Horrible People!

Heineken Helen

I HATE my housemate... he's a bollox. Doesn't fucking pay any of his bills.. no actually, since I moved in 2 months ago, he's paid approx £10. My boyfriend's lived with him for months and he says to leave it, that he's just hit hard times at the mo... but even today the gas ran out. It's always up to me or my boyfriend or he just says 'well I've no money' and shrugs. I said 'well I've money but can't get to the shop' and he said 'well I'm not bovvered' :rolleyes: . He talks to himself all the time... or mumbles rather.

Shortly after I moved in we were having a chat... in hindsight it was him telling me he won't be paying any bills. He was going on about how he was got for benefit fraud and now has to pay it back even though it was a misunderstanding :rolleyes: he said 'I might just stop paying maintenance for my eldest daughter... cos everyone else does it and gets away with it so why shouldn't I' :eek: Horrible horrible man!

We're moving out soon though hopefully... can't come soon enough!

Bu2

why don't you just kick him out on his arse?

zacman13245

sounds like a terrible mess. Congrats on moving out though! Things will get better soon enough.

eyedclaar

How many times do I have to advise you people to punch someone in the throat before you will actually listen?

Cree Nations

the guy sounds like he has problems and although its a sad state of affairs, those problems are not yours and YOU still have to pay the bills othewise it puts you in a tough spot.
Just bide your time and leave

pinot768

People that shirk their responsibilities really tick me off. I can understand hard times - been there - but at least try your best to live up to your obligations, rather than just say "f#@k it". I am sorry you are in such a mess...is it possible to kick him out if he doesn't step up and do what he ought to do financially as a housemate?

Heineken Helen

Bu2 wrote:

why don't you just kick him out on his arse?

I would... but he was here first... and the bf gets on with him... so I don't feel like it's my place. But I've had words with the bf cos he completely takes advantage of him and I don't like that. I've seen him giving him food and cigarettes... probably gives him money too. My fellas much nicer than me so, like one user suggested, I'm planning on just biding my time til we move out... cos perhaps there IS stuff I don't know! Or maybe he feels like I'm invading his space or something! Don't worry we STILL pay the bills... cos they're prepaid! So if you don't you've no utilities.

BUT if we don't move out soon I will explode one of these days . I'm just gonna suggest that we all pay £10 or £20 each time it runs out so my bf doesn't have to keep driving to the shop to top it up with his own money all the time.

Heineken Helen

pinot768 wrote:

People that shirk their responsibilities really tick me off. I can understand hard times - been there - but at least try your best to live up to your obligations, rather than just say "f#@k it". I am sorry you are in such a mess...is it possible to kick him out if he doesn't step up and do what he ought to do financially as a housemate?

Not really! Well basically I'm not really officially living here so not much I can do. But he's not financially put out cos of me.

Besides... NO judge will make you pay stuff without ensuring you can afford your own bills first. He buys chinese takeaways often... has bottles of wine, etc.

PJPixie

Roommate/Housemate situations always end bad. I'm so sorry Helen :(

Heineken Helen

PJPixie wrote:

Roommate/Housemate situations always end bad. I'm so sorry Helen :(

Thanks but I've had some wonderful housemates in Dublin over the years... some of them have become some of my closest friends! There have been one or two disasters... mainly with cleanliness... but still lovely people! Only one I couldn't bear to be in the same room as but he didn't stay long... I won't have to put up with this guy for long either. Oh speaking of cleanliness.. he never cleans either :mad:

mickeyrat

Heineken Helen wrote:

Not really! Well basically I'm not really officially living here so not much I can do. But he's not financially put out cos of me.

Besides... NO judge will make you pay stuff without ensuring you can afford your own bills first. He buys chinese takeaways often... has bottles of wine, etc.

so really we're talking about priorities here. Food ,yes a must.Wine etc. when the bills are due? not so much.And I take it from a previous post a shared car? IMO those who fill it get access to the keys.

Heineken Helen

mickeyrat wrote:

so really we're talking about priorities here. Food ,yes a must.Wine etc. when the bills are due? not so much.And I take it from a previous post a shared car? IMO those who fill it get access to the keys.

Nah, he has his own car. That's the issue. I don't have a car but you have to drive to the shop to top up the bills. I have the money and he's driven around before when I gave him money... food's a must... but Chinese takeaway ain't!

Heineken Helen

Oh and also... consider a situation where you can't afford bills for some mad reason and your housemates pay... wouldn't you switch every light off after you? Cut down on the use of gas? Nah.. I get up in THE MORNING and every bloody light has been left on by him going to work when it's already bright! EVERY light! He has a bath EVERY day which is powered by gas. Just bloody ignorant if you ask me.

small town beck

So is this fella single?

LMAO

Sorry, Hels. He sounds like a proper dolt. Glad you are moving out soon.

mickeyrat

Heineken Helen wrote:

Oh and also... consider a situation where you can't afford bills for some mad reason and your housemates pay... wouldn't you switch every light off after you? Cut down on the use of gas? Nah.. I get up in THE MORNING and every bloody light has been left on by him going to work when it's already bright! EVERY light! He has a bath EVERY day which is powered by gas. Just bloody ignorant if you ask me.

well at least his person is clean. So let me get this straight . He works, doesn't pay his part of things,could probably change his priorities, doesn't clean up after himself, is wasteful with shared resources(elec., gas, water).

Wow whats not to like! He must have the lease in his name? Or some upsetting info on your BF?

Heineken Helen

small town beck wrote:

So is this fella single?

LMAO

Sorry, Hels. He sounds like a proper dolt. Glad you are moving out soon.

of course he's single. Had a girl interested in him a while back but was bitching about the cost of texting her and wondering if she was worth it haven't heard much about her since

Heineken Helen

mickeyrat wrote:

well at least his person is clean. So let me get this straight . He works, doesn't pay his part of things,could probably change his priorities, doesn't clean up after himself, is wasteful with shared resources(elec., gas, water).

Wow whats not to like! He must have the lease in his name? Or some upsetting info on your BF?

the lease isn't in his name... my bf is completely non confrontational and way too nice to be dealing with fuckheads like this. He's begged me to leave it so I'm doing it for him... but some day I may snap... and I hope I'm not around when I do

small town beck

Heineken Helen wrote:

of course he's single. Had a girl interested in him a while back but was bitching about the cost of texting her and wondering if she was worth it : D haven't heard much about her since

Oh jeez!! Give him my number please. This guy sounds like a prince and surely won't be on the market long :rolleyes:

JOEJOEJOE

Times must really be tough if Chinese take-away and a daily bath are luxury items!

Heineken Helen

JOEJOEJOE wrote:

Times must really be tough if Chinese take-away and a daily bath are luxury items!

they certainly are if you can't afford to pay your bills :rolleyes:

Lol beck no way

small town beck

Heineken Helen wrote:

they certainly are if you can't afford to pay your bills :rolleyes:

Lol beck no way

Lol yes I am going to go all the way to England for a loser boyfriend surely I can at least find one of those in Canada

angie76

eh...well good thing you are moving.

Cosmo

Heineken Helen wrote:

I HATE my housemate... he's a bollox. Doesn't fucking pay any of his bills.. no actually, since I moved in 2 months ago, he's paid approx £10. My boyfriend's lived with him for months and he says to leave it, that he's just hit hard times at the mo... but even today the gas ran out. It's always up to me or my boyfriend or he just says 'well I've no money' and shrugs. I said 'well I've money but can't get to the shop' and he said 'well I'm not bovvered' :rolleyes: . He talks to himself all the time... or mumbles rather.

Shortly after I moved in we were having a chat... in hindsight it was him telling me he won't be paying any bills. He was going on about how he was got for benefit fraud and now has to pay it back even though it was a misunderstanding :rolleyes: he said 'I might just stop paying maintenance for my eldest daughter... cos everyone else does it and gets away with it so why shouldn't I' :eek: Horrible horrible man!

We're moving out soon though hopefully... can't come soon enough!

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You're better off making a new start by moving into another place. You can make it YOURS... and you'll feel much better.
If your boyfriend would feel bad about leaving this guy in a fix... the guy survived this long... he'll survive by leeching off someone else.
Good luck and I hope you find a place you can call your home.

SoonForgotten2

Well, be happy he doesn't have Aspergers. Trust me on that one.

Heineken Helen

Cosmo wrote:

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You're better off making a new start by moving into another place. You can make it YOURS... and you'll feel much better.
If your boyfriend would feel bad about leaving this guy in a fix... the guy survived this long... he'll survive by leeching off someone else.
Good luck and I hope you find a place you can call your home.

thank you we're on our way... we've got a potential FANTASTIC possibility coming up which could lead to us owning our own place pretty soon. So that's one of the reasons he's really not getting to me THAT much. I just hate the guy and think he's a major asshole... and needed to vent here... but it's not like he's ruined ANY of my days . My bf told him long ago about us moving so he knows what situation he'll be getting into. I'm not gonna let him feel sorry for him... but if he wants to, I'm not gonna let him come between us either so I just do whatever the fella wants with this one since he's known him longer.

But if what could happen actually happens it's gonna be amazing

Heineken Helen

small town beck wrote:

Lol yes I am going to go all the way to England for a loser boyfriend surely I can at least find one of those in Canada

or you can just wait and find that fucking brilliant guy that you deserve... I vote for my answer by the way

Heineken Helen

hartamh wrote:

Sounds like a real sleeze ball:mad: I hate people like that :eek:

same here! Although he's still better than the THIRD guy who was living here... robbed my boyfriend twice (and I'm talking tv, xbox, etc.) and it was only when the cops figured it out and busted down the door one saturday morning cos he'd robbed half the neighbours, his sisters jewellery shop, everybody, that it all clicked. The other guy walked in on him smoking crack one day :eek: so this guy is sleeze ball light... but still sleeze ball! Yep, tis a GREAT town I've moved to

TrixieCat

That is bullshit Helen.
Sorry you are going thru that.
Don't let it stop you from buying prezzies for your Jehovah's Witness family members tho.

Prezzies for everyone.

JOEJOEJOE

Heineken Helen wrote:

same here! Although he's still better than the THIRD guy who was living here... robbed my boyfriend twice (and I'm talking tv, xbox, etc.) and it was only when the cops figured it out and busted down the door one saturday morning cos he'd robbed half the neighbours, his sisters jewellery shop, everybody, that it all clicked. The other guy walked in on him smoking crack one day :eek: so this guy is sleeze ball light... but still sleeze ball! Yep, tis a GREAT town I've moved to

I hope your BF's taste in GF's is better then his taste in housemates!

Heineken Helen

TrixieCat wrote:

That is bullshit Helen.
Sorry you are going thru that.
Don't let it stop you from buying prezzies for your Jehovah's Witness family members tho.

Prezzies for everyone.

ah don't worry.. I'm quite happy in general. This guy pisses me off everytime I see him but I just avoid him so I don't see him that often. What he said earlier just pissed me off though 'well I'm not bovvered' :rolleyes: but he's a loser and he'll always be a loser. It's costing us money that we can't afford at the moment but it won't be for long and I'll bad mouth him all over town... so good luck finding somewhere else to live when we move out... LOSER

but thank you.. nothing stops me buying pressies though

Heineken Helen

JOEJOEJOE wrote:

I hope your BF's taste in GF's is better then his taste in housemates!

it's MUCH better