Daily Rant - Do it here.
GraySaturday
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I'm starting a "Ranting" thread. Feel free to vent to the thread. Maybe someone will care, maybe they won't.. but at least you'll get it out.
My rant -
I think its sad, and irresponsible for parents that are divorced to not help younger children come up with any sort of present/card/gift/anything for the other parents birthday. I work for a single mother, her birthday is on Thursday and her poor son is so sad that he doesn't have anything to give her. He is so worried that he doesn't have a card for her this year or anything. His dad, and stepmom have gone away for the entire week, and didn't help him pick out anything or make anything. I know that gifts aren't the most important thing in life, but he wanted to make her smile and give her something special on her birthday, and his dad just apparently... I don't know, didn't do that?
Obviously my boss doesn't expect anything from her 6 year old, and thats not the point I'm making. I just feel bad for a little guy who feels stressed because he doesn't have anything to give her. He tries so hard to please people and make them feel good. It's little things like that, that seem to just go right over people's heads.
Needless to say, we're going to craft store after school today to pick up some supplies to make her something nice. Not going to spend a lot, but something from the heart. I wish SOME people could understand, it doesn't take that much!
End Rant.
My rant -
I think its sad, and irresponsible for parents that are divorced to not help younger children come up with any sort of present/card/gift/anything for the other parents birthday. I work for a single mother, her birthday is on Thursday and her poor son is so sad that he doesn't have anything to give her. He is so worried that he doesn't have a card for her this year or anything. His dad, and stepmom have gone away for the entire week, and didn't help him pick out anything or make anything. I know that gifts aren't the most important thing in life, but he wanted to make her smile and give her something special on her birthday, and his dad just apparently... I don't know, didn't do that?
Obviously my boss doesn't expect anything from her 6 year old, and thats not the point I'm making. I just feel bad for a little guy who feels stressed because he doesn't have anything to give her. He tries so hard to please people and make them feel good. It's little things like that, that seem to just go right over people's heads.
Needless to say, we're going to craft store after school today to pick up some supplies to make her something nice. Not going to spend a lot, but something from the heart. I wish SOME people could understand, it doesn't take that much!
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very sweet
very sweet indeed.
kids are awesome.
keep up the good work of being a decent person
nicely done GraySaturday
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I also suggest that we open a hunting season on range cattle. I
realize that beef cattle will not make sporting prey at first. Like
all domesticated animals (including most humans), beef cattle are
slow, stupid, and awkward. But the breed will improve if hunted
regularly. And as the number of cattle is reduced, other and far more
useful, beautiful, and interesting animals will return to the range
lands and will increase.
Suppose, by some miracle of Hollywood or inheritance or good luck, I
should acquire a respectable- sized working cattle outfit. What would
I do with it? First I'd get rid of the stinking, filthy cattle. Every
single animal. Shoot them all, and stock the place with real animals,
real game, real protein: elk, buffalo, pronghorn antelope, bighorn
sheep, moose. And some purely decorative animals, like eagles. We
need more eagles. And wolves we need more wolves. Mountain lions and
bears. Especially, of course, grizzly bears. Down in the desert, I would
stock every water tank, every water hole, every stock pond, with
alligators.
You may note that I have said little about coyotes or deer. Coyotes
seem to be doing all right on their own. They're smarter than their
enemies. I've never heard of a coyote as dumb as a sheepman. As for
deer, especially mule deer, they, too, are surviving-maybe even
thriving, as some game and fish departments claim, though nobody
claims there are as many deer now as there were before the cattle
industry was introduced in the West.
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Its so hard. My boss is INCREDIBLE with him, she loves him more than anything in the world. I've worked for families that have a nanny to "keep up with the Jones", not this woman, she works so hard, and does it all herself. They've been divorced for 5 and 1/2 years and it's insane to me how polar opposite his parents are. I can't believe how they ever were married in the first place. His dad is not a bad person, he just doesn't think of things that are of concern to his son. Harrison was crying this morning because he "doesn't have a drivers license and can't get to the store" !!!! A 6 year old need not be worrying about not being able to get themselves to a store to get a birthday present. I feel bad for kids that stress in those situations. Divorce is hard enough. I should package up my Divorcing with Kids manual and drop it off at his dad's house. (Must find out when dad's birthday is! haha)
that is a peeve of mine too. my friend does it with her daughter. she refuses to get her ex anything from her daughter because she and her ex ended on bad terms (AND also, i have a feeling her bf would be mad if she did get something for the ex). i say it has absolutely NOTHING to do with her or her ex or their feelings (or lack of) for each other. it is all about the kid/s and making them feel good and teaching them about giving.
i ALWAYS made sure my son had something for his dad...christmas, birthdays, father's day. whether my ex did the same or not was not the point.
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and my daily rant already occurred....in your thanksgiving thread. damn bro-in-law.
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
Thats so annoying. My parents are divorced, and while they divorced when I was 21, so I was responsible for myself at that point, my brother was only 13... my parents both helped to make sure that there were always gifts and recognition from my brother for the other parent.
It drives me nuts when a parent justifies it by saying "well a child needs to learn its not about gifts anyways".. thats not the point. It's about a child feeling socially responsible and wanting to make someone feel special. Thats why I encourage crafty handmade gifts. Not expensive and it gives a special meaning to the gift. Plus, Harrison is SO proud of things he makes, and he should be!
Parents need to put their feelings away for a minute. Your child will benefit from staying socially conscious.
I admire your thoughts on this. I am currently in the father role in your story. It is difficult for me to take my son to get something for my ex considering the circumstances of what we've gone through. She got pregnant/married less than 8 months after we broke up and then moved and hour and 1/2 away from me and refuses to bend even a little bit in travel arrangements. I went from seeing my son 4 times a week to seeing him barely once. I can, bit by bit, feel my relationship with my son slipping away no matter how hard I work to have one.
Granted if my son ever asked me I would probably suck it up and do it but I would never, on my own, take him to buy something for her.
It's just the way I feel.
I guess that's my rant as well. LOL
PS-Don't try and take as I'm a jerk. I'm just giving the other point of view, granted circumstances may be different.
Nope, I don't think you're a jerk. I do realize that situations are different everywhere. In this situation, the parents are friendly, they get together, they talk on the phone, email, etc.. My rant is more against parents that are too wrapped up in their own deal to even realize that a child is stressing something.
I think sometimes people have too much going on, and little details (that are important!) get lost in the mix, and when its a kid that suffers, that makes me rant.
I see your side though, and I agree.. no sense in going out of your way when you're getting the shit end of the deal. I do like that you said you would help if your child asked you. It takes a lot to suck up your feelings.
If it's a friendly environment than you're right. The little things, to children, are basically the only things and parents get wrapped up in their own stuff.
It does take a lot to suck up your feelings but when you look at a five year old they really don't give a shit what your feelings for your ex are. At this point all my son really cares about is Pac-Man on X Box. LOL.
As for me, a phone call from my son on my birthday (which I didn't get this year, yes, I'm bitter) will turn the trick for me.