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Phantom PainPhantom Pain Posts: 9,876
edited June 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
I have I guess what you would call secrets on 2 of my buddies that if their wives found out would most likely end up divorcing them

It's a weird situation to be in.....we're all friends and I think about it sometimes and I know how crappy all their lives would be if their wives found out anything

Even if I told my wife it would be WWIII

Anyone have a situation like this ?
Something that could destroy a relationship or even a friendship ?
My drinking team has a hockey problem

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  • CollinCollin Posts: 4,931
    Yes. It makes me feel powerful :D

    I do know something about a friend, which would also destroy his relationship (he's not married, though).
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  • Phantom PainPhantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    Collin wrote:
    Yes. It makes me feel powerful :D

    I do know something about a friend, which would also destroy his relationship (he's not married, though).

    You almost slip up and say something ?

    I have
    My drinking team has a hockey problem

    The ONLY thing better than a glass of beer is tea with Miss McGill



    A protuberance of flesh above the waistband of a tight pair of trousers
  • CollinCollin Posts: 4,931
    Phantom Pain wrote:
    You almost slip up and say something ?

    I have

    No, it's not the sort of thing you can just say by accident. I can't imagine a single context in which I would be able to slip up and say something.

    That's a lot easier than your situation.
    THANK YOU, LOSTDAWG!


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  • meisteredermeistereder Posts: 1,577
    Men and women often have secrets that they know about others that if they revealed would cause conflict for the person's relationship. I used to think it was mostly guys, but I have found that women do it as much or more than men. I read a national survey recently that more wives now cheat than husbands. First time in history that women are cheating more than men, since the surveys started.
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  • Gremmie95Gremmie95 Posts: 749
    coming from experience, stay the hell out of it.
  • CollinCollin Posts: 4,931
    meistereder wrote:
    Men and women often have secrets that they know about others that if they revealed would cause conflict for the person's relationship. I used to think it was mostly guys, but I have found that women do it as much or more than men. I read a national survey recently that more wives now cheat than husbands. First time in history that women are cheating more than men, since the surveys started.

    That would be the logical conclusion, that my friend cheated on her. But it's actually worse.
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  • SENROCKSENROCK Posts: 10,736
    Phantom Pain wrote:
    I have I guess what you would call secrets on 2 of my buddies that if their wives found out would most likely end up divorcing them

    It's a weird situation to be in.....we're all friends and I think about it sometimes and I know how crappy all their lives would be if their wives found out anything

    Even if I told my wife it would be WWIII

    Anyone have a situation like this ?
    Something that could destroy a relationship or even a friendship ?

    ohhhhhh yes. I've been told ALOT of secrets that would end friendships and marriages. Its a good thing I can be trusted. Otherwise........EVERYONE would be exxxposed!!!
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  • SENROCKSENROCK Posts: 10,736
    Gremmie95 wrote:
    coming from experience, stay the hell out of it.
    yeah. that is pretty much always the safest plan. Its often best when you know nothing at all.
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  • Phantom PainPhantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    Collin wrote:
    No, it's not the sort of thing you can just say by accident. I can't imagine a single context in which I would be able to slip up and say something.

    That's a lot easier than your situation.

    I haven't almsot slipped to the person(s) involved

    But to my wife
    My drinking team has a hockey problem

    The ONLY thing better than a glass of beer is tea with Miss McGill



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  • CollinCollin Posts: 4,931
    SENROCK! wrote:
    ohhhhhh yes. I've been told ALOT of secrets that would end friendships and marriages. Its a good thing I can be trusted. Otherwise........EVERYONE would be exxxposed!!!

    My friend (the one whose secret I know) totally exposed me when I thrusted him with a secret. It turned out okay, though i.e. I was glad in the end that he had said it, but I caused for a lot of shit at the time.
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  • CollinCollin Posts: 4,931
    Phantom Pain wrote:
    I haven't almsot slipped to the person(s) involved

    But to my wife

    Even to a thrid party, it would be impossible. It's a pretty BIG secret.
    THANK YOU, LOSTDAWG!


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  • Phantom PainPhantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    SENROCK! wrote:
    ohhhhhh yes. I've been told ALOT of secrets that would end friendships and marriages. Its a good thing I can be trusted. Otherwise........EVERYONE would be exxxposed!!!

    There was a pact made with the three of us

    As if it were a blood brother thing never to tell

    Weird knowing something that could destroy people
    My drinking team has a hockey problem

    The ONLY thing better than a glass of beer is tea with Miss McGill



    A protuberance of flesh above the waistband of a tight pair of trousers
  • Phantom PainPhantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    meistereder wrote:
    Men and women often have secrets that they know about others that if they revealed would cause conflict for the person's relationship. I used to think it was mostly guys, but I have found that women do it as much or more than men. I read a national survey recently that more wives now cheat than husbands. First time in history that women are cheating more than men, since the surveys started.

    Wow

    I can't imagine if I was the person involved and someone had a secret they were keeping from me

    I guess I'd never want to know
    My drinking team has a hockey problem

    The ONLY thing better than a glass of beer is tea with Miss McGill



    A protuberance of flesh above the waistband of a tight pair of trousers
  • CollinCollin Posts: 4,931
    Phantom Pain wrote:
    There was a pact made with the three of us

    As if it were a blood brother thing never to tell

    Weird knowing something that could destroy people

    Besides my friend, there is one more dude who knows his secret. We've been friends forever.
    THANK YOU, LOSTDAWG!


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  • FifthelementFifthelement Lotusland Posts: 6,963
    Are you comfortable keeping this secret, or is eating away at you? Is there a disinterested third-party that you can confide in, i.e. a therapist? Do they read this message board? Sounds like you feeling the need to let it out.

    Reading your posts it sounds like a movie plot. Did they kill someone when you were all young men? Or are they in a homosexual relationship? Are they having affairs with each other's wives? Those are a few of things that I think could destroy relationships.

    Good luck, I hope that everything works out the way it's supposed to.
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  • HOOKERHOOKER Posts: 1,443
    oooooo secrets. DIRTY SECRETS
    Nice to know you.
  • Phantom PainPhantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    Fifthelement wrote:
    Are you comfortable keeping this secret, or is eating away at you? Is there a disinterested third-party that you can confide in, i.e. a therapist? Do they read this message board? Sounds like you feeling the need to let it out.

    Reading your posts it sounds like a movie plot. Did they kill someone when you were all young men? Or are they in a homosexual relationship? Are they having affairs with each other's wives? Those are a few of things that I think could destroy relationships.

    Good luck, I hope that everything works out the way it's supposed to.

    I'm some what comfortable with it but like I said I can't imagine if I was the one in the dark and someone knew something about my relationship

    No they don't read the Message Board..thankfully

    That 3rd party thing is a tough one..not sure I trust anyone enough to confide in...and I'm not that stressed over it to go to a therapist

    No one died....no homosexual acts.....no affairs

    The one guys wife involved doesn't even let him look at porn I can't imagine what would happen if things came out
    My drinking team has a hockey problem

    The ONLY thing better than a glass of beer is tea with Miss McGill



    A protuberance of flesh above the waistband of a tight pair of trousers
  • Phantom PainPhantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    HOOKER wrote:
    oooooo secrets. DIRTY SECRETS


    You have any ?

    :p
    My drinking team has a hockey problem

    The ONLY thing better than a glass of beer is tea with Miss McGill



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  • decides2dreamdecides2dream Posts: 14,977
    i know a LOT of stuff about many, many people. dunno why, but i do seem to be a confidante and one many onload on. dunno if i have goods to ruin one's relationship or not, i don't even think about it honestly. once someone confides in me, it usually gets discussed right then and there....and while i still 'remember' it...i let it go. besides, it's not my life, not my business. i am thankful i have no secrets in my relationship. the good, the bad and the ugly...all out there...and we accept each other and each other's behaviors thus far. it's a good and freeing feeling.
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  • Phantom PainPhantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    decides2dream wrote:
    i know a LOT of stuff about many, many people. dunno why, but i do seem to be a confidante and one many onload on. dunno if i have goods to ruin one's relationship or not, i don't even think about it honestly. once someone confides in me, it usually gets discussed right then and there....and while i still 'remember' it...i let it go. besides, it's not my life, not my business. i am thankful i have no secrets in my relationship. the good, the bad and the ugly...all out there...and we accept each other and each other's behaviors thus far. it's a good and freeing feeling.

    I usually don't think about either

    But today for some reason it creeped back in

    I'm more like you I remember it but let it go

    There are other aspects of the night it happened that we talk about but we just don't talk about "it"
    My drinking team has a hockey problem

    The ONLY thing better than a glass of beer is tea with Miss McGill



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  • comebackwomancomebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    Phantom Pain wrote:
    I have I guess what you would call secrets on 2 of my buddies that if their wives found out would most likely end up divorcing them

    It's a weird situation to be in.....we're all friends and I think about it sometimes and I know how crappy all their lives would be if their wives found out anything

    Even if I told my wife it would be WWIII

    Anyone have a situation like this ?
    Something that could destroy a relationship or even a friendship ?
    Did he say why he wanted to share the secret with you? It sounds like he shifted some of the burden of whatever he's been carrying to you.
    There's a light when my baby's in my arms :)
  • Phantom PainPhantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    comebackgirl wrote:
    Did he say why he wanted to share the secret with you? It sounds like he shifted some of the burden of whatever he's been carrying to you.

    I was actually there when it happened

    Right in the middle of it

    I was a victim here

    :(
    My drinking team has a hockey problem

    The ONLY thing better than a glass of beer is tea with Miss McGill



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  • HOOKERHOOKER Posts: 1,443
    Phantom Pain wrote:
    You have any ?

    :p


    I do ;) Very juicy story but I'm sure the person would not want me to open my mouth. That would be big trouble.
    Nice to know you.
  • Phantom PainPhantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    HOOKER wrote:
    I do ;) Very juicy story but I'm sure the person would not want me to open my mouth. That would be big trouble.

    Come on

    You're amongst friends here

    Not many people read this board

    ;)
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  • HOOKERHOOKER Posts: 1,443
    Phantom Pain wrote:
    Come on

    You're amongst friends here

    Not many people read this board

    ;)

    The person is a member of this board. ;)
    Nice to know you.
  • upina2001upina2001 Indiana Posts: 764
    No one died....no homosexual acts.....no affairs
    then what is left?

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  • comebackwomancomebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    Phantom Pain wrote:
    I was actually there when it happened

    Right in the middle of it

    I was a victim here

    :(
    That sucks. Was it something that he chose to do while you were there? I think if keeping the secret is making you uncomfortable you should tell him that. Put some of the burden back on to him.
    There's a light when my baby's in my arms :)
  • TrailerTrailer Posts: 1,431
    Phantom Pain wrote:
    Come on

    You're amongst friends here

    Not many people read this board

    ;)

    So then why don't YOU tell us the secrets you're talking about
    Whoa, chill bro... you know you can't raise your voice like that when the lion's here.
  • Phantom PainPhantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    HOOKER wrote:
    The person is a member of this board. ;)

    :eek:

    It isn't about me is it ?

    :D:p
    My drinking team has a hockey problem

    The ONLY thing better than a glass of beer is tea with Miss McGill



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  • Phantom PainPhantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    Trailer wrote:
    So then why don't YOU tell us the secrets you're talking about

    Then they wouldn't be secrets

    ;)
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    The ONLY thing better than a glass of beer is tea with Miss McGill



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