Feeling Restless

given2fly78

I don't know what it is, but I'm feeling restless lately.

Maybe it's the fact that I'm going to be 30 in April? Winter? Work?

Could it be a 1/3rd life crisis?

I can't quite put my finger on it.

It's almost like I want to spread my wings again. The past 10 years have been a real wild ride. I found a career, built a business, watched my dad go through a brain aneurysm, went through some family changes due to that, got married, bought a home, etc.

Now, I almost want to have some fun again. Have friends, do things, go places. Love my job and am very proud of myself. But am having a very hard time with the fact that I feel very tied down. Suffocated to a certain extent.

Anyone else ever felt like this? Is it just a phase? Age? It's not like I want to be a bar fly or anything LOL, but I want to have fun, meet people, go places. Get out and enjoy my life. Spread my wings. I've been so tied down these past 10 years.......

stargirl69

I've spent my life feeling restless.When its really bad,a few times a year I feel like I could implode,get this weird feeling in my stomach and manic.Iv'e been known to be going to do one thing then do the complete opposite.The most recent time was last summer I was on the way to work and just got this overwhelming feeling of wanting to be somewhere else.Instead of getting on the bus to work I got on a bus to Inverness,no reason,it was simply the next bus that came to the stop.Its about a four hour bus drive from Edinburgh to Inverness,went to a hostel when got there and spent three days in a city I had never been before,with all I was wearing and what I had in my pockets.I called work and said I was sick.
I'm 38 and haven't found a way to handle it yet.Just who I am.I hate feeling "mossy".

soulsinging

that's the price you pay for getting married. your life becomes a dull, repetitive prison. when you reach the point where you're willing to start fucking people behind his back, drop me a line. and don't feel guilty, he's feeling it too and probably has a head start.

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I've felt the same way for the past couple of years. I'm about your age (31) but single. The only solution I've thought of so far is to win the lottery, quit my job, and go on tour with Pearl Jam. It's not looking good so far. :(

Edit: Oh yeah, and I decided last night that it would help if I joined a bagpipe band. You might try that.

lalalalaaaaaaaa

lol didn't you just post this same thing about a month ago?

acoustic guy

soulsinging wrote:

that's the price you pay for getting married. your life becomes a dull, repetitive prison. when you reach the point where you're willing to start fucking people behind his back, drop me a line. and don't feel guilty, he's feeling it too and probably has a head start.

man........you are a dick.

Brain of J.Lo

Make a change. You don't have to change everything, but changing one thing should help...right?

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soulsinging

acoustic guy wrote:

man........you are a dick.

i think the divorce rates speak for themselves. and they don't even include the people who cheat but stay together out of fear or loneliness, or the people who are miserably bored and unhappy but stay together out of obligation. the odds of a truly happy and faithful marriage are miniscule.

GreenTeaDisease

given2fly78 wrote:

I don't know what it is, but I'm feeling restless lately.

Maybe it's the fact that I'm going to be 30 in April? Winter? Work?

Could it be a 1/3rd life crisis?

I can't quite put my finger on it.

It's almost like I want to spread my wings again. The past 10 years have been a real wild ride. I found a career, built a business, watched my dad go through a brain aneurysm, went through some family changes due to that, got married, bought a home, etc.

Now, I almost want to have some fun again. Have friends, do things, go places. Love my job and am very proud of myself. But am having a very hard time with the fact that I feel very tied down. Suffocated to a certain extent.

Anyone else ever felt like this? Is it just a phase? Age? It's not like I want to be a bar fly or anything LOL, but I want to have fun, meet people, go places. Get out and enjoy my life. Spread my wings. I've been so tied down these past 10 years.......

I always feel like I am missing stuff going on. I want to go places and meet people and advance my career and develop talents and skills all at once, and all that pretty much just isn't feasible!

however in your case, I'd say this is a good example of why you shouldn't do things like get married and buy houses in your 20s.

GreenTeaDisease

acoustic guy wrote:

man........you are a dick.

hang on though, he has a point. maybe not about getting married in general, but in terms of getting married in your 20s. Look at it this way- I have some friends who went to grad school the first year we were out of college. Now that we are 30, they want to go to grad school AGAIN because they thought their chosen profession would be good enough for life at 22, but now they are bored with it, or they wish they had chosen something else. I started grad school at 27, and I probably won't feel this way for a long long time, if ever! (I want to go back to school, but not because I don't like what I chose in the first place, but because I just love school!)

DOSW

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I started grad school at 27, and I probably won't feel this way for a long long time, if ever!

That's probably what they thought too at the time...

GreenTeaDisease

DOSW wrote:

That's probably what they thought too at the time...

no...it's just a little different...I can't explain it. it's like to already be sick of a big thing in your life by 30 is just sad...like if you're sick of it at 40, ok, but it's like the earlier you do it, the earlier you're going to be bored.

DOSW

By the way given2fly, if it makes you feel any better, I'm constantly feeling tied down. By the future, by the present, by the past, by my financial situation... you name it. And I'm only 19. I would love to just split and wander the country for two weeks sometime during the summer. But I can't.