Ya know what is pathetic?

Zanne

Get a divorce (in your mind). There is no law that states that just because someone is a blood relative that they deserve to be treated like "family". I consider a handful of my friends to be family much more than I have my blood relatives throughout my life. It's very liberating to just let go sometimes. You might notice, that when left to sit alone long enough, he might realize the error of his ways and come and break down and apologize and maybe make an effort to try to be human... maybe not, but either way, you've let go, so you're good.

Peace

tybird

acoustic guy wrote:

My old man and I do not get along but every year I envite him over for the holidays b/c he is alone and I feel bad. Well, not this year b/c last year i envited him over and he complained about Turkey b/c he said it was
"Peasant Food". What a freak!!
He is a food and wine snob so he says Turkey has no flavor and is cheap.
Ya try to do something nice for a bastard and they shit on you.
I am sure there are many here with dad problems.

Just needed to get that off my chest!
Thanks.

Pheasants don't eat Turkey......they're more of herbivore.....oh wait....you said peasant. My bad.

pjhawks

acoustic guy wrote:

My old man and I do not get along but every year I envite him over for the holidays b/c he is alone and I feel bad. Well, not this year b/c last year i envited him over and he complained about Turkey b/c he said it was
"Peasant Food". What a freak!!
He is a food and wine snob so he says Turkey has no flavor and is cheap.
Ya try to do something nice for a bastard and they shit on you.
I am sure there are many here with dad problems.

Just needed to get that off my chest!
Thanks.

maybe say this to him instead of us. it will probably piss him off but he might get the point. and if he asks why you didn't invite his this year tell him the truth.

Heineken Helen

Zanne wrote:

Get a divorce (in your mind). There is no law that states that just because someone is a blood relative that they deserve to be treated like "family". I consider a handful of my friends to be family much more than I have my blood relatives throughout my life. It's very liberating to just let go sometimes. You might notice, that when left to sit alone long enough, he might realize the error of his ways and come and break down and apologize and maybe make an effort to try to be human... maybe not, but either way, you've let go, so you're good.

Peace

was just thinking I haven't seen you around in a while

But yep, I know these familial relationships can be tough but perhaps you could (if you want) invite him but tell him the minute he insults you, your family or your food, he's out of there... oh and unless he brings a suitable gift, he doesn't get to call anyone 'peasant' :cool:

TrixieCat

My father in law is like that...minus the money.
Here is what I have figured out about him:
He still thinks that he is the patriarch of the family and thinks he should be treated as such even though the miserable bastard left his family years ago after he pissed away all of his money and left them with no money and my mother in law wasn't working at the time.
Basically, they had to move to a ghetto to survive.
I will NOT treat that man like anything other than a normal guest when he is in my home. And he knows it. And this, he thinks, gives him reason to criticize everything and everyone.
I am so sorry that you and other people have to deal with this crap.
It is his shortcomings and possibly his feeling left out because deep down he knows no one gives a crap about him.
Peace to your family and have a nice thankgiving.

genie

acoustic guy wrote:

Oh man he would love it!
He loves weird foods like that. Honestly, he would love it. He eats the gizzards from animals too! Yuk!

eeewwwww!!! i'm glad i wasn't eating my lunch when i read your post.

lalalalaaaaaaaa

acoustic guy wrote:

ha, thanks.

Its not the point, he just lives his life being miserable.
He is a very negative person, yet I feel bad when I do not include him in family functions. My in-laws do not want him around b/c he is so cranky.
We all get him gifts for X-mas, ya know what he got me.....one $8.00 Cast Iron Pan from Sams Club.
The man drives a Porsche SUV! He makes Hundreds of thousands a year. I do not think I deserve anything from him or do I expect it but WTF? Compain about the food we serve him and give $8.00 gifts?
It makes me laugh b/c he is so screwed up.

Yea I hear ya, totally. My dad is just like this, except he doesn't make a ton of money (and I guess he's not a food snob). But he's a dick for sure. Last year he got me a snow shovel for Christmas haha! And I think he got it free from his job.

Just try to avoid him, and be happy to see the rest of your family.

acoustic guy

Saturnal wrote:

Yea I hear ya, totally. My dad is just like this, except he doesn't make a ton of money (and I guess he's not a food snob). But he's a dick for sure. Last year he got me a snow shovel for Christmas haha! And I think he got it free from his job.

Just try to avoid him, and be happy to see the rest of your family.

Snow shovel?
What a dick. I think your old man and my old man should get together and go bowling. LOL.

acoustic guy

TrixieCat wrote:

My father in law is like that...minus the money.
Here is what I have figured out about him:
He still thinks that he is the patriarch of the family and thinks he should be treated as such even though the miserable bastard left his family years ago after he pissed away all of his money and left them with no money and my mother in law wasn't working at the time.
Basically, they had to move to a ghetto to survive.
I will NOT treat that man like anything other than a normal guest when he is in my home. And he knows it. And this, he thinks, gives him reason to criticize everything and everyone.
I am so sorry that you and other people have to deal with this crap.
It is his shortcomings and possibly his feeling left out because deep down he knows no one gives a crap about him.
Peace to your family and have a nice thankgiving.

Thanks TrixieCat, That was really nice.

Spunkie

If my father was alive he'd tell you to "quit your bitching".

Hawkshore

DocChicago wrote:

has he ever heard of gravy?

or cranberry sauce..... for that matter

libragirl

turkey peasant food!? lol..he should come to my house i will make him some pepperoni and spinach, now that is peasant food .

Heatherj43

Geez, it seems at my family's functions people take turns at who's it each time. Once they start at someone, that person is critisized by all the entire evening/or day. Everyone acts like it doesn't take place until they're the one who gets shit the entire time we are together.
One time, I had just met my bf and only my kids knew him. I took him to a family thing at my neice's and one of my sisters started talking aloud about him, (he was going to be the scapegoat). I don't remember what she said, but I knew the routine and I got pissed. I gave warning to my neice and sister to not let this happen. It was unfair and out of left field in his eyes. It continued for a short time and I announced, loudly, that we were leaving and I would never enter that house again. I held to that, her moving made it easier, but I couldn't let him be their target of the day.
They so piss me off. I know they do this to make themselves feel better about themselves. BUT, it sucks when you are the target. I have been a part of their dysfunction in the past. It just seemed like innocent gossip and sarcastic joking, but when I realized exactly what it was, I refuse to be a part of it and will leave. Many times they make someone who didn't attend the ONE. One time it was my son, (they forgot it was MY son). Of course I left!
I have been told I am too sensitive, etc, since refusing to take part anymore. B.S.!!! When people use sarcasm as joking, it is being passive-aggressive and anyone who gets offended is NOT being too sensitive!