So, you know that feeling, when a girl has a boyfriend...

DOSW
DOSW Posts: 2,014
edited March 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
And you know that, even though the boyfriend is a cool guy, you just know that you and her would be so much better together than the guy she's with now? It's frustrating. And it's like... I can tell that she thinks it too, but what can we do? I can't say anything, because she has a boyfriend. She can't say anything, because she has a boyfriend.

It's weird, we have this uncanny mental connection. Not just like infatuation, but something deeper... and I know people say that a lot, but it just seems right. And I know that she has always dug me because she's told people who have told me. I've always kind of liked her, but not really in that way, until recently... pretty much since she started with her boyfriend. Oops. Maybe it's a subconscious thing of wanting what I can't have, I don't know.

Ah damn.
It's a town full of losers and I'm pulling out of here to win
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  • PJPixie
    PJPixie Posts: 3,026
    I always want what I can't have.
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  • lukin2006
    lukin2006 Posts: 9,087
    if its meant to be, it will happen, good luck, I've been there before.
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  • DOSW
    DOSW Posts: 2,014
    beemster wrote:
    if its meant to be, it will happen, good luck, I've been there before.

    Yeah, I suppose I can wait it out, but the waiting is driving me mad. Because all this time I just have to sit here and watch everything they do, and it's like... that should be me. I mean, it would be better for both of us if it were me. Ugh.
    It's a town full of losers and I'm pulling out of here to win
  • Indian Summer
    Indian Summer Posts: 2,296
    ahhhh...ye olde dating game....how I don't miss thee.

    Dating sucks plain and simple. It's the biggest mindfuck there is. Nobody can say what they mean or what exactly they want. I'm so glad I don't have to play that bullshit game any more. And that's exactly what it is, a game....there are winners there are losers, and a lot of people get hurt. Good luck to you, and all those who are still playing.
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  • LONGRD
    LONGRD Posts: 6,036
    PJPixie wrote:
    I always want what I can't have.
    Yeah.

    And another thing is, sometimes, being "unavailable" makes he/she even more attractive for some reason.

    There's been many times where I've been in situations where I hesitate(badly) to get involve with a girl when she's single, but then all the sudden she starting dating someone else. Boy does that drive me crazy or what?, especially after being a bit of friends already.

    Am I the only one that does that? (finding someone's who's "unavailable" more attractive than singles?)
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  • in_hiding79
    in_hiding79 Posts: 4,315
    Indian Summer wrote:
    ahhhh...ye olde dating game....how I don't miss thee.

    Dating sucks plain and simple. It's the biggest mindfuck there is. Nobody can say what they mean or what exactly they want. I'm so glad I don't have to play that bullshit game any more. And that's exactly what it is, a game....there are winners there are losers, and a lot of people get hurt. Good luck to you, and all those who are still playing.


    so you're saying you like dating...????

    hehehehe :p
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  • lukin2006
    lukin2006 Posts: 9,087
    DOSW wrote:
    Yeah, I suppose I can wait it out, but the waiting is driving me mad. Because all this time I just have to sit here and watch everything they do, and it's like... that should be me. I mean, it would be better for both of us if it were me. Ugh.
    Hang in there, hopefully it works out.
    I have certain rules I live by ... My First Rule ... I don't believe anything the government tells me ... George Carlin

    "Life Is What Happens To You When Your Busy Making Other Plans" John Lennon
  • lukin2006
    lukin2006 Posts: 9,087
    Indian Summer wrote:
    ahhhh...ye olde dating game....how I don't miss thee.

    Dating sucks plain and simple. It's the biggest mindfuck there is. Nobody can say what they mean or what exactly they want. I'm so glad I don't have to play that bullshit game any more. And that's exactly what it is, a game....there are winners there are losers, and a lot of people get hurt. Good luck to you, and all those who are still playing.

    That is the truth and I'm with you, glad I'm out of the dating game as well.
    I have certain rules I live by ... My First Rule ... I don't believe anything the government tells me ... George Carlin

    "Life Is What Happens To You When Your Busy Making Other Plans" John Lennon
  • PJPixie
    PJPixie Posts: 3,026
    LongRd. wrote:
    Yeah.

    And another thing is, sometimes, being "unavailable" makes he/she even more attractive for some reason.

    There's been many times where I've been in situations where I hesitate(badly) to get involve with a girl when she's single, but then all the sudden she starting dating someone else. Boy does that drive me crazy or what?, especially after being a bit of friends already.

    Am I the only one that does that? (finding someone's who's "unavailable" more attractive than singles?)

    Yep Yep.......story of my life...........
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    The best expression of Love is Time.
    The best time to Love is Now.


    I'm never as good as when you're there.........
  • Collin
    Collin Posts: 4,931
    Yes, I know what you mean. It sucks.
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  • Gossard_Is_God
    Gossard_Is_God Posts: 1,031
    Im in exactly this situation, I worked with this Swedish girl at work, and the first time i saw her, I wanted her, but she had a bf, but we got to know eachother alot, flirted aaaallll the time for months, then she moved back to Sweden, broke up with her boyfriend, meanwhile me and her are still speaking everyday, and I think when she finally returns, wel get together.
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  • faithful227
    faithful227 Posts: 352
    I'm in the same situation except the guy she's with is an a@#hole. And I'm not just saying that because I want to be with her. It's the truth. I know it, she knows it, everyone knows it. I think even he knows it. It's kinda weird. All of her friends are rallying behind me because they hate him and the way he treats her. Two nights ago I was out and one of her friends that I met maybe once comes up to me and was like "Why aren't you and _______ together?" It's like the entire world sees it EXCEPT her.

    And so I wait....

    For a little while anyway :)

    But I feel you man... Sucks.
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  • NOCODE#1
    NOCODE#1 Posts: 1,477
    DOSW wrote:
    And you know that, even though the boyfriend is a cool guy, you just know that you and her would be so much better together than the guy she's with now? It's frustrating. And it's like... I can tell that she thinks it too, but what can we do? I can't say anything, because she has a boyfriend. She can't say anything, because she has a boyfriend.

    It's weird, we have this uncanny mental connection. Not just like infatuation, but something deeper... and I know people say that a lot, but it just seems right. And I know that she has always dug me because she's told people who have told me. I've always kind of liked her, but not really in that way, until recently... pretty much since she started with her boyfriend. Oops. Maybe it's a subconscious thing of wanting what I can't have, I don't know.

    Ah damn.
    most chicks stay with guys because of the familiarity in the sack
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  • Jeremy1012
    Jeremy1012 Posts: 7,170
    Been there, she ending up dumping the guy but it all went to shit anyway. In fact, reading your post, my situation was identical. We were like soul mates, and I don't just mean in a romantic way. After it got screwed up, more than anything else I regretted losing that deep friendship connection. My advice is, don't get involved. 9/10 times you'll regret it.
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  • trappedinmyradio
    trappedinmyradio Posts: 1,189
    DOSW wrote:
    And you know that, even though the boyfriend is a cool guy, you just know that you and her would be so much better together than the guy she's with now? It's frustrating. And it's like... I can tell that she thinks it too, but what can we do? I can't say anything, because she has a boyfriend. She can't say anything, because she has a boyfriend.

    It's weird, we have this uncanny mental connection. Not just like infatuation, but something deeper... and I know people say that a lot, but it just seems right. And I know that she has always dug me because she's told people who have told me. I've always kind of liked her, but not really in that way, until recently... pretty much since she started with her boyfriend. Oops. Maybe it's a subconscious thing of wanting what I can't have, I don't know.

    Ah damn.

    you should use those powers of predicting the future to win the lottery...
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  • pjhawks
    pjhawks Posts: 12,959
    DOSW wrote:
    And you know that, even though the boyfriend is a cool guy, you just know that you and her would be so much better together than the guy she's with now? It's frustrating. And it's like... I can tell that she thinks it too, but what can we do? I can't say anything, because she has a boyfriend. She can't say anything, because she has a boyfriend.

    It's weird, we have this uncanny mental connection. Not just like infatuation, but something deeper... and I know people say that a lot, but it just seems right. And I know that she has always dug me because she's told people who have told me. I've always kind of liked her, but not really in that way, until recently... pretty much since she started with her boyfriend. Oops. Maybe it's a subconscious thing of wanting what I can't have, I don't know.

    Ah damn.

    f-that dude - don't listen to the 'if it is meant to be it will happen' - i tried that and it didn't happen. i was in a similar situation with a girl who was into a total d-bag and everyone knew it - except her - she married the dude and now her life sucks. I say make a move dude.

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