Divorce for Dummies

Spunkie
Spunkie i come from downtown. Posts: 7,095
edited January 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
How does one get divorced from an "absentee" husband? That is: one you can't reach to serve papers to, with unknown whereabouts?
I was swimming in the Great Barrier Reef 
Animals were hiding behind the Coral 
Except for little Turtle
I could swear he's trying to talk to me 
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  • rearviewmiror
    rearviewmiror Posts: 894
    There should be a default length of time that it goes through if he is unreachable. (6 months or a year)

    File him as dead, that'll make him resurface.
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  • edvedder913
    edvedder913 Posts: 1,810
    tish wrote:
    How does one get divorced from an "absentee" husband? That is: one you can't reach to serve papers to, with unknown whereabouts?


    it depends on the state you live in I suppose.

    Your cause would obviously be abandonement. I would assume you may be able to do it yourself w/o a signature, but you'd have to consult a lawyer.

    If children are involved, it would be more complicated.
  • BridgeBitch
    BridgeBitch Posts: 87
    It does depend on your state. I would check the website for your county courthouse and they should have information.

    Usually you have to file paperwork with the court stating there is not known contact information and then wait a period of time before you can file.
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  • Spunkie
    Spunkie i come from downtown. Posts: 7,095
    I'm a Canadian. I appreciate the help.
    I was swimming in the Great Barrier Reef 
    Animals were hiding behind the Coral 
    Except for little Turtle
    I could swear he's trying to talk to me 
    Gurgle Gurgle
  • BridgeBitch
    BridgeBitch Posts: 87
    I just did my divorce myself and it wasn't that hard. But there were no children involved. If you have children I'd get a lawyer.

    My county courthouse had people you could meet with the discuss your divorce papers and while they couldn't give legal advice they would check to make sure all your papers were in order. They might have something similar in Canada.
    "Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore."

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  • Spunkie
    Spunkie i come from downtown. Posts: 7,095
    No kids, but I had a preup. Big $.
    I was swimming in the Great Barrier Reef 
    Animals were hiding behind the Coral 
    Except for little Turtle
    I could swear he's trying to talk to me 
    Gurgle Gurgle
  • Spunkie
    Spunkie i come from downtown. Posts: 7,095
    BridgeBitch wrote:
    I just did my divorce myself and it wasn't that hard. But there were no children involved. If you have children I'd get a lawyer.

    My county courthouse had people you could meet with the discuss your divorce papers and while they couldn't give legal advice they would check to make sure all your papers were in order. They might have something similar in Canada.

    What was your first step after making the decision?
    I was swimming in the Great Barrier Reef 
    Animals were hiding behind the Coral 
    Except for little Turtle
    I could swear he's trying to talk to me 
    Gurgle Gurgle
  • edvedder913
    edvedder913 Posts: 1,810
    tish wrote:
    No kids, but I had a preup. Big $.


    You seriously need to get a lawyer. and perhaps hire a PI to find the guy. How long ago did he disappear?
  • surferdude
    surferdude Posts: 2,057
    If there's pre-nup dollars involved I'd get a real lawyer. I did my divorce on my own. I phoned my local university and found that their law students had a weekly free session wher ethey can give advise.
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  • Spunkie
    Spunkie i come from downtown. Posts: 7,095
    The marital contract has been outstanding for many years. I sure would love to wrap up this old business and gain closure.
    I was swimming in the Great Barrier Reef 
    Animals were hiding behind the Coral 
    Except for little Turtle
    I could swear he's trying to talk to me 
    Gurgle Gurgle
  • edvedder913
    edvedder913 Posts: 1,810
    tish wrote:
    The marital contract has been outstanding for many years. I sure would love to wrap up this old business and gain closure.


    are you sure he is alive?
  • eyedclaar
    eyedclaar Posts: 6,980
    tish wrote:
    No kids, but I had a preup. Big $.

    What I'm hearing is that you are available and possibly in line to get a big cash settlement? I don't think we've been formally introduced...
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  • madjack
    madjack Posts: 213
    I tell ya, only one thing that was worst in my life than divorce, that was getting married in the first place.
    Come on and play on the edge of life with me. Its fun and I love every minute of it!!!
  • Spunkie
    Spunkie i come from downtown. Posts: 7,095
    I'm with you on that. It's been the biggest pain-in-the-ass of my life.

    "First comes love and then comes pain." LBC. So true.
    I was swimming in the Great Barrier Reef 
    Animals were hiding behind the Coral 
    Except for little Turtle
    I could swear he's trying to talk to me 
    Gurgle Gurgle
  • BridgeBitch
    BridgeBitch Posts: 87
    tish wrote:
    What was your first step after making the decision?

    I researched all the paperwork I would need and got it filled out. But since you have a prenup that involves money I would see a lawyer. Is it you who sill gain money or him?
    "Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore."

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  • Get_Right
    Get_Right Posts: 14,168
    edvedder913 wrote:
    You seriously need to get a lawyer. and perhaps hire a PI to find the guy. How long ago did he disappear?

    This is good advice. Even in the states its tough to get a divorce in absentia.

    Get a good lawyer, find his assets, then find his ass!!!
  • Spunkie
    Spunkie i come from downtown. Posts: 7,095
    BridgeBitch wrote:
    I researched all the paperwork I would need and got it filled out. But since you have a prenup that involves money I would see a lawyer. Is it you who sill gain money or him?

    The prenup was keep what we started with and split equally what we earn during the marriage. He has had a spectacular career, although I signed a few contracts to bring my end up a bit. I would stand to gain financially, although it is the freedom and peace of mind that motivates me.

    Nearly five years ago, he served me with divorce papers and a respectable/fair offer, but "stupid me" didn't seize the opportunity. Maybe he'll throw another offer at me.

    What sort of paperwork would I bring to the lawyer?
    I was swimming in the Great Barrier Reef 
    Animals were hiding behind the Coral 
    Except for little Turtle
    I could swear he's trying to talk to me 
    Gurgle Gurgle
  • PJPixie
    PJPixie Posts: 3,026
    tish wrote:
    The prenup was keep what we started with and split equally what we earn during the marriage. He has had a spectacular career, although I signed a few contracts to bring my end up a bit. I would stand to gain financially, although it is the freedom and peace of mind that motivates me.

    Nearly five years ago, he served me with divorce papers and a respectable/fair offer, but "stupid me" didn't seize the opportunity. Maybe he'll throw another offer at me.

    What sort of paperwork would I bring to the lawyer?


    I wish you luck in this. It may be a huge headache right now but once it's all said and done you'll feel so much better........even if you don't get any money, I'm sure closure will give you "PEACE" of mind.
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  • prism
    prism Posts: 2,440
    tish wrote:
    The prenup was keep what we started with and split equally what we earn during the marriage. He has had a spectacular career, although I signed a few contracts to bring my end up a bit. I would stand to gain financially, although it is the freedom and peace of mind that motivates me.

    Nearly five years ago, he served me with divorce papers and a respectable/fair offer, but "stupid me" didn't seize the opportunity. Maybe he'll throw another offer at me.

    What sort of paperwork would I bring to the lawyer?

    simple common sense would tell you to bring:

    the pre-nup
    the marriage license
    those divorce papers you were served with five years ago
    copies of any receipts/titles/deeds to jointly owned property, cars or other personal property

    I'd start with those and when you call to make the appointment with the lawyer ask what if any other papers you should bring with you
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