The Official Quarterlife Crisis Thread

pjoasisrule

Has anybody else's life been complete dogshit since graduating college? Anybody have any feel good stories, tips, pity stories, etc?

South of Seattle

pjoasisrule wrote:

Has anybody else's life been complete dogshit since graduating college? Anybody have any feel good stories, tips, pity stories, etc?

I had that experience already. It's lasts a few years. Moving somewhere else for a while is a good way to clear your head.

mickeyrat

well never went to college but........ from becoming a teenager til about 2 1/2 years ago were pretty f'n pathetic. Drinking and drugging my life right into the toilet. got sober in april of 06 and things are looking up. Plus I'm approaching the midlife deal.

pjoasisrule

South of Seattle wrote:

I had that experience already. It's lasts a few years. Moving somewhere else for a while is a good way to clear your head.

What else has changed for you besides your setting?

South of Seattle

pjoasisrule wrote:

What else has changed for you besides your setting?

Just getting away from the pressures of family and friends, even though they weren't a problem for me. It just lessons your expectations and forces you to be in an unfamiliar environment.

I moved with a friend of mine so we knew a couple of people, but that was it. I just did it for a few years and used it as a time to relax and re-evaluate.

I was dealing with the fact that I had been in school for 18 years straight without any sort of time for myself.

LONGRD

yeah, that's me the last 2 and a half year but this year's been great personally. not career-wise or anything...but i think many young Americans are in the same situation. half a million jobs loss in November, the last i heard.:(

pjoasisrule

South of Seattle wrote:

Just getting away from the pressures of family and friends, even though they weren't a problem for me. It just lessons your expectations and forces you to be in an unfamiliar environment.

I moved with a friend of mine so we knew a couple of people, but that was it. I just did it for a few years and used it as a time to relax and re-evaluate.

I was dealing with the fact that I had been in school for 18 years straight without any sort of time for myself.

Did you have money though? That is my biggest problem, I am incredibly broke and in debt from college and cannot find a quality job......its been almost a year and half since I have been out of school.

South of Seattle

pjoasisrule wrote:

Did you have money though? That is my biggest problem, I am incredibly broke and in debt from college and cannot find a quality job......its been almost a year and half since I have been out of school.

I moved with $1000, but I did have a job lined up. Not a high paying one though.

Also I took some classes just so I could get student loans to live off of

Do you have more classes or anything you could take? Or find a hobby of yours and move to the center of the action.

I was really into snowboarding, so I moved to a cold snowy place and worked at snowboard shops so I could just chill and re-calibrate for a few years. It was great.

pjoasisrule

South of Seattle wrote:

I moved with $1000, but I did have a job lined up. Not a high paying one though.

Also I took some classes just so I could get student loans to live off of

Do you have more classes or anything you could take? Or find a hobby of yours and move to the center of the action.

I was really into snowboarding, so I moved to a cold snowy place and worked at snowboard shops so I could just chill and re-calibrate for a few years. It was great.

I have the problem of having a girlfriend of over 5 years too so that adds to the complication. I would want to move right away probably if I was single but that just wouldnt be very easy right now for me.

South of Seattle

pjoasisrule wrote:

I have the problem of having a girlfriend of over 5 years too so that adds to the complication. I would want to move right away probably if I was single but that just wouldnt be very easy right now for me.

I thought you guys had broken up (remember a previous thread) Well yeah, you're stuck then

I'd say just keep looking for a job or considered finding something you can do on your own for work.

pjoasisrule

South of Seattle wrote:

I thought you guys had broken up (remember a previous thread) Well yeah, you're stuck then

I'd say just keep looking for a job or considered finding something you can do on your own for work.

We got back together and I got an old job back so that worked out for me but I am still struggling with my life.

South of Seattle

pjoasisrule wrote:

We got back together and I got an old job back so that worked out for me but I am still struggling with my life.

Don't know then. Save up for a vacation then maybe?

pjoasisrule

South of Seattle wrote:

Don't know then. Save up for a vacation then maybe?

I cant save up, I am having a hard time even paying my bills and I am not getting enough hours at my job now. This is what sucks, any suggestion given to me will be answered with something negative.

iamsampj

i had a pretty rough one. i got what i thought was a decent job right out of college...only to be fired 9 months later. it was the best thing that ever happened to me...for reals i had to really evaluate what it was that i wanted to do...where i wanted to be. so, i moved away and looked for jobs in austin...only to end up getting my dream job in miami!!

i was lucky enough that my parents were able to help me out with my student loans. it's helped me out a lot...especially when i wasn't making much money.

i know a lot of people that move back home for awhile after college to save up money. don't know if that would be an option for you?

you'll get through it!! it's frustrating at times, but it all works out in the end

corduroid

don't worry ~ it gets better

unifiedscene

I lived at home and waited tables at a shitty chain restaurant for 2 years after college. I also got arrested twice, spent time in jail, went to rehab, and then finally applied to grad school. So yeah, I had some issues after college. Things just aren't the same and I was trying to make them as much fun as college. It won't happen and you eventually just have to accept it and grow older.