RIP Cateeto.

norm

Cateeto wrote:

I really wish I could just think of all the joy he has brought me... But unfortunately she took that from me too. All I can see is this bad situation when I think of him. It shouldn't be that way. I can't even see it being any different in the future. Unfortunately my cat is going to be what ties me to breaking up my family.

But maybe this is positive.

right now you're angry.....but this will pass and you will remember all the good the cateeto brought you......focus on the future....:)

Twiggy

Mr. Cateeto wrote:

Well-played. I can just imagine the look on her face, in her old age, when the doctor comes in with a syringe and says, "well, you're getting up there in years. We're gonna have to put you down."

Your mother sounds VERY caustic. Avoid at all costs.

I speak from experience.

you are

i'm a cat lover also. i'm so sorry for your loss. i can only imagine how you feel. my mom's cat still looks young (he's 17), but he has arthritis. my mom gives him his pain killers to help ease his pain. i believe he still has a few years left. when something does happen to him, we're all going to be really sad. he really is part of the family. my mom will be hurt the most though - that's her baby. and he looks at her differently than all the rest of us. he knows who is mom is.

anyway, ((hugs)) and i'm so sorry. i'll be praying for you.

shell bell

I'm so sorry for your loss. My cat Sherman ,was 17 when he had to be put to sleep,he had bad health problems. He would also give hugs like your cat did. I wish that you and Mr. Cateeto could have figured out a way to kidnap your cat. Hugs to you.........

Cateeto

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CHANGEinWAVES

I'm sorry about ur cat :(
and about the stab in the back from your mother.

Cateeto

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JaneNY

I am so, so sorry. I am a huge cat lover and once did have to put down a cat who was dying. It was horrible. I can't even imagine how horrible this was, when he was basically healthy, and your dear friend. I'm not going to tell you to not cut ties with your family if that's what you feel you must do. Not every relationship is worth preserving and blood isn't everything either. Maybe you cutting yourself off from them will wake them up. I wouldn't blame you a bit. Again my strongest condolences on the loss of your cat.

Urban Hiker

So sorry for the loss of your little Cateeto.

I don't know what to say about your mom, but I agree that severing ties may be best. My mom has pulled some similar things. Pets went missing while we were visiting my dad's or she would say that she took them "to a farm" or to the "no kill shelter". Turns out the place was always the same, it was the highest kill shelter in the area and she would out of the blue take our pets there.
I love my mom dearly and there are times that I reach to her for support, but it has so often come at some sort of twisted manipulative price, I only do it when I cannot help but need my Mother. I've removed myself from holidays, etc, and have to say it's been nice exerting some control over the relationship. I have become confident in being able to walk away the instant she seems to be heading towards twisting things around. And I have to say I find my mom more pleasant since this change in our relationship.

Best of luck to you. Again I'm sorry for your loss. Take care.

Abookamongstthemany

So sorry to hear about your loss. :( I have a kitty named Serj that gives me the kind of hugs you mentioned. He puts his paws around my neck, rubs his face against mine and licks my cheeks. I'm so attached to that cat it would crush me if anything every happened to him so I understand your pain.

PJaddicted

I am truly sorry for your great loss. I am also sorry about how your mother and father are acting....just too f**ked for words. This may go beyond normal trying to cope feelings after a huge loss. You may want to find a pet loss group, or seek some counseling for grief. Some losses are harder for us to process, especially when their are other issues to deal with besides the loss. Please take good care of yourself. One day at a time. When you feel better, don't deny yourself the love of another pet, there is always one out there who needs you.

oxc

redrock

Sorry about your kitty. I've had cats all my life and I know how great of a companion they are. I currently have 5 with my oldest one being 18.

Apart from your mother's actions, what I can't understand is the vet putting down a healthy (albeit old) animal which had a home. That is very wrong.

brain of c

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/19959718/from/ET/

redrock

oh brain of c.!!!!! If I am ill and in bed, all my five cats are cuddled up on the bed with me and only get up for food and nature's calls! They don't go out or anything, just stay on the bed. Gonna have to think twice about that now that I've read that article... :eek:

brain of c

redrock wrote:

oh brain of c.!!!!! If I am ill and in bed, all my five cats are cuddled up on the bed with me and only get up for food and nature's calls! They don't go out or anything, just stay on the bed. Gonna have to think twice about that now that I've read that article... :eek:

i know. creepy.

Cateeto

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luvisatower

awwwwsweetie!
i'm so sorry to hear this

PJaddicted

Cateeto wrote:

But back to the vet thing... Would a vet actually do this? Somewhere I've heard that they will put healthy cats down if the owner requests it... Somewhere else I've heard that they won't. And who is to say that she really, honestly, took my dear cat to the vet? I don't want to think this way, but what if she just killed him herself? My god...

The vet WILL put down an elderly animal. I've had to do it twice in the last two years. One was a 17 year old GSH Pointer who had lost all control of his bladder and bowels. It got to the point that he would walk and poop and pee would come out of him, then he would pace in it and fall down and not be able to get up. To all who knew him, he looked fantastic, was still eating and healthy. We tried Doggie Diapers, but they were too heavy for his frail old frame, and he would fall over just walking in them. So we had to take him, and it was not an easy thing to do. But our quality of life was gone due to constant pee and poop everywhere. We tried for a year to live with it. The other dog was my moms 16.5 year old Jack Russel Terrier. She was completely gone mentally, starting to mess in the house, and just looked so sad, tail under her legs all the time, seemed like she was in pain. She had no quality of life left. Two different vets put these dogs down, no questions asked. They knew they were old.

Again I am so sorry. You will have to let this all go....sounds like you will never get any answers out of your mom, you will have to make some peace with the situation. If she did indeed put the cat to sleep, it is a very peaceful way to go. I've held 5 animals in the last two years as they left, only one was in horrible pain when he went out.

The best to you.

oxc

iluvcats

Cateeto wrote:

I'm not disagreeing with you there.

I was so angry today that I was shaking, trying hard not to explode... I felt like I seriously could have destroyed someone, a person... her. But I didn't. I just silently walked away. I hope that will be damage enough.

She will not recieve phonecalls.

She will not have holidays.

She will not even see me. Ever.

Or our children, when we have them.

Unfortunately with this, I also have to cut ties with the rest of my family and that is really fucking with me... You can't just stop loving people. But my whole family is so naive with her... I can't ever make them see her for who she really is... And they slowly all become her. What am I to do? I have to walk away from it all...

This just isn't about a cat anymore... It's so much more... And I hate it. This is supposed to be the best time of my life...

I just got married... I'm out on my own... I've got amazing friends for once... I'm going to see Pearl Jam at the fucking VIC theater next week AND Lollapalooza... And then this shit happens!? She does have perfect timing to make everything in my life unhappy and the most inappropriate times...

To hell with her.

why are you going to cut ties with the rest of your family because of her meanness and lack of caring for you or the cat? your parents made the bad decision, what's the aunts or cousins got to do with it? I wouldn't cut my ties, just my opinion. I would try to avoid the subject to the rest of the family.

I realize you are newly wed, but you may need your family (not her) in the future. I hate to see families divided or children not knowing their relatives.

when you were growing up, did she seem like she liked cats or just tolerated them/it because it was your pet?

iluvcats

also

without telling your mom, I'd go back and look around the neighborhood for it.
It costs $60 or more (I think) for the vet to put the animal to sleep. She may have dumped it off somewhere in the neighborhood or just let him out.