well

ladygooddiva

in one week and one day is my fathers mourning-funeral
and i don t have a good feeling
bec. my step mum and step sista between them is a big fight and missunderstandings
and i just want to say good bye to my dad...
i hope my sis doen t juse my fathers funeral to .....
it making me sick ....
i am sleeping in my parents flat for one week
but i don t want to have stress with my sister
so if anyone is trying to get me between i think than i move to my grandmothers flat but she hated my father (the mother of my mum)

sorry but my family is ....no words for that..
i am glad that i am a bit away from that...

the wolf

Very sorry. my thoughts are with you.

Jeanie

ladygooddiva wrote:

in one week and one day is my fathers mourning-funeral
and i don t have a good feeling
bec. my step mum and step sista between them is a big fight and missunderstandings
and i just want to say good bye to my dad...
i hope my sis doen t juse my fathers funeral to .....
it making me sick ....
i am sleeping in my parents flat for one week
but i don t want to have stress with my sister
so if anyone is trying to get me between i think than i move to my grandmothers flat but she hated my father (the mother of my mum)

sorry but my family is ....no words for that..
i am glad that i am a bit away from that...

aw lady. funerals are horrible things and when family has dramas and what family doesn't really, it just makes it all so much worse.
I wasn't going to go to my Grandmother's funeral because I just could stand to be in the same room as some of my family. Didn't want to be around all that negativity and venom, but I went and I'm glad I did because it's not about them and their petty feuding bullshit.

Just take it easy love. I hope you go and you get through it all and you get to say good bye to your Dad. That's the most important thing, the opportunity for closure and farewell. I'll be thinking of you.

justjoshingu

i'm sorry for your loss and your continued pain with your family.

i dont know if it helps or not, but my family went through a lot of crappy times when my grandma died. i know a lot of people that, all of a sudden the family is in an uproar when someone dies.
i think its just that no one knows how to respond anymore. but if you remember the important part, isnt what anyone else does. from now, to the funeral to 10 years. whats important is what you choose to feel and remember about your loved one. especially now, no one can take any memories or feelings away from you, no matter how they choose to act.

ladygooddiva, i've seen you enough on this board to know that you are a really cool cat and have always been cool to me on this board and to others. obviously he did something very right in raising you, and i would have loved to have met the man that helped bring you to where you are today.

Heineken Helen

ladygooddiva wrote:

sorry but my family is ....no words for that..
i am glad that i am a bit away from that...

Nobody's family is normal lady. I went through something like this for my grandmothers funeral. My sister and I aren't very well liked in my mothers family but we went anyway cos it was our own personal and individual goodbye, nothing to do with anybody else and we'd just as much right to be there. One or two tried to start something... but we didn't even laugh, just completely ignored them and I was glad I went cos it showed how really stupid they can be.

Try and ignore whatever starts and be the bigger person. Just think about why you're there.

I really wish the best for you and hope it goes as well as it can

ladygooddiva

thanx for all your words and some life advices

i just want to close this capter ...well in the last parts of his live i could not talk to him wish was a long me ..we could not clear up some stuff (i meant i myself)...and since a long time it was terror that he die soon since i am a teenager
ok but also there where good and nice times
and now he is really death .....

Heineken Helen

Aw lady, I really hope you find some kinda closure :( that's really shit.

Math

My girlfriend recently experienced something close to that, with her grandmother whom raised her.

She was scared that things go rough during the ceremony (stupid family members) and everytime she felt like the worst was gonna happen, she'd take a couple of steps back and totally disregard what was going on.

She'd focus on good memories and tried to smile in her grandmother's honour.

Eventually it went ok... Well, as ok as funerals can get anyway.

You don't know me but I wish you the best.

ladygooddiva

Heineken Helen wrote:

Aw lady, I really hope you find some kinda closure :( that's really shit.

i hope so too...
lfe is goin on and i have my little daughter to raise up ...

ladygooddiva

thank you math ....
by the way i have my daughter with me
so .....