Bi Polar question

edvedder913edvedder913 Posts: 1,810
edited March 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
I think someone very close to me may be bi polar, but I am not sure.

If anyone here has it or knows a lot about it can you answer me this....

Is it typical that when they go into their depressive state that they blow up over something trivial? Get really cruel, say horrible things...where you sort of just wonder what the hell happened. I mean honestly, I had a bad day and was saying what went wrong and this person just totally exploded, threw me out, screaming and yelling at me that I have a bad attitude and blah blah blah. It was INSANE! I was like WTF just happened here?

Does it take them several months to acknowledge this behavior? and come out of it? This happened once before and it took 3 months or so before I got an apology. Other than these 2 times this person is truly the most kind, gentle, loving human being I have ever met. It's amazing how someone could be so wonderful, loving and supportive and then turn into the cruelest human being I've met.

I am so confused...
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  • PureandEasyPureandEasy Posts: 5,800
    There is no way to diagnose bi-polar disease through a message board.

    But I can tell you that my brother is bi-polar and basically what his family would say is that you never knew which "Chuck" was coming home at night (prior to his diagnosis). The change in mood is that drastic. I don’t recall any instances of him being mean and nasty though.
  • edvedder913edvedder913 Posts: 1,810
    There is no way to diagnose bi-polar disease through a message board.

    true. I was just wondering if this was a common trait. His sister has it, so I am pretty sure he may as well. this is the only sign i have seen. the mood shift that comes from out of NOWHERE.
  • TrixieCatTrixieCat Posts: 5,756
    I think someone very close to me may be bi polar, but I am not sure.

    If anyone here has it or knows a lot about it can you answer me this....

    Is it typical that when they go into their depressive state that they blow up over something trivial? Get really cruel, say horrible things...where you sort of just wonder what the hell happened. I mean honestly, I had a bad day and was saying what went wrong and this person just totally exploded, threw me out, screaming and yelling at me that I have a bad attitude and blah blah blah. It was INSANE! I was like WTF just happened here?

    Does it take them several months to acknowledge this behavior? and come out of it? This happened once before and it took 3 months or so before I got an apology. Other than these 2 times this person is truly the most kind, gentle, loving human being I have ever met. It's amazing how someone could be so wonderful, loving and supportive and then turn into the cruelest human being I've met.

    I am so confused...
    Yes, it is possible.
    Without being diagnosed or "interviewed" by a psychiatrist, there is no real way of knowing. Undiagnosed and untreated manic-depressives (bi-polar) are a danger to themselves and others. Both mentally and/or physically.
    Sorry you have to deal with this C.
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  • edvedder913edvedder913 Posts: 1,810
    thanks Trix :o
  • TrixieCatTrixieCat Posts: 5,756
    thanks Trix :o
    And it definitely runs in families.
    Again, I am sorry.
    There are varying degrees of severity though. I mean not everyone turns into the guy from Michael Clayton. Not meant to be a joke, but it is true.
    Cause I'm broken when I'm lonesome
    And I don't feel right when you're gone away
  • iluvcatsiluvcats Posts: 5,153
    sounds just like my family members
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  • eyedclaareyedclaar Posts: 6,980
    I think someone very close to me may be bi polar, but I am not sure.

    If anyone here has it or knows a lot about it can you answer me this....

    Is it typical that when they go into their depressive state that they blow up over something trivial? Get really cruel, say horrible things...where you sort of just wonder what the hell happened. I mean honestly, I had a bad day and was saying what went wrong and this person just totally exploded, threw me out, screaming and yelling at me that I have a bad attitude and blah blah blah. It was INSANE! I was like WTF just happened here?

    Does it take them several months to acknowledge this behavior? and come out of it? This happened once before and it took 3 months or so before I got an apology. Other than these 2 times this person is truly the most kind, gentle, loving human being I have ever met. It's amazing how someone could be so wonderful, loving and supportive and then turn into the cruelest human being I've met.

    I am so confused...

    My ex-wife used to call me the bi-polar bear because of how bad I got when I was on the downside. My depression was really more like rage-ohol and I would be violent (never towards my wife) and say the meanest things possible. So, to answer your question, I don't think it is uncommon for someone to behave that way. It took a long time, but these days I am much less likely to feel the need to grab my rifle and head for the nearest clock tower.
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  • I think someone very close to me may be bi polar, but I am not sure.

    If anyone here has it or knows a lot about it can you answer me this....

    Is it typical that when they go into their depressive state that they blow up over something trivial? Get really cruel, say horrible things...where you sort of just wonder what the hell happened. I mean honestly, I had a bad day and was saying what went wrong and this person just totally exploded, threw me out, screaming and yelling at me that I have a bad attitude and blah blah blah. It was INSANE! I was like WTF just happened here?

    Does it take them several months to acknowledge this behavior? and come out of it? This happened once before and it took 3 months or so before I got an apology. Other than these 2 times this person is truly the most kind, gentle, loving human being I have ever met. It's amazing how someone could be so wonderful, loving and supportive and then turn into the cruelest human being I've met.

    I am so confused...

    This sounds like my Sister-In-Law

    She has "Borderline Personality Disorder"

    She flips on you instantly and half the time you have no idea what you did to deserve the anger and abuse

    Also her thinking patterns are very odd

    Check out this book : http://www.amazon.com/Stop-Walking-Eggshells-Borderline-Personality/dp/157224108X/ref=pd_bbs_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1204216745&sr=8-1


    This website has some good info : http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/bpd.html
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  • edvedder913edvedder913 Posts: 1,810
    This sounds like my Sister-In-Law

    She has "Borderline Personality Disorder"

    She flips on you instantly and half the time you have no idea what you did to deserve the anger and abuse

    Also her thinking patterns are very odd

    Check out this book : http://www.amazon.com/Stop-Walking-Eggshells-Borderline-Personality/dp/157224108X/ref=pd_bbs_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1204216745&sr=8-1


    This website has some good info : http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/bpd.html

    Thank you!
  • Thank you!

    You're Welcome !

    Hopefully it helps

    Good luck
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  • iluvcatsiluvcats Posts: 5,153
    You're Welcome !

    Hopefully it helps

    Good luck

    it helped me, I just emailed that psychology link to my sister, I think my mom has that :(
    9/98, 9/00 - DC, 4/03 - Pitt., 7/03 - Bristow, 10/04 - Reading, 10/05 - Philly, 5/06 - DC, 6/06 - Pitt., 6/08 - Va Beach, 6/08 - DC, 5/10 - Bristow, 10/13 B'more
    8/08 - Ed solo in DC, 6/09 Ed in B'more,
    10/10 - Brad in B'more
  • iluvcats wrote:
    it helped me, I just emailed that psychology link to my sister, I think my mom has that :(

    I'm glad it helped.......but it's a sad thing

    That book I posted my Mom bought and it really helped her understand everything and helped deal with it

    If anything it helped her understand she wasn't the one that was crazy it made things a bit more clear

    The symptoms on that website are dead on with my Sister-In-Law

    She went to therapy when she was younger but has stopped going
    My drinking team has a hockey problem

    The ONLY thing better than a glass of beer is tea with Miss McGill



    A protuberance of flesh above the waistband of a tight pair of trousers
  • edvedder913edvedder913 Posts: 1,810
    It is a very sad thing.

    This person is no longer in my life and I think it is best that way. But I am trying to understand what happened, and why it happened and not be full of anger regarding some of the horrible things that were said to me. It hurts to be on the receiving end. But I also feel very badly for him....because obviously this is something these people really have no control over - whether it be bi polar or any other illness. I hope he realizes it and gets help.

    Thanks for your responses.

    xoxox
  • iluvcatsiluvcats Posts: 5,153
    I think someone very close to me may be bi polar, but I am not sure.

    If anyone here has it or knows a lot about it can you answer me this....

    Is it typical that when they go into their depressive state that they blow up over something trivial? Get really cruel, say horrible things...where you sort of just wonder what the hell happened. I mean honestly, I had a bad day and was saying what went wrong and this person just totally exploded, threw me out, screaming and yelling at me that I have a bad attitude and blah blah blah. It was INSANE! I was like WTF just happened here?

    Does it take them several months to acknowledge this behavior? and come out of it? This happened once before and it took 3 months or so before I got an apology. Other than these 2 times this person is truly the most kind, gentle, loving human being I have ever met. It's amazing how someone could be so wonderful, loving and supportive and then turn into the cruelest human being I've met.

    I am so confused...

    here you said they are close to you and your last reply said they are no longer in your life?
    9/98, 9/00 - DC, 4/03 - Pitt., 7/03 - Bristow, 10/04 - Reading, 10/05 - Philly, 5/06 - DC, 6/06 - Pitt., 6/08 - Va Beach, 6/08 - DC, 5/10 - Bristow, 10/13 B'more
    8/08 - Ed solo in DC, 6/09 Ed in B'more,
    10/10 - Brad in B'more
  • edvedder913edvedder913 Posts: 1,810
    iluvcats wrote:
    here you said they are close to you and your last reply said they are no longer in your life?


    it was someone very close to me who I care about very much. we are no longer together b/c of these outbursts. hope that clarifies.
  • iluvcatsiluvcats Posts: 5,153
    it was someone very close to me who I care about very much. we are no longer together b/c of these outbursts. hope that clarifies.

    the outbursts (or not knowing which personality was talking to you today) are scary. I had a boyfriend like that :( Beer made him in rare form as well.
    9/98, 9/00 - DC, 4/03 - Pitt., 7/03 - Bristow, 10/04 - Reading, 10/05 - Philly, 5/06 - DC, 6/06 - Pitt., 6/08 - Va Beach, 6/08 - DC, 5/10 - Bristow, 10/13 B'more
    8/08 - Ed solo in DC, 6/09 Ed in B'more,
    10/10 - Brad in B'more
  • tobbactobbac Posts: 234
    im sure its not true but round here...it seems bi-polar and crack addiction go hand in hand.....
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    Prevail-regardless what the cost might be
    Power-flows inside of me, you can't bring me
    Never-fall as long as I try
    Refuse-to be a part of your lie
    Even-if it means I die, you can't bring me
    You...can't...bring...me...down!
  • CorduroyboyCorduroyboy Posts: 1,256
    If you truly want to experience a bi polar disorder, call my sister on a night when her so called boyfriend is giving her the keilbasa, then call her on another night when he's out having fun with his buddies. Watch out, bi polar at its best!

    All joking aside it's a serious matter and can destroy families. I do have a family member who claims to have been diagnosed with it and whatever the case, there are times it's so nice to be around that person, then there are times that you can't get far enough away from the mood swings. Personally I think it all stems from my crazy loud mouth grandmother, but go Dr. shopping enough and they will diagnose you will something and give you plenty of pills to take for it.
  • Phantom PainPhantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    it was someone very close to me who I care about very much. we are no longer together b/c of these outbursts. hope that clarifies.

    That's what happened with my Sister-in-Law and her brother

    He basically disappeared and has his own life away from it

    He has 2 Kids and a Wife and never bothers to get involved anymore

    I can see how staying away is a real option for people, it's easier a lot of the times and less stressful then trying to make it work and understand the person

    I don't blame you at all
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  • drivingrldrivingrl Posts: 1,448
    TrixieCat wrote:
    And it definitely runs in families.

    Really? The last time I heard they weren't sure if it was hereditary. When did they annouce this?
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    Next!"
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