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When do you know it's over?

given2fly78given2fly78 Posts: 404
edited May 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
Huh?

I know there are divorced people here. Or just relationships. Doesn't have to be married.

When do you know it's over? Do you ever know when to just be done? To stop trying? Or pretending? That it's time to move on?

Yeah, yeah, no jokes about my signature either. It's bittersweet.
"Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former. "
Albert Einstein (1879-1955)

I saw Hard To Imagine LIVE at MSG!
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  • urbanhippieurbanhippie Posts: 3,007
    I knew that nothing I did made any difference anymore, and I knew that it never would. If he can't be happy with himself, what chance did I have of making him so?
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  • An AnimalAn Animal Posts: 129
    If you tried everything you possibly could and things are still feelling weird or you are miserable then it's time to move on.
    "I am ahead, I am advanced, I am the
    first man to buy all of Stones
    underpants" E.V. during DTE 7-9-03
  • The ChampThe Champ Posts: 4,063
    You know it's over when he/she hits you with a restraining order..
    'I want to hurry home to you
    put on a slow, dumb show for you
    and crack you up
    so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
    god I'm very, very frightening
    and I'll overdo it'
  • Phantom PainPhantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    The Champ wrote:
    You know it's over when he/she hits you with a restraining order..

    Or a frying pan...

    ;)
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  • Slip KidSlip Kid Posts: 1,175
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    I just don't trust anything that bleeds for five days and doesn't die.
  • OneLoveOneLove Posts: 563
    I hate to say it, but if you are this concerned about wether or not its over, it probably is.

    Its a gut thing. You usually know well before you are able/willing to admit it.
  • acoustic guyacoustic guy Posts: 3,770
    Phantom Pain wrote:
    Or a frying pan...

    ;)



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  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    given2fly78 wrote:
    Huh?

    I know there are divorced people here. Or just relationships. Doesn't have to be married.

    When do you know it's over? Do you ever know when to just be done? To stop trying? Or pretending? That it's time to move on?

    Yeah, yeah, no jokes about my signature either. It's bittersweet.
    aw, I'm sorry to hear you're back at this point again.
    hopefully you're able to find some answers within yourself on what is best for you.
    *I'm here for you.:)
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • cheeseandricecheeseandrice Posts: 206
    When the bad overrides the good. Sounds weird- but when I broke up with the asshole I was married to, I wrote down good aspects and bad aspects. It helped me justify my decision and to move on.
    I will hold the candle until it burns up my arm. I'll keep taking punches until their will grows tired. I will stare the sun down until my eyes go blind. I won't change direction and I won't change my mind.
  • WhizbangWhizbang Posts: 1,314
    OneLove wrote:
    I hate to say it, but if you are this concerned about wether or not its over, it probably is.

    Its a gut thing. You usually know well before you are able/willing to admit it.

    when you'd rather be alone than to allow both of you to continue living unhappy.....

    being alone is better than wishing you were.
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

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  • RygarRygar Posts: 8,690
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    aw, I'm sorry to hear you're back at this point again.
    hopefully you're able to find some answers within yourself on what is best for you.
    *I'm here for you.:)
    I seem to recall numerous threads by the OP beating around the bush of "I don't love my husband anymore".
    OP - don't take this the wrong way but you seem to have wanted it over for a while, so I would say it is over.
  • given2fly78given2fly78 Posts: 404
    I'm not sure what OP is? :-)

    But sometimes what seems black and white isn't really. It's not so easy. I kind of was just looking for others experiences.

    Even though deep down, I kind of know what lies ahead - my heart still hopes I'm wrong to a certain extent. Maybe because it's just easier to stay status quo.

    But thanks for the replies anyway!
    "Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former. "
    Albert Einstein (1879-1955)

    I saw Hard To Imagine LIVE at MSG!
  • harmless_little_f***harmless_little_f*** Posts: 8,005
    Well to be honest with you, I wasn't even ready to call it over; I'd just decided to fight to save the relationship. She'd decided long before me though and there was nothing I could do. It's only since the break up that I've been able to call it 'over'.
    'We're learning songs for baby Jesus' birthday. His mum and dad were Merry and Joseph. He had a bed made of clay and the three kings bought him Gold, Frankenstein and Merv as presents.'

    - the great Sir Leo Harrison
  • An AnimalAn Animal Posts: 129
    OneLove wrote:
    I hate to say it, but if you are this concerned about wether or not its over, it probably is.

    Its a gut thing. You usually know well before you are able/willing to admit it.

    Have to agree with this 100%.

    You should just get it over with now and stop prolonging the inevitable, it will just get harder.
    "I am ahead, I am advanced, I am the
    first man to buy all of Stones
    underpants" E.V. during DTE 7-9-03
  • mookie9999mookie9999 Posts: 4,677
    For me it was the days following her admission of cheating on me. We had a decent friendly relationship towards the end, something that could have and would have been worked on. As soon as she told me what she had done there was no turning back for me.
    "The leads are weak!"

    "The leads are weak? Fuckin' leads are weak? You're Weak! I've Been in this business 15 years"

    "What's your name?"

    "FUCK YOU! THAT"S MY NAME!"
  • FinsburyParkCarrotsFinsburyParkCarrots Seattle, WA Posts: 12,223
    Umm, not until after your husband has admitted he had sexual relations with his intern, been impeached, served out his term of office, waited eight years, then fucked up your presidential campaign good and properly by pointing his finger like a gun, at hecklers in half empty rallies. And it might not even be over, even then.
  • iluvcatsiluvcats Posts: 5,153
    I am divorced and had trouble deciding when to leave. I was already too thin and after I lost some more weight due to stress and barfed on the floor after one more argument, that's when I moved out the next day when he was at work (may 1984.)
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