my wife is a bah humbug
justjoshingu
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we typically get together around thanksgiving and make it a special thing to decorate the house for christmas. we dont go super all out or anything but some lights, tree, stockings etc. and a couple of times that we've lived apart (due to school 4 me) we would still make time to get together at one house and decorate. i like christmas, what can i say. but this year i started to put the tree up around thanksgiving and she came down the stairs and was like "what are you doing, we dont have room/time for that?"
then i wanted us to take a pic of us with our dog(wearing a santa hat) to send out as email christmas cards. "I dont want to do that. that makes me look stupid" there is a buncha lights and a huge tree that you spin under (those in austin know what im talking about) that we always go to. "nah, i just dont feel like it"
so then she came down last week. she was supposed to bring the christmas tree to me so at least i could decorate. "huh, i must have forgotten to pack it" even though i called her 5 minutes before she left. complete total bah-humbug this season.
then i wanted us to take a pic of us with our dog(wearing a santa hat) to send out as email christmas cards. "I dont want to do that. that makes me look stupid" there is a buncha lights and a huge tree that you spin under (those in austin know what im talking about) that we always go to. "nah, i just dont feel like it"
so then she came down last week. she was supposed to bring the christmas tree to me so at least i could decorate. "huh, i must have forgotten to pack it" even though i called her 5 minutes before she left. complete total bah-humbug this season.
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kind of confusing your post do you guy's live together or apart ?? but anyway maybe she will get the spirit right before xmas ...
My husband hates Christmas. Sometimes I have the energy to do it all by myself. This year was not one of those years, so I'll just enjoy the decorations outside and at his mom's house on Xmas day
However, there may be something more going on in her mind...you two need to talk.
so we see each other usually every other weekend of every weekend.
i know her family are being a pain in the ass but thats really just in the past week or so. it seems like when we are around her family though she tends to not want to do stuff like that. its wierd cause her mom is very much the type to decorate, and bake cookies and wear the christmas sweaters and stuff.
i'm sure she'll be more in the mood when she opens her gifts.
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Wow, thats a strong statement. I just read an article about a couple who was married but never lived together. Thats the way the wanted it, and the way they worked out. Who are we to judge people's living arrangements?
Seriously, though... Why get married if you're not going to live together? "Til death do us part" and all that jazz. I didn't feel like "we" were judging. I meant it as "get your priorities in order, your wife's lack of Christmas spirit is the least of your worries."
Sometimes people can really love each other and not have to be with each other 24/7 to prove that.
I agree.
I'm anti-marriage either way, so my opinion is biased.
well, we decided that we needed to have a strong base life before starting a family and life. I grew up not having much and she grew up with a dad who had but spent. we lived together for a few years. it was a lot harder on us when i was working an 8.50 dollar job, meaning i had to work 60+ hours a week to pay for stuff. and she was working hard too. she would work mornings. i would work afternoons and nites. we would pass each other somewhere around one going to bed and the other waking up. it sucked. so i am almost done with pharmacy school. she is almost done with her management program. when i get out want to stay in austin, but we will both have the ability to survive no matter where we go. provide for ourselves and eventually our kids. its not that we want to live apart. but you do what you have to. i am not what normally is considered "responsible" but this is the most responsible thing i've done.
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in regards to the bah humbug spirit....i feel for ya. i adore the holidays and am almost laways into it. couple years ago i was soooo not into it. first time we didn't get a tree, etc. i was just in such a depressed state. hopefully your wife is just working thru some things in her mind. perhaps if you ask her how she is, what's up, etc....really show you care and are attuned, it might help. either way, while it's a bummer to be down during the holidays, this too shall pass. enjoy what you have and make the best of it. hopefully her spirits will rise.
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