Message Pit Caused my Divorce!!!

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  • Trailer
    Trailer Posts: 1,431
    KosmicJelli wrote:
    Well, Ive been divorced for awhile now...

    But the story goes as this... I was online posting and having fun as usual. He was such a controlling bastard that I was (ahem and even embaressed to say...) only ALLOWED to go on the puter at tax time to do our taxes. (Geesh!) Well I completed the taxes in no time and was surfing decided to join the message pit. Well, finally after a few days the ex figured out I had completed the taxes and was posting here. He came home for lunch and I was on , of course, the message pit. He got all pissed off and started to say things like I had a lover online and crap. I just told him that I enjoy talking here because I need intellectual stimulation which he cannot give me. ( okay forgive me, I was a pit virgin and intellectually starved human, kinda of seems funny now! doesn't it?) :) Anyhow, He got so pissed he ripped the computer from the wall... and I told him to fuck off cause your not gonna stop me! So the next day emaciated from lack of mental nourishment I went to the library and logged on to the pit. Do you believe the man actually snuck up behind me and whispered in my ear to tell me he "caught" me? That was final straw! When I got home from the library I told him I was filing for divorce!

    The rest is to be written....

    WOW!! There is no need for that kind of shit... good for you.
    Whoa, chill bro... you know you can't raise your voice like that when the lion's here.
  • NOCODE#1
    NOCODE#1 Posts: 1,477
    in_hiding79 wrote:
    I bet you're stronger too!!
    yes strangers talking to complete strangers makes everyone stronger :rolleyes:
    Let's not be negative now. Thumper has spoken
  • restlesssoul
    restlesssoul Posts: 6,952
    KosmicJelli wrote:
    Do you believe the man actually snuck up behind me and whispered in my ear to tell me he "caught" me? That was final straw! When I got home from the library I told him I was filing for divorce!

    The rest is to be written....



    **(whisper) "i caught you" (whisper)**


    CREEPY!! good for you for moving on.....he sounds like a no good anyways!
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  • KosmicJelli
    KosmicJelli Posts: 1,855
    restlesssoul wrote:
    **(whisper) "i caught you" (whisper)**


    CREEPY!! good for you for moving on.....he sounds like a no good anyways!

    ewwwww... I know it gave me the chills when he did that...still does....
  • bernmodi
    bernmodi Posts: 631
    Congratulation, you did it right! Glad to hear you got out of this madness in such a good shape.
  • KosmicJelli
    KosmicJelli Posts: 1,855
    bernmodi wrote:
    Congratulation, you did it right! Glad to hear you got out of this madness in such a good shape.


    Oh , that man could never break me... I left him twice before,
    Took 3 tries... but you know what they say " Third Time Lucky"
  • Lostdoggie
    Lostdoggie Posts: 257
    Was he always this insecure and controlling or did it evolve over time?
    Sometimes life don't leave you alone

    8/20/98 - Montreal
    8/29/00, 8/30/00 - Mansfield
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  • Rygar
    Rygar Posts: 8,711
    NOCODE#1 wrote:
    yes strangers talking to complete strangers makes everyone stronger :rolleyes:
    almost as much as being an asshole to complete strangers at every opportunity makes everyone cooler :rolleyes:
  • 3inputchick
    3inputchick Posts: 845
    this thread is reason 3772349028904896304924589423489035658583-4905875=-082345876589765670323858583-23957677658484586457645069373737745634734848586785586758765867 to niver get married. Just live together-
    A pessimist is a man who thinks all women are bad. An optimist is one who hopes they are.
  • NY PJ1
    NY PJ1 Posts: 9,533
    3inputchick wrote:
    this thread is reason 3772349028904896304924589423489035658583-4905875=-082345876589765670323858583-23957677658484586457645069373737745634734848586785586758765867 to niver get married. Just live together-


    tou fucking che !!!!!!!!
  • comebackwoman
    comebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    KosmicJelli wrote:
    Oh , that man could never break me... I left him twice before,
    Took 3 tries... but you know what they say " Third Time Lucky"
    Glad you are free now! No need for that crazy controlling crap.
    There's a light when my baby's in my arms :)
  • NY PJ1
    NY PJ1 Posts: 9,533
    Rygar wrote:
    almost as much as being an asshole to complete strangers at every opportunity makes everyone cooler :rolleyes:


    hehe pretty funny
  • The Champ
    The Champ Posts: 4,063
    Rygar wrote:
    almost as much as being an asshole to complete strangers at every opportunity makes everyone cooler :rolleyes:

    lol..everyone has a shtick:
    http://www.insuremeblog.com/affiliate/blogimages/mr-stink-eye.jpg
    'I want to hurry home to you
    put on a slow, dumb show for you
    and crack you up
    so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
    god I'm very, very frightening
    and I'll overdo it'
  • Rygar
    Rygar Posts: 8,711
    The Champ wrote:
    lol..everyone has a shtick:
    http://www.insuremeblog.com/affiliate/blogimages/mr-stink-eye.jpg
    hahaha, truth
  • KosmicJelli
    KosmicJelli Posts: 1,855
    Lostdoggie wrote:
    Was he always this insecure and controlling or did it evolve over time?

    Well at the time I was 18! I was sure naive and innocent (well i didnt think i was) at first no it never seemed like control but as I grew older and wiser it all became so unbearable. I should have guess on one of first dates he punched somebody at the bar for looking at me... I thought it was male chivalry, now I would say that should have been a red flag for me, on insecurity and jealousy...
  • KosmicJelli
    KosmicJelli Posts: 1,855
    NY PJ1 wrote:
    tou fucking che !!!!!!!!

    I agree.. I am so far out now .. I am looking for someone to trust and be secure with while I live at my house and they theirs....
  • KosmicJelli
    KosmicJelli Posts: 1,855
    Rygar wrote:
    almost as much as being an asshole to complete strangers at every opportunity makes everyone cooler :rolleyes:

    now that is a "tou fucking che"
  • KosmicJelli
    KosmicJelli Posts: 1,855
    The Champ wrote:
    lol..everyone has a shtick:
    http://www.insuremeblog.com/affiliate/blogimages/mr-stink-eye.jpg

    hehehehe funnay.....
  • iluvcats
    iluvcats Posts: 5,153
    KosmicJelli wrote:
    Do you believe the man actually snuck up behind me and whispered in my ear to tell me he "caught" me? That was final straw! When I got home from the library I told him I was filing for divorce!

    The rest is to be written....

    I'm so glad you got away from him. I actually told my husband about this thread. We can't believe your husband was that controlling and followed you to the library. My husband wants to know what you did that made him think you were cheating.
    9/98, 9/00 - DC, 4/03 - Pitt., 7/03 - Bristow, 10/04 - Reading, 10/05 - Philly, 5/06 - DC, 6/06 - Pitt., 6/08 - Va Beach, 6/08 - DC, 5/10 - Bristow, 10/13 B'more
    8/08 - Ed solo in DC, 6/09 Ed in B'more,
    10/10 - Brad in B'more
  • KosmicJelli
    KosmicJelli Posts: 1,855
    iluvcats wrote:
    I'm so glad you got away from him. I actually told my husband about this thread. We can't believe your husband was that controlling and followed you to the library. My husband wants to know what you did that made him think you were cheating.

    Absolutely nothing... the man was just paranoid, I couldnt have any friends basically male or female. Not that Im like bragging on myself... but Im a cute girl... good personality, likes to talk to everyone, nice so... everyone was a threat to him I assume since he was so insecure. He was so bad when I started to become close to any of my female friends he would just start saying things like we were lesbians... whatever. Now I have some many damn friends I cant keep up with them all! :) Its a scary fact of life alot of women go through.

    Mental abuse is far worse than the physical, I think anyway... lol the dumb guy still thinks he can control my life, I have to laugh though when he freaks out when he tries cannot manipulate and control me. All in all I take responsibility for staying with him for a long time and accept that it is part of my past... and it was one hell of a learning experience!

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