Is it worth it?

stylo17

here's the deal. I've got a friend whose birthday is coming up next week. I'm away in college so I won't be able to see her that day. Now we're still friends and stuff, but we haven't really been that close lately. But back in the day, we were CLOSE. we used to like each other and dated a few times, but when it didn't work out we still remained friends. and yea REAL friends lol. it's just we don't talk that much if at all cause we're both busy. is it worth spending the money on one of those online flowers/gift delivery services like 1800Flowers or not really??

ladies (and guys too I guess lol) how would this make you feel? knowing that a guy (i'm a guy in case many didn't know lol) who you once dated and are still friends with sent you this? and actually remembering it was your birthday too!

thanks everyone.

Fifthelement

Who doesn't love flowers being delivered to them? I love it! Just be clear in the card that it's from 'your friend' just so there is no confusion about your intentions. Unless of course your intentions have changed. Very thoughtful of you btw.

Cheers!

JaneNY

I'd personally be happy with just a card.

stylo17

JaneNY wrote:

I'd personally be happy with just a card.

good point. i just remember seeing my grandmother SO happy when i randomly took her flowers one day. it made her week, probably her month too. i think that's why i first thought of flowers

Brain of J.Lo

stylo17 wrote:

here's the deal. I've got a friend whose birthday is coming up next week. I'm away in college so I won't be able to see her that day. Now we're still friends and stuff, but we haven't really been that close lately. But back in the day, we were CLOSE. we used to like each other and dated a few times, but when it didn't work out we still remained friends. and yea REAL friends lol. it's just we don't talk that much if at all cause we're both busy. is it worth spending the money on one of those online flowers/gift delivery services like 1800Flowers or not really??

ladies (and guys too I guess lol) how would this make you feel? knowing that a guy (i'm a guy in case many didn't know lol) who you once dated and are still friends with sent you this? and actually remembering it was your birthday too!

thanks everyone.

I think that's great! That's a very nice friendly gesture!

IAmMyself

If one of my "close" friends that I used to date, but I don't see very much anymore sent me flowers for the 1st time for my birthday. Well, I would think that they would want to get back to dating vs only being close friends. I would send a card and save your money, unless you want to get closer to her.
I guess the real question is why do you really want to send her flowers?

stylo17

irieinindy wrote:

If one of my "close" friends that I used to date, but I don't see very much anymore sent me flowers for the 1st time for my birthday. Well, I would think that they would want to get back to dating vs only being close friends. I would send a card and save your money, unless you want to get closer to her.
I guess the real question is why do you really want to send her flowers?

I don't know, I just thought all girls liked flowers??

I don't think our relationship is one where she would think I'm trying to get back with her.

Brain of J.Lo

stylo17 wrote:

I don't know, I just thought all girls liked flowers??

I don't think our relationship is one where she would think I'm trying to get back with her.

I wanted to add that I think the type of flowers you send can make it seem more like a friendly gesture. I mean, there are bouquets that say 'I loooooove you..." and then there are ones that say "you're my friend".

And even if she isn't the type of person who drools over flowers, just the thought and the surprise will be really meaningful, I think!

Allie

Brain of J.Lo wrote:

I wanted to add that I think the type of flowers you send can make it seem more like a friendly gesture. I mean, there are bouquets that say 'I loooooove you..." and then there are ones that say "you're my friend".

And even if she isn't the type of person who drools over flowers, just the thought and the surprise will be really meaningful, I think!

true,
I think it is a really lovely gesture
but I think it can be easily misinterpreted, esp. b/c it's on her birthday

It needs to be clear it's just from a friend.

Men usually send flowers b/c they love the woman or they messed up

stylo17

lol alright, i'll make it clear that it's a friendly thing then.

thanks everyone

Collin

I think it's a great idea, man.

Loved it when a friend (a female friend whom I sorted of dated but was a good friend for a long time after) sent me a card for my brithday. We rarely see each other (very busy) and it was just nice to know she still cared and she hadn't forgotten about our friendship. It was only a card but I'm a dude and I'm not into flowers

brain of c

Allie wrote:

true,
I think it is a really lovely gesture
but I think it can be easily misinterpreted, esp. b/c it's on her birthday

It needs to be clear it's just from a friend.

Men usually send flowers b/c they love the woman or they messed up

or they're messed up.

which we are.

we're men.