Girls, be honest..

LikeAnOcean

Do you do most the talking when conversing with a love interest?

So far in life the women I've been seeing have. They only give me the time for an occasional question, laugh or agreement like "yeah", "uh, huh"..



Is that a bad thing???

I'm not complaining, I'm just hoping it means the girl is interested back and doesn't think I'm lifeless. lol.


I just got of the phone from another one of those. I knew she had things to do, but kept talking and talking, so the first break I got, about 20 minutes later, I egknowledged she had things to do, and said I didn't want to hold her up. lol.

Ms. Haiku

I talk more if I'm nervous or in the beginning of a relationship so there isn't dead air. However, I would prefer someone who wasn't uber-talkative. Most people I know talk like it's their last breath, and I want someone who could just help me relax. Talking is good, spewing gets old.

I can't wait to find someone with whom I can be quiet or talkative, and relaxed at the same time.

LikeAnOcean

Ms. Haiku wrote:

I talk more if I'm nervous or in the beginning of a relationship so there isn't dead air. However, I would prefer someone who wasn't uber-talkative. Most people I know talk like it's their last breath, and I want someone who could just help me relax. Talking is good, spewing gets old.

I can't wait to find someone with whom I can be quiet or talkative, and relaxed at the same time.

Well, this is like our 4th or 5th phone conversation with one date down.. If she's still nervous, thats a good sign, right?

Spunkie

I do most of the talking. I have to ask questions about his work or his family to get him going. It makes me a bit nervous to blab on.

After 4 months, I'm still not perfectly at ease over the phone. Nervousness is a good sign.

norm

what is that stat.....women say 5,000 words a day men say 1,000.....something like that....chicks talk....A LOT!! :D

LikeAnOcean

tish wrote:

I do most of the talking. I have to ask questions about his work or his family to get him going. It makes me a bit nervous to blab on.

After 4 months, I'm still not perfectly at ease over the phone. Nervousness is a good sign.

So as long as I keep do the calling and she does talking, its a good thing, right?

Asking her about her weekend was a good 20 minute answer.

MattCameronKicksButt

It depends (for me) how the conversation is going. If it's a bit quiet, I'll try and keep talking and asking questions to keep from awkwardness on both sides. Besides, it's just polite to do so.

She's prolly shy, otherwise, she wouldn't still be talking to you.

Ms. Haiku

I don't think nervous is good. It's an indication of unease. If you two can be on speaker phone, then you can talk and cook pasta at the same time - there I fixed the nervous problem.

LikeAnOcean

MattCameronKicksButt wrote:

She's prolly shy, otherwise, she wouldn't still be talking to you.

I dated a really shy girl once, and I did all the talking.. of course, that only lasted one date and she also didn't tell me she was involved in a serious relationship.

lalalalaaaaaaaa

LikeAnOcean wrote:

Do you do most the talking when conversing with a love interest?

So far in life the women I've been seeing have. They only give me the time for an occasional question, laugh or agreement like "yeah", "uh, huh"..



Is that a bad thing???

I'm not complaining, I'm just hoping it means the girl is interested back and doesn't think I'm lifeless. lol.


I just got of the phone from another one of those. I knew she had things to do, but kept talking and talking, so the first break I got, about 20 minutes later, I egknowledged she had things to do, and said I didn't want to hold her up. lol.

Just depends on the girl, dude. I have one girl friend who will do 99% of the talking on the phone, and it's not because I have nothing to say. If I try to say something, she'll just interrupt me and keep on blabbin' haha...love her to death, but she never shuts up, and it's not because she's nervous either. I've known her for years.

Then I have other girl friends who won't say 2 words or will only ask me questions over the phone. It just depends.

I hate talking on the phone. IM or in person is so much easier.

Spunkie

Yup, keep calling. Sounds like it's going good. It takes awhile before that ease and comfort sets in like a pair of old socks.

JenInTheBx

I talk a lot... but that's also part of my personality. I would just make sure she's not trying to carry on the whole conversation, you don't want things to become too one sided.

igotid88

I haven't been on many dates. One I guess. But whenever I'm talking with a girl they want me to talk. And I hate talking about myself. I'm never lucky.

CreedDisease

but it seems the more you let someone talk about themselves, the more they like you... i don't get it

covered in bliss

LikeAnOcean wrote:

So as long as I keep do the calling and she does talking, its a good thing, right?

Asking her about her weekend was a good 20 minute answer.

did she ask you about -your- weekend? If so, her blabbing might be acceptable. If the conversation was only about -her- and she didn't listen to anything -you- had to say... move along.

the wolf

okay, im not a chick, so if you dont want my opinion, just scroll down.

with my girl at first i always felt like i was the one talking, she is just like that.

as far as the being nervous, could be, which i would take as a good sign.

or maybe, she is like my girl, and just needs something really important to talk about b4 she gets on a roll.

its been 2.5 years, and sometimes getting her talking is like pulling fuckin teeth. unless she had a bad day at work.

so, the lesson learned...............woman are strange beast's we mere men can never and probably never will never understand.

Allie

you're in love with that girl already?

I try not to do most of the talking. I want to know how the other person I'm talking to is doing

LikeAnOcean

covered in bliss wrote:

did she ask you about -your- weekend? If so, her blabbing might be acceptable. If the conversation was only about -her- and she didn't listen to anything -you- had to say... move along.

Yes, she asked about my weekend. I summed it up in 2 minutes.

DOSW

I like when girls talk a lot. I'm a terrible conversationalist by nature, so it keeps things natural for me. It can get out of hand though if the conversation is ridiculously mundane.

Born.Mine.Die

I would go crazy if one person was doing all the talking..
I don't get how a guy can be with a girl who yaps your ear off..like Kelley from the office! haha
I can't stand even sitting close to a yappy girl on a date with a guy at a restaurant..

hopefully you find someone who talks as much as you do...
and the conversation is fun and interesting for you both..
good luck!

urbanhippie

I'm a girl and I have to say that if I'm really interested in someone, male or female, then I'd rather listen than talk. Some of it's nerves, but mainly its 'cos I'm trying to know someone and there's no better way to do that than listening. I must be that kind of person 'cos all my friends tell me I'm easy to talk to, but thats because I'm genuinely interested in people.
It's important that conversations are a two way street especially at the beginning of any friendship/relationship. How else are you gonna get to know people?