i have the most awesome best friend so just thought id let everyone know.
only known her since September (when we both started at Uni), but wow we've clicked. shes crazy, mumbles a lot, likes a lot of good and a lot of strange music, is liked by all, is funny, laughs all the time, doesnt judge, is up for giving everything at least a go.
guys honestly can be just friends with girls. i feel like ive fallen in love, but without any of the lust or sexual attraction
*happy*
I posted almost this exact thread a little over a year ago, detailing how amazing this friend was and when people started saying stuff like "marry her", I said that it wasn't that kind of love that I had for her, it was an amazingly strong platonic love etc and I thought everyone was just being cynical. I totally believed it and believe that you do. I'm sorry to say it won't last though. Another 3 months on and I was madly head over heels in love with her. Please for the love of god make sure this doesn't happen or if it does, she feels the same. It isn't much fun otherwise
I think maybe there is a pure kind of friendship in which this exists, hell I've said it often enough. I've just become sceptical from experience. If I'm wrong I'm truly happy for you
EDIT - I read the rest of the thread and, lo and behold I and everyone else was right please pay attention to what I said above though. I'm talking from very real experience here. make sure you don't push it too much either. If she doesnt feel the same, she'll think that your friendship was an excuse for you to get in with her. It doesn't go down well.
"I remember one night at Muzdalifa with nothing but the sky overhead, I lay awake amid sleeping Muslim brothers and I learned that pilgrims from every land — every colour, and class, and rank; high officials and the beggar alike — all snored in the same language"
well shes gone away for the weekend.
just dont know what to think right now! mixed signals gallore.
im thinking of taking the wimps way out... going through a friend in a 'confidential conversation.' you know women. she'll know how i feel within 2 minutes of me speaking to one of our mutual female friends about it
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I assume it's yes if you're talking about mixed signals...
My advice would be leave it to develop naturally and see what happens. If you consciously drop hints and she starts acting awkward then that will pretty much fuck everything up.
Paul
'06 - London, Dublin, Reading
'07 - Katowice, Wembley, Dusseldorf, Copenhagen, Nijmegen
'09 - London, Manchester, London
'12 - Manchester, Manchester, Berlin, Stockholm, Copenhagen
i've been friends with this guy for a little over 5 years. we've always clicked and he happens to be one of the hottest guys i've ever seen...yet i've never been attracted to him in "that way".
so...i think it's very possible for guys/girls to have a connection like this still within the friend zone.
Yeah, I've been there. Got real close to a girl over one summer... thought things were developing mutually. So I told her how I feel. Turns out: not so mutual. Luckily, after an awkward year or two, we're pretty much best friends now.:)
Smokey Robinson constantly looks like he's trying to act natural after being accused of farting.
Yeah, DEFINITELY strike while the iron's hot my friend. I had a female friend just like that who I met at the beginning of the year. It was great, everything built slowly but surely... but I never did anything, and it just eventually fizzled. Because honestly, men and women don't have that much in common (MOST of the time). So if you don't have that deeper connection with them, you'll eventually realize that she isn't the best fit for you as a friend. I actually avoid her a lot now because she actually annoys me more often than not.
BUT, it seems like you have something good there with tons of shared interests. So maybe you can be just friends. Who knows?
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Yeah, DEFINITELY strike while the iron's hot my friend. I had a female friend just like that who I met at the beginning of the year. It was great, everything built slowly but surely... but I never did anything, and it just eventually fizzled. Because honestly, men and women don't have that much in common (MOST of the time). So if you don't have that deeper connection with them, you'll eventually realize that she isn't the best fit for you as a friend. I actually avoid her a lot now because she actually annoys me more often than not.
BUT, it seems like you have something good there with tons of shared interests. So maybe you can be just friends. Who knows?
we'll see, but we live together as well in university halls... so its hard when youre with someone 24/7...
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I think maybe there is a pure kind of friendship in which this exists, hell I've said it often enough. I've just become sceptical from experience. If I'm wrong I'm truly happy for you
EDIT - I read the rest of the thread and, lo and behold I and everyone else was right
going to see nine black alps together tommorow night.
will keep posted haha.
just dont know what to think right now! mixed signals gallore.
im thinking of taking the wimps way out... going through a friend in a 'confidential conversation.' you know women. she'll know how i feel within 2 minutes of me speaking to one of our mutual female friends about it
x
I assume it's yes if you're talking about mixed signals...
My advice would be leave it to develop naturally and see what happens. If you consciously drop hints and she starts acting awkward then that will pretty much fuck everything up.
'06 - London, Dublin, Reading
'07 - Katowice, Wembley, Dusseldorf, Copenhagen, Nijmegen
'09 - London, Manchester, London
'12 - Manchester, Manchester, Berlin, Stockholm, Copenhagen
so...i think it's very possible for guys/girls to have a connection like this still within the friend zone.
BUT, it seems like you have something good there with tons of shared interests. So maybe you can be just friends. Who knows?
we'll see, but we live together as well in university halls... so its hard when youre with someone 24/7...