Girls, be honest..

LikeAnOcean

Do you do most the talking when conversing with a love interest?

So far in life the women I've been seeing have. They only give me the time for an occasional question, laugh or agreement like "yeah", "uh, huh"..



Is that a bad thing???

I'm not complaining, I'm just hoping it means the girl is interested back and doesn't think I'm lifeless. lol.


I just got of the phone from another one of those. I knew she had things to do, but kept talking and talking, so the first break I got, about 20 minutes later, I egknowledged she had things to do, and said I didn't want to hold her up. lol.

Ms. Haiku

I talk more if I'm nervous or in the beginning of a relationship so there isn't dead air. However, I would prefer someone who wasn't uber-talkative. Most people I know talk like it's their last breath, and I want someone who could just help me relax. Talking is good, spewing gets old.

I can't wait to find someone with whom I can be quiet or talkative, and relaxed at the same time.

LikeAnOcean

Ms. Haiku wrote:

I talk more if I'm nervous or in the beginning of a relationship so there isn't dead air. However, I would prefer someone who wasn't uber-talkative. Most people I know talk like it's their last breath, and I want someone who could just help me relax. Talking is good, spewing gets old.

I can't wait to find someone with whom I can be quiet or talkative, and relaxed at the same time.

Well, this is like our 4th or 5th phone conversation with one date down.. If she's still nervous, thats a good sign, right?

Spunkie

I do most of the talking. I have to ask questions about his work or his family to get him going. It makes me a bit nervous to blab on.

After 4 months, I'm still not perfectly at ease over the phone. Nervousness is a good sign.

norm

what is that stat.....women say 5,000 words a day men say 1,000.....something like that....chicks talk....A LOT!! :D

LikeAnOcean

tish wrote:

I do most of the talking. I have to ask questions about his work or his family to get him going. It makes me a bit nervous to blab on.

After 4 months, I'm still not perfectly at ease over the phone. Nervousness is a good sign.

So as long as I keep do the calling and she does talking, its a good thing, right?

Asking her about her weekend was a good 20 minute answer.

MattCameronKicksButt

It depends (for me) how the conversation is going. If it's a bit quiet, I'll try and keep talking and asking questions to keep from awkwardness on both sides. Besides, it's just polite to do so.

She's prolly shy, otherwise, she wouldn't still be talking to you.

Ms. Haiku

I don't think nervous is good. It's an indication of unease. If you two can be on speaker phone, then you can talk and cook pasta at the same time - there I fixed the nervous problem.

LikeAnOcean

MattCameronKicksButt wrote:

She's prolly shy, otherwise, she wouldn't still be talking to you.

I dated a really shy girl once, and I did all the talking.. of course, that only lasted one date and she also didn't tell me she was involved in a serious relationship.

lalalalaaaaaaaa

LikeAnOcean wrote:

Do you do most the talking when conversing with a love interest?

So far in life the women I've been seeing have. They only give me the time for an occasional question, laugh or agreement like "yeah", "uh, huh"..



Is that a bad thing???

I'm not complaining, I'm just hoping it means the girl is interested back and doesn't think I'm lifeless. lol.


I just got of the phone from another one of those. I knew she had things to do, but kept talking and talking, so the first break I got, about 20 minutes later, I egknowledged she had things to do, and said I didn't want to hold her up. lol.

Just depends on the girl, dude. I have one girl friend who will do 99% of the talking on the phone, and it's not because I have nothing to say. If I try to say something, she'll just interrupt me and keep on blabbin' haha...love her to death, but she never shuts up, and it's not because she's nervous either. I've known her for years.

Then I have other girl friends who won't say 2 words or will only ask me questions over the phone. It just depends.

I hate talking on the phone. IM or in person is so much easier.

Spunkie

Yup, keep calling. Sounds like it's going good. It takes awhile before that ease and comfort sets in like a pair of old socks.

JenInTheBx

I talk a lot... but that's also part of my personality. I would just make sure she's not trying to carry on the whole conversation, you don't want things to become too one sided.

igotid88

I haven't been on many dates. One I guess. But whenever I'm talking with a girl they want me to talk. And I hate talking about myself. I'm never lucky.

CreedDisease

but it seems the more you let someone talk about themselves, the more they like you... i don't get it

covered in bliss

LikeAnOcean wrote:

So as long as I keep do the calling and she does talking, its a good thing, right?

Asking her about her weekend was a good 20 minute answer.

did she ask you about -your- weekend? If so, her blabbing might be acceptable. If the conversation was only about -her- and she didn't listen to anything -you- had to say... move along.

the wolf

okay, im not a chick, so if you dont want my opinion, just scroll down.

with my girl at first i always felt like i was the one talking, she is just like that.

as far as the being nervous, could be, which i would take as a good sign.

or maybe, she is like my girl, and just needs something really important to talk about b4 she gets on a roll.

its been 2.5 years, and sometimes getting her talking is like pulling fuckin teeth. unless she had a bad day at work.

so, the lesson learned...............woman are strange beast's we mere men can never and probably never will never understand.

Allie

you're in love with that girl already?

I try not to do most of the talking. I want to know how the other person I'm talking to is doing

LikeAnOcean

covered in bliss wrote:

did she ask you about -your- weekend? If so, her blabbing might be acceptable. If the conversation was only about -her- and she didn't listen to anything -you- had to say... move along.

Yes, she asked about my weekend. I summed it up in 2 minutes.

DOSW

I like when girls talk a lot. I'm a terrible conversationalist by nature, so it keeps things natural for me. It can get out of hand though if the conversation is ridiculously mundane.

Born.Mine.Die

I would go crazy if one person was doing all the talking..
I don't get how a guy can be with a girl who yaps your ear off..like Kelley from the office! haha
I can't stand even sitting close to a yappy girl on a date with a guy at a restaurant..

hopefully you find someone who talks as much as you do...
and the conversation is fun and interesting for you both..
good luck!

urbanhippie

I'm a girl and I have to say that if I'm really interested in someone, male or female, then I'd rather listen than talk. Some of it's nerves, but mainly its 'cos I'm trying to know someone and there's no better way to do that than listening. I must be that kind of person 'cos all my friends tell me I'm easy to talk to, but thats because I'm genuinely interested in people.
It's important that conversations are a two way street especially at the beginning of any friendship/relationship. How else are you gonna get to know people?

genie

LikeAnOcean wrote:

Do you do most the talking when conversing with a love interest?

So far in life the women I've been seeing have. They only give me the time for an occasional question, laugh or agreement like "yeah", "uh, huh"..



Is that a bad thing???

I'm not complaining, I'm just hoping it means the girl is interested back and doesn't think I'm lifeless. lol.


I just got of the phone from another one of those. I knew she had things to do, but kept talking and talking, so the first break I got, about 20 minutes later, I egknowledged she had things to do, and said I didn't want to hold her up. lol.

hehe, women eh?!

i love when men talk non-stop it gives me a break from constantly coming up with something, i also love it because i get to know the person more and also because i get to comment on what they're saying.

my first ex, i'd like to think it was equal, but he pretty much talked more than me.but he didn't just talk about mundane things or bitching about his friends he also talked about his understanding of things....i.e he was telling me his own philosophy. which i didn't agree with sometimes, i liked hearing about it anyway because it gaves me new outlook on things ya know.
i will go as far as to say maybe that's why i missed him so much in the beginning, but all is good now i've got my own philosophy book

my other ex didn't talk a lot and when he did......erm once he talked about history ( which bore the crap out of me )...erm then about few local unknown musicians...erm what i want to eat and other pretty much basic.oh, and he didn't know how to pronounce English words correctly....and that annoyed me a lot.

anyway bottom line is i like my men to talk and be waking taking philosophy book.

Chazz

covered in bliss wrote:

did she ask you about -your- weekend? If so, her blabbing might be acceptable. If the conversation was only about -her- and she didn't listen to anything -you- had to say... move along.

Totally agree with this - went out with a guy who could only talk about himself, it gets tiresome after a while cos people like that rarely change...time to move on

Chazz

urbanhippie wrote:

I'm a girl and I have to say that if I'm really interested in someone, male or female, then I'd rather listen than talk. Some of it's nerves, but mainly its 'cos I'm trying to know someone and there's no better way to do that than listening. I must be that kind of person 'cos all my friends tell me I'm easy to talk to, but thats because I'm genuinely interested in people.
It's important that conversations are a two way street especially at the beginning of any friendship/relationship. How else are you gonna get to know people?

This is the same for me to - you can learn a lot from just listening sometimes

chinobaeza

this thread reminds me a quote from Pulp Fiction :
"That is when you know you've found someone special, when you can just shut the fuck up for a minute and enjoy the silence"

GreenTeaDisease

LikeAnOcean wrote:

Do you do most the talking when conversing with a love interest?

So far in life the women I've been seeing have. They only give me the time for an occasional question, laugh or agreement like "yeah", "uh, huh"..



Is that a bad thing???

I'm not complaining, I'm just hoping it means the girl is interested back and doesn't think I'm lifeless. lol.


I just got of the phone from another one of those. I knew she had things to do, but kept talking and talking, so the first break I got, about 20 minutes later, I egknowledged she had things to do, and said I didn't want to hold her up. lol.

it totally depends who the date is! My last boyfriend, SUPER SHY! The first date I had to reluctantly babble incessantly just to avoid us sitting there staring at each other in silence. But the guy before that- I couldn't get a word in edge-wise with him. He asked me like ten billion questions but only gave me enough time for one-word answers! I don't like talking a lot to people I don't know, so honestly, I much prefer if the guy does more talking.

and yes, I think that if either party is talking a whole lot, it is most likely nerves. I know when I do talk a lot on a date that is the case.

inmyrvm

if a girl doesn't talk then that's that much bullshit she will say. you win in the end.

decides2dream

Ms. Haiku wrote:

I can't wait to find someone with whom I can be quiet or talkative, and relaxed at the same time.

it IS the *BEST* feeling, absolutely!



as to the initial Q, i think it depends. even my then uber shy husband was quite talkative when we first met up. firstly, i think to express his interest, and secondly, simply b/c when you are *new*...there's so many things to talk about, equally! i AM most definitely the more talkative of our union, but really, nowadays my husband will start and carry on numerous conversations.


i say, whatever works for a couple, both are comfortable and content...and it's all good. i am just thankful that after soooooo much time together, we still find so much to talk about, be excited about, share...and sure.......being quiet together is just as great!