How do you win this argument?

locked

when someone says to you..

"Stop being so defensive"..

It seems any response is a validation.. yes?

zacman13245

I usually say something like, 'stop provoking me, you know this makes me angry.'

mookie blaylock 10

locked wrote:

when someone says to you..

"Stop being so defensive"..

It seems any response is a validation.. yes?

a shin to the face usually ends the argument. that would probably be considered "offensive"?

zacman13245

mookie blaylock 10 wrote:

a shin to the face usually ends the argument. that would probably be considered "offensive"?

Yell obscenities, then they'll say, "Stop being so offensive and defensive." Then you can just cock your head to the side and look confused.

unifiedscene

Say "that's usually what people say to avoid having their ideas tested by vigorous critical debate. How about you respond to my argument instead of what you perceive to be my personality?"

zacman13245

unifiedscene wrote:

Say "that's usually what people say to avoid having their ideas tested by vigorous critical debate. How about you respond to my argument instead of what you perceive to be my personality?"

owned, that wins in my book.

meme

I would say: "Ok, I'll try"

That should catch them off guard, and then you can think about the least defensive thing to say in response next time. Without, of course, being a doormat. Something like "Please do not talk to me like that" or "I am confident that that was a good decision..." We know little about the context of the argument, so it's hard to give advice

My hunch though is that if you think about it in terms of "winning the argument" then you may be a little defensive. Why not think about it in terms of coming to an agreement, or having a conversation, or trying to solve a problem?

sponger

Say, "Define defensive."

When the other person begins to outline what he/she deems to be defensive behavior, say, "Oh, that's not defensive."

genie

well, i don't see anything wrong with being defensive. screw those fuckers, just say whatever!
or just say "it's in our nature to defend ourselves when some prick is trying to attack us, if we didn't do that humans wouldn't have evolved"

eyedclaar

I usually say something like... "Fuck You!"

locked

sponger wrote:

Say, "Define defensive."

When the other person begins to outline what he/she deems to be defensive behavior, say, "Oh, that's not defensive."

unified's response almost won me over but this is pure brilliance!

Love it!

Thanks!

comfortably numb

Usually if someone says that it means you're being too god damn defensive and maybe you should stop. Pretty simple.

Yellow Ledbelly

eyedclaar wrote:

I usually say something like... "Fuck You!"

That was my answer

saveuplife

Kick em in the balls.

Lanegan7

Yellow Ledbelly wrote:

That was my answer

yeah mine too

RolandTD20Kdrummer

zacman13245 wrote:

Yell obscenities, then they'll say, "Stop being so offensive and defensive." Then you can just cock your head to the side and look confused.

Which is why I prefer the rear naked choke.

mca47

locked wrote:

when someone says to you..

"Stop being so defensive"..

It seems any response is a validation.. yes?

Tell them "Well, the jerk store called and they are running out of YOU!"



Then walk away victorious!

muiren77

ignore him/her and change the topic

seanw1010

the best way to win any arguement:
"no u"

Austicman

"Well I guess this arguments over if your throwing cliques like at me"

Then follow it up with

"Seriously, is that it? Is that the best you've got??"

justam

Wanting to win every argument instead of trying to work through the issue itself is probably the wrong approach in general.

Everyone knows there's nothing wrong with defending yourself. If you don't, who will?

This could be mentioned as a defense, (:D) but as someone else pointed out, perhaps you should stop and listen when someone says that instead of continuing to argue.

mca47

justam wrote:

Wanting to win every argument instead of trying to work through the issue itself is probably the wrong approach in general.

Everyone knows there's nothing wrong with defending yourself. If you don't, who will?

This could be mentioned as a defense, (:D) but as someone else pointed out, perhaps you should stop and listen when someone says that instead of continuing to argue.

Don't listen to Dr. Phil here ^...

Jerkstore is the answer to your problem!

justam

mca47 wrote:

Don't listen to Dr. Phil here ^...

Jerkstore is the answer to your problem!

locked

seanw1010 wrote:

the best way to win any arguement:
"no u"

or the playground classic..

"NaaaHaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!"

angie76

locked wrote:

when someone says to you..

"Stop being so defensive"..

It seems any response is a validation.. yes?

you punch them and walk away....

lol..j/k. But yeah anything you reply with would seem to validate it. I guess the best thing to do is kind of acknowledge that and try to explain why you are reacting like you are. Sometimes people do not realize they are doing something all the time to get you on the defensive.