Thinking about mortality

gabers

My wife's grandmother passed away two nights ago at the age of 99. She has been bedridden for about four years after suffering a stroke. But I met her at the young age of 91 and she was so full of life. She told dirty jokes, laughed often, and was quite independent. Even though her health has been deteriorating after her stroke, and in the past week a slew of problems came about, it was of course still sad to see her go, especially for my wife and family. Her passing also has made me think a lot about my own mortality. I found myself not sleeping very well the past few days, thinking about it, especially if I died at a young age, and it got to a point where I was became very anxious. I guess I think that when my time comes, I'll still feel like there will be so much I'd like to accomplish. I know I feel that way now. Just wondering if anyone had similar thoughts after losing someone close to them.

drtyfrnk29

gabers wrote:

My wife's grandmother passed away two nights ago at the age of 99. She has been bedridden for about four years after suffering a stroke. But I met her at the young age of 91 and she was so full of life. She told dirty jokes, laughed often, and was quite independent. Even though her health has been deteriorating after her stroke, and in the past week a slew of problems came about, it was of course still sad to see her go, especially for my wife and family. Her passing also has made me think a lot about my own mortality. I found myself not sleeping very well the past few days, thinking about it, especially if I died at a young age, and it got to a point where I was became very anxious. I guess I think that when my time comes, I'll still feel like there will be so much I'd like to accomplish. I know I feel that way now. Just wondering if anyone had similar thoughts after losing someone close to them.

First, sorry to hear of your loss. Please take comfort in the fact that she spent 99 years living life, and though she may have been bed ridden in the end I'm sure seeing the faces of her family day to day made life worth living.

Next, I'm sure your thoughts are normal. Any time someone close to you passes it conjurs up thoughts of your own mortality. Just dont let it completely saturate your every moment. Eventually it will fade and things will go back to normal. Just concentrate on being there for your wife right now and you'll be fine

PureandEasy

She did live a long, and from what you say, relatively healthy life up until a few years ago. I hope that brings her family comfort at this time.

It is common to think of one's mortality when faced with this type of loss.

I know I have been thinking about it for quite a while now.

In the last 2 years, I have lost 4 friends, all young men (under 45) to heart attacks. Although none of them was in the greatest of shape, or were crazy health fanatics, it’s still too young to die.

And it really makes you think.

markymark550

Yeah, I think that feeling is normal. I felt like that for a while after my father died a little over 3 years ago. I got to thinking about my life and how I hadn't done much or accomplished much of anything and then compound that with just about being finished with college and no job prospects at the time. That feeling and those thoughts do go away after a little time. If I were to be completely honest, I would have to say that once I finished feeling sorry for myself that my dad died, those thoughts and feelings started to go away. Don't get me wrong, I love my dad and miss him so much it hurts sometimes, but I just couldn't continue that self-pity...

gabers

Thanks for the kind thoughts. I figured it was normal to think this way. Maybe it's because I have a young son and I couldn't imagine leaving him fatherless. Not yet anyway. That's probably what really fueled my anxiety.