Confidence and despair

given2fly78

Oh, I wouldn't say I'm depressed. Just go through ups and downs. And I've never met anyone who doesn't. Even question their own abilities, future, status, life.

I kind of think we need to do that to a certain extent. It keeps me grounded and have a good deal of perspective. As well as the ability to get back in action with goals in mind. And when I'm feeling confident, I never forget how bad it felt to be down. And I hold those good feelings very closely.

stargirl69

Think most people feel this.I certainly do but as I've got older I recognise the triggers and can manage them better.
But I can be a master of cover up,can feel very low but if there's things that can't be avoided I just suck it up and get on with it.Then crawl back into my security afterwards.

harmless_little_f***

Fins, I've just noticed this thread but thanks for it.

Yes, I experience this. I'm not sure if it's bipolar or what - my parents laugh or shrug off any talk of depression; they always have - but I frequently go from total elation and a feeling of 'everything will be right in the world' to a total pit of despair and loneliness. I seem to be feeling a strange mix of the two at the moment. It's making me obsessively creative though, and I'm working on a painting and my second book this week.

My work is causing me the most stress at the moment; my confidence at work goes from bad to worse, and I'm just fighting hard to keep my job. Not everything's bad; I'm in a relationship again. But on the whole, my mood is all over the place.

KosmicJelli

highly creative people are usually diagnosed with bi-polar disorder...


I think its hard for people to understand high levels of creativity and the physical, emotional and mental drain creativeness takes to make your expression real... whatever that creative venture is...

GreenTeaDisease

when I am not thinking about work at all I fine. when I think about work in the least, despair.

Also I have a hormonal probably that literally just changes my mood once a month. I'll be fine and then experience complete dysphoria.

Whizbang

Yes, I get mood swings. But I've learned as I've aged what triggers them. And 100% of the time, it's hormones. Now that I know, I don't feel the need to take out a "bad" mood on other people. I might be a bit more impatient but I've learned to keep that in check, ask myself why I'm so impatient about Y situation and think through it logically. I'm an emotionally reserved person anyway...very few get to see it all from me. Just my approach to life. Flying off the handle emotionally just because I'm hormonal doesn't make sense and I think it's shitty that some (not all) women use it as an excuse to be a bitch.

dunkman

FinsburyParkCarrots wrote:

Who fluctuates between these two states of disposition, to extremes, and how do such turns of heart and mood manifest themselves? Are there external or internal triggers that send you plummeting?

i dont fluctuate from one to the other at all... i wouldnt know what despair was? i had a shit time just before Xmas this year but i wasnt wallowing in my own mire of despair... i was pretty down about it all, but within 5 days of it happening i was arranging a night out so i could face it full on..

but depair?? nope.. i've never even been depressed.. felt low or upset a few times.. but people throw out the depressed term to readily... which is unfair to people who truly have depression..

Heineken Helen

dunkman wrote:

i dont fluctuate from one to the other at all... i wouldnt know what despair was? i had a shit time just before Xmas this year but i wasnt wallowing in my own mire of despair... i was pretty down about it all, but within 5 days of it happening i was arranging a night out so i could face it full on..

but depair?? nope.. i've never even been depressed.. felt low or upset a few times.. but people throw out the depressed term to readily... which is unfair to people who truly have depression..

I agree... most of the time I'm in a great mood... but the odd time I have bad days and i think given2fly78 has great posts here. Usually when I'm feeling low, I actually want to and find it's just how I need to be that day, that sometimes I get tired and actually can't be bothered putting a positive spin on things. I've had some pretty bad times and, while they've been difficult to get through, I try and remind myself when things are good... and I think it makes the good times even better.

nuffingman

FinsburyParkCarrots wrote:

Who fluctuates between these two states of disposition, to extremes, and how do such turns of heart and mood manifest themselves? Are there external or internal triggers that send you plummeting?

All of my fluctuations seem to revolve around work. If it's going well I'm pretty upbeat. If it's crap then i hit a low. Perhaps it's time to quit and hang my boots up.

MattCameronKicksButt

I'm not really sure what this thread is about. Is it about being depressed, being bipolor or simply how well you cope through bad times in your life?

MattCameronKicksButt

MattCameronKicksButt wrote:

I'm not really sure what this thread is about. Is it about being depressed, being bipolor or simply how well you cope through bad times in your life?

My moods aren't really extreme. I go from being unhappy to really unhappy. I think in my case it's hereditry (sp) and it's definitely caused by internal factors. You can't get angry at people for being like that though, everyone just copes with things differently.

(Sorry for quoting myself, that was a mistake).