i could use some reasonable advice

Pennyroyal Tea

OK i'm going to make this as short as I can.

I recently had a bad falling out with this girl...this very dramatic girl. I was really angry and posted a nasty blog about the situation on myspace...kinda like a poem (yes i know its stupid....was just venting...)

After cooling down, I realized it was a mistake. This girl's been known to do pretty fucked up stuff to people over nothing...and i just heard from someone she's furious.

I've got a toddler, and I don't need her fucking with us. Not to mention she knows a lot about me.....things that might hurt me if she decides to start talking shit.

....any suggestions on what to do...?

HOOKER

has she been trying to reach you?

markymark550

apologize and say that your anger over the situation caused you to do something stupid (write the blog)

that's the best I've got....either she accepts your apology or doesn't

Pennyroyal Tea

HOOKER wrote:

has she been trying to reach you?

No, but she wouldn't do it like that. She's weird. She wouldn't let me know what she was going to do.

I'm not sure what to do.

HOOKER

markymark550 wrote:

apologize and say that your anger over the situation caused you to do something stupid (write the blog)

that's the best I've got....either she accepts your apology or doesn't

I agree.

Pennyroyal Tea

markymark550 wrote:

apologize and say that your anger over the situation caused you to do something stupid (write the blog)

that's the best I've got....either she accepts your apology or doesn't

I considered that, but i know her response will be something like "fuck you" .....anyway, if she's planning something fucked up, it won't change her mind. I've enver knwon her to forgive anyone.

eyedclaar

I can make your problem disappear, but it's going to cost you...

HOOKER

eyedclaar wrote:

I can make your problem disappear, but it's going to cost you...

hehe.

Damn.. she sounds evil...

norm

my advice is all unreasonable....sorry

markymark550

Pennyroyal Tea wrote:

I considered that, but i know my response will be something like "fuck you" .....anyway, if she's planning something fucked up, it won't change her mind. I've enver knwon her to forgive anyone.

last time I checked, "fuck you" wasn't much of an apology.....

sorry to say it, but if she doesn't forgive people and likes to get revenge, I don't think it's going to bode well for you.....only other suggestion I have is to do something over-the-top nice for her to try and get her to not want revenge

Drop The Leash 10

restraining order

Pennyroyal Tea

markymark550 wrote:

last time I checked, "fuck you" wasn't much of an apology.....

sorry to say it, but if she doesn't forgive people and likes to get revenge, I don't think it's going to bode well for you.....only other suggestion I have is to do something over-the-top nice for her to try and get her to not want revenge

nono, edit: her response.

i would not be saying "fuck you".

LeilaMoonTurtle

ok I tried staying away from this thread


--apologize, something short sweet to the point

--y r u calling her dramatic when u posted something online aboutthe situation, seems pretty dramatic to me


--do not engage in arguing just apologize and if she flips out tell her yep, I messed up and repeat apology

Pennyroyal Tea wrote:

I considered that, but i know her response will be something like "fuck you" .....anyway, if she's planning something fucked up, it won't change her mind. I've enver knwon her to forgive anyone.

markymark550

Pennyroyal Tea wrote:

nono, edit: her response.

i would not be saying "fuck you".

ok, gotcha.....I was a bit confused about that.

Pennyroyal Tea

LeilaMoonTurtle wrote:

ok I tried staying away from this thread


--apologize, something short sweet to the point

--y r u calling her dramatic when u posted something online aboutthe situation, seems pretty dramatic to me


--do not engage in arguing just apologize and if she flips out tell her yep, I messed up and repeat apology

alright, i'm going to delete this thread now.

thank you to those of you who gave me a bit of sincere advice, i do appreciate that.

the only reason i came here was because i really needed some advice. i dont know many people around here that are not friends with her, and i thought i could get some help.

I honeslty do not understand people who are so quick to judge when someone is standing there asking for help.

yes i was angry, yes i fucked up, but i could do without these catty responses. For fuck's sake if I'm dramatic too for venting, then fine, but I don't go around beating the shit out of people or black-mailing them for talking shit about me. So there's a difference between us for you...

riffrandall

Personally I think there's a difference between a girl who is crazy like, hire a skywriter to say you're bad in bed and also a total wanker, and someone who would hurt a toddler?
If you're really afraid that she might show up at your house with a knife and do something like that, you need to get a restraining order against her. Those can be hard to get though without a threat.

If she's just mad & tends to be nutty & angry, you are probably just looking at some embarrasment and possibly some yelling. I really wouldn't even let her know it bothers you.

LeilaMoonTurtle

judge?

it is not a judgement, it is a call to reality, yea she might be nuts but u reacted the way she does, might have been because of the situation, but u should be clear on the fact that whether she is nuts or not, u did something, u should apologize and move on


if she harrasses u, u can report her or whatever, and u will be able to do so knowing that u tried to stop it.


that is reasonable advice

if u wanted a hug or someone to tell u she is nuts that is a diff story, just ask and u shall receive

Pennyroyal Tea wrote:

alright, i'm going to delete this thread now.

thank you to those of you who gave me a bit of sincere advice, i do appreciate that.

the only reason i came here was because i really needed some advice. i dont know many people around here that are not friends with her, and i thought i could get some help.

I honeslty do not understand people who are so quick to judge when someone is standing there asking for help.

yes i was angry, yes i fucked up, but i could do without these catty responses. For fuck's sake if I'm dramatic too for venting, then fine, but I don't go around beating the shit out of people or black-mailing them for talking shit about me. So there's a difference between us for you...

tybird

Send flowers and a nice note.

Whizbang

Pennyroyal Tea wrote:

I considered that, but i know her response will be something like "fuck you" .....anyway, if she's planning something fucked up, it won't change her mind. I've enver knwon her to forgive anyone.

Even though you know her response will be for you to take your apology and shove it, be the bigger person and apologize anyway. Take down your blog while you're at it.

Pennyroyal Tea

LeilaMoonTurtle wrote:

judge?

it is not a judgement, it is a call to reality, yea she might be nuts but u reacted the way she does, might have been because of the situation, but u should be clear on the fact that whether she is nuts or not, u did something, u should apologize and move on


if she harrasses u, u can report her or whatever, and u will be able to do so knowing that u tried to stop it.


that is reasonable advice

if u wanted a hug or someone to tell u she is nuts that is a diff story, just ask and u shall receive

I think it is reasonable to say that I should apologize....but I'm aware that it was a dumb move. I've said so.

And I probably should apologize for my own good, but she's fucked up so much for me....I'm going to grit my teeth while doing it. She does not deserve an apology, whether I give her one or not.

but reality's called me already, thanks.

LeilaMoonTurtle

yep
this thread proves there still are reasonable people in the pit
yay!