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Pennyroyal TeaPennyroyal Tea Posts: 30
edited June 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
OK i'm going to make this as short as I can.

I recently had a bad falling out with this girl...this very dramatic girl. I was really angry and posted a nasty blog about the situation on myspace...kinda like a poem (yes i know its stupid....was just venting...)

After cooling down, I realized it was a mistake. This girl's been known to do pretty fucked up stuff to people over nothing...and i just heard from someone she's furious.

I've got a toddler, and I don't need her fucking with us. Not to mention she knows a lot about me.....things that might hurt me if she decides to start talking shit.

....any suggestions on what to do...?
"You, my love, are allowed to rot and to die and to live again more alive and incandescent than before"
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  • HOOKERHOOKER Posts: 1,443
    has she been trying to reach you?
    Nice to know you.
  • markymark550markymark550 Columbia, SC Posts: 5,173
    apologize and say that your anger over the situation caused you to do something stupid (write the blog)

    that's the best I've got....either she accepts your apology or doesn't
  • Pennyroyal TeaPennyroyal Tea Posts: 30
    HOOKER wrote:
    has she been trying to reach you?

    No, but she wouldn't do it like that. She's weird. She wouldn't let me know what she was going to do.

    I'm not sure what to do.
    "You, my love, are allowed to rot and to die and to live again more alive and incandescent than before"
  • HOOKERHOOKER Posts: 1,443
    markymark550 wrote:
    apologize and say that your anger over the situation caused you to do something stupid (write the blog)

    that's the best I've got....either she accepts your apology or doesn't


    I agree.
    Nice to know you.
  • Pennyroyal TeaPennyroyal Tea Posts: 30
    markymark550 wrote:
    apologize and say that your anger over the situation caused you to do something stupid (write the blog)

    that's the best I've got....either she accepts your apology or doesn't

    I considered that, but i know her response will be something like "fuck you" .....anyway, if she's planning something fucked up, it won't change her mind. I've enver knwon her to forgive anyone.
    "You, my love, are allowed to rot and to die and to live again more alive and incandescent than before"
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  • HOOKERHOOKER Posts: 1,443
    eyedclaar wrote:
    I can make your problem disappear, but it's going to cost you...

    hehe.

    Damn.. she sounds evil...
    Nice to know you.
  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    my advice is all unreasonable....sorry :o
  • markymark550markymark550 Columbia, SC Posts: 5,173
    Pennyroyal Tea wrote:
    I considered that, but i know my response will be something like "fuck you" .....anyway, if she's planning something fucked up, it won't change her mind. I've enver knwon her to forgive anyone.
    last time I checked, "fuck you" wasn't much of an apology.....

    sorry to say it, but if she doesn't forgive people and likes to get revenge, I don't think it's going to bode well for you.....only other suggestion I have is to do something over-the-top nice for her to try and get her to not want revenge
  • Drop The Leash 10Drop The Leash 10 Posts: 7,011
    restraining order :p
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    Once I get out of this town


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  • Pennyroyal TeaPennyroyal Tea Posts: 30
    markymark550 wrote:
    last time I checked, "fuck you" wasn't much of an apology.....

    sorry to say it, but if she doesn't forgive people and likes to get revenge, I don't think it's going to bode well for you.....only other suggestion I have is to do something over-the-top nice for her to try and get her to not want revenge


    nono, edit: her response.

    i would not be saying "fuck you".
    "You, my love, are allowed to rot and to die and to live again more alive and incandescent than before"
  • LeilaMoonTurtleLeilaMoonTurtle Posts: 1,418
    ok I tried staying away from this thread


    --apologize, something short sweet to the point

    --y r u calling her dramatic when u posted something online aboutthe situation, seems pretty dramatic to me


    --do not engage in arguing just apologize and if she flips out tell her yep, I messed up and repeat apology




    Pennyroyal Tea wrote:
    I considered that, but i know her response will be something like "fuck you" .....anyway, if she's planning something fucked up, it won't change her mind. I've enver knwon her to forgive anyone.
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  • markymark550markymark550 Columbia, SC Posts: 5,173
    Pennyroyal Tea wrote:
    nono, edit: her response.

    i would not be saying "fuck you".
    ok, gotcha.....I was a bit confused about that.
  • Pennyroyal TeaPennyroyal Tea Posts: 30
    LeilaMoonTurtle wrote:
    ok I tried staying away from this thread


    --apologize, something short sweet to the point

    --y r u calling her dramatic when u posted something online aboutthe situation, seems pretty dramatic to me


    --do not engage in arguing just apologize and if she flips out tell her yep, I messed up and repeat apology

    alright, i'm going to delete this thread now.

    thank you to those of you who gave me a bit of sincere advice, i do appreciate that.

    the only reason i came here was because i really needed some advice. i dont know many people around here that are not friends with her, and i thought i could get some help.

    I honeslty do not understand people who are so quick to judge when someone is standing there asking for help.

    yes i was angry, yes i fucked up, but i could do without these catty responses. For fuck's sake if I'm dramatic too for venting, then fine, but I don't go around beating the shit out of people or black-mailing them for talking shit about me. So there's a difference between us for you...
    "You, my love, are allowed to rot and to die and to live again more alive and incandescent than before"
  • riffrandallriffrandall Posts: 685
    Personally I think there's a difference between a girl who is crazy like, hire a skywriter to say you're bad in bed and also a total wanker, and someone who would hurt a toddler?
    If you're really afraid that she might show up at your house with a knife and do something like that, you need to get a restraining order against her. Those can be hard to get though without a threat.

    If she's just mad & tends to be nutty & angry, you are probably just looking at some embarrasment and possibly some yelling. I really wouldn't even let her know it bothers you.
    "If you're looking for someone to pull you out of that ditch, you're out of luck."
  • LeilaMoonTurtleLeilaMoonTurtle Posts: 1,418
    judge?

    it is not a judgement, it is a call to reality, yea she might be nuts but u reacted the way she does, might have been because of the situation, but u should be clear on the fact that whether she is nuts or not, u did something, u should apologize and move on


    if she harrasses u, u can report her or whatever, and u will be able to do so knowing that u tried to stop it.


    that is reasonable advice

    if u wanted a hug or someone to tell u she is nuts that is a diff story, just ask and u shall receive


    Pennyroyal Tea wrote:
    alright, i'm going to delete this thread now.

    thank you to those of you who gave me a bit of sincere advice, i do appreciate that.

    the only reason i came here was because i really needed some advice. i dont know many people around here that are not friends with her, and i thought i could get some help.

    I honeslty do not understand people who are so quick to judge when someone is standing there asking for help.

    yes i was angry, yes i fucked up, but i could do without these catty responses. For fuck's sake if I'm dramatic too for venting, then fine, but I don't go around beating the shit out of people or black-mailing them for talking shit about me. So there's a difference between us for you...
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    so cute they are
  • tybirdtybird Posts: 17,388
    Send flowers and a nice note.
    All the world will be your enemy, Prince with a thousand enemies, and whenever they catch you, they will kill you. But first they must catch you, digger, listener, runner, prince with the swift warning. Be cunning and full of tricks and your people shall never be destroyed.
  • WhizbangWhizbang Posts: 1,314
    Pennyroyal Tea wrote:
    I considered that, but i know her response will be something like "fuck you" .....anyway, if she's planning something fucked up, it won't change her mind. I've enver knwon her to forgive anyone.

    Even though you know her response will be for you to take your apology and shove it, be the bigger person and apologize anyway. Take down your blog while you're at it.
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

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  • Pennyroyal TeaPennyroyal Tea Posts: 30
    LeilaMoonTurtle wrote:
    judge?

    it is not a judgement, it is a call to reality, yea she might be nuts but u reacted the way she does, might have been because of the situation, but u should be clear on the fact that whether she is nuts or not, u did something, u should apologize and move on


    if she harrasses u, u can report her or whatever, and u will be able to do so knowing that u tried to stop it.


    that is reasonable advice

    if u wanted a hug or someone to tell u she is nuts that is a diff story, just ask and u shall receive


    I think it is reasonable to say that I should apologize....but I'm aware that it was a dumb move. I've said so.

    And I probably should apologize for my own good, but she's fucked up so much for me....I'm going to grit my teeth while doing it. She does not deserve an apology, whether I give her one or not.

    but reality's called me already, thanks.
    "You, my love, are allowed to rot and to die and to live again more alive and incandescent than before"
  • LeilaMoonTurtleLeilaMoonTurtle Posts: 1,418
    :)

    yep
    this thread proves there still are reasonable people in the pit
    yay!
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    The elements they speak to me.

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    so cute they are
  • Pennyroyal TeaPennyroyal Tea Posts: 30
    Whizbang wrote:
    Even though you know her response will be for you to take your apology and shove it, be the bigger person and apologize anyway. Take down your blog while you're at it.

    yeah i took it down.
    "You, my love, are allowed to rot and to die and to live again more alive and incandescent than before"
  • LeilaMoonTurtleLeilaMoonTurtle Posts: 1,418
    yea
    I don't understand y this person is in ur life

    and if she is nuts and u know it why continue to keep her in ur life

    instead of bothering ur mind and wasting time on thinking y this or that

    think of ways to EVACUATE her from ur life

    what ever u do do not engage in arguing

    give a heartfelt apology and go away

    don't do the half ass apology she will know, lol

    so stop thinking and act

    oo i should b a coach


    Pennyroyal Tea wrote:
    I think it is reasonable to say that I should apologize....but I'm aware that it was a dumb move. I've said so.

    And I probably should apologize for my own good, but she's fucked up so much for me....I'm going to grit my teeth while doing it. She does not deserve an apology, whether I give her one or not.

    but reality's called me already, thanks.
    http://s278.photobucket.com/albums/kk103/Moonturltemoon/PJ MSG 6-24-08/

    Mihi cura futuri.

    The elements they speak to me.

    http://espn.go.com/espnradiostations/NewYork1050/gallery/35218855.html

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZL3gQO1WxUk
    so cute they are
  • WildChildRoseWildChildRose Posts: 568
    Hmmm I can understand what you are going through. There was a person in my life that I had to keep around for fear of what she would do if we weren't friends. I recently ended the friendship bc of her nasty ways. I regret it now, bc I know she is actively trying to do harm to me but I'll never know....

    Couple Q's for you....

    myspace... why wasnt' your blog private or for friends only?
    and if it was for friends, why is she on your friends list??

    I think you should just cut off all contact and ignore her. If and when she does something, call the police. You can't get a restraining order now. She will have to DO something. Just document it and get in once she does. Also don't add any fuel to the fire. IGNORE her!
    "I'll ride the wave where it takes me.."
  • Heineken HelenHeineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    How crazy IS this girl? Are we talking about sleeping with a knife beside the bed crazy? Or just that she might spread some rumours and lies?

    If it's the latter, fuck it, not worth losing sleep over and you'd learn who your real friends are then anyway. It can be a good way of getting rid of 'clutter'

    If it's the former :o make sure you've good security on the house, stay in public places as much as possible, carry a can of mace? :o
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