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pjwhipjwhi Posts: 31
edited April 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
Long story short.... been married for 9 months, been together for 7 years and she left 3 weeks ago and says she no longer loves me....

Fucking sucks.....
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  • small town becksmall town beck Posts: 6,691
    That sucks :(


    Any chance of working it out? That must hurt... it is a good place here for people to talk . *hug*


    Take care!
  • pjwhipjwhi Posts: 31
    She's done....I'm willing....

    anyone been through this shit before? any advice to offer?

    Thanks in advance.
  • lukin2006lukin2006 Posts: 9,087
    Sorry, that does suck.
    I have certain rules I live by ... My First Rule ... I don't believe anything the government tells me ... George Carlin

    "Life Is What Happens To You When Your Busy Making Other Plans" John Lennon
  • OffHeGoes29OffHeGoes29 Posts: 1,240
    That hurts man, you must be in shock about the whole thing.

    Hang in there bud, I don't know what to say to something like that. Just hang in there and ride this shit out. She just figured this out NOW after 7 years? Let that one go.
    BRING BACK THE WHALE
  • prljmngrlprljmngrl Posts: 320
    Whats the rest of the story? She must be pissed about something? Most women don't invest 7 years into a relationship only to leave it 9 months after getting the coveted prize.
  • OffHeGoes29OffHeGoes29 Posts: 1,240
    prljmngrl wrote:
    Whats the rest of the story? She must be pissed about something? Most women don't invest 7 years into a relationship only to leave it 9 months after getting the coveted prize.

    I don't think all women want to get married. My last girlfriend refused to. I didn't ask her, but she let me know that from day one.
    BRING BACK THE WHALE
  • prljmngrlprljmngrl Posts: 320
    OffHeGoes29 wrote:
    I don't think all women want to get married. My last girlfriend refused to. I didn't ask her, but she let me know that from day one.
    no not all, which is why I said most
  • OffHeGoes29OffHeGoes29 Posts: 1,240
    My mistake
    BRING BACK THE WHALE
  • yellowled24yellowled24 Posts: 3,118
    PJwhip wrote:
    Long story short.... been married for 9 months, been together for 7 years and she left 3 weeks ago and says she no longer loves me....

    Fucking sucks.....
    from personal experience there IS nothing you or anyone can do :( and this is the first fact that needs to be recognised.
    Second, just completely ride this thing out...even if you manage to just keep your head above water...eventually the pain lessens and gets replaced with anger (which is a process of grief, which is what you are, in essence, dealing with).
    Its the typical cliche' but time does heal. Even if it doesnt erase...it does heal my friend.
    All the best...you know we're always here so all you have to do is reach out.
    Take care :)
    "....and was very surprised to see that he didnt actually have a recipe for anus-ankle soup." - Big Ed
  • Fighting HellfishFighting Hellfish Posts: 3,166
    I would look into getting the marriage annulled, as opposed to just getting a divorce.
  • journeymanjourneyman Posts: 135
    A good buddy of mine went through a similar deal. There's hope.
    Or will it be for the better?
  • ironlionzion74ironlionzion74 Posts: 75
    PJwhip wrote:
    Long story short.... been married for 9 months, been together for 7 years and she left 3 weeks ago and says she no longer loves me....

    Fucking sucks.....
    Ride the wave thats all I can say.It's always painful but it lessens with time.And also they usually come back.If that happens it's up to you decide what is best for you.
  • pjwhipjwhi Posts: 31
    Thx for the responses.....

    The rest of the story?

    She says that I didn't give her enough attention, affection or conversation....
    She recently made friends with people from her work, and I believe that they convinced her that I'm the devil...
  • prljmngrlprljmngrl Posts: 320
    PJwhip wrote:
    She says that I didn't give her enough attention, affection or conversation....
    ...
    and in 7 years 9 months this is the first time she mentioned it?
  • ladygooddivaladygooddiva Posts: 4,169
    I am sorry to hear that ..well i want to marry before ..but now well
    on may 2nd 10 years together ..4 years living together since 9 months a wonderfull girl,engaged but for what i should get marry now..we are fine like that ...i think
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