kids can be so mean!

myhook

Get this, I was taking the garbage out to the curb last night around 7- 7:30. This little kid come riding by on his bike, couldn't of been more than 6 years old. He stops in front of my house and yells out "hey Mr." and then sticks his tongue out at me and gives me the finger. Now I start laughing and the mother of the kid who is walking about 50 feet behind him on her cell phone goes, oh don't mind him he just does that because he thinks it is funny and they kept on going down the block. I was like wtf? How is that parenting?

eMMI

myhook wrote:

Get this, I was taking the garbage out to the curb last night around 7- 7:30. This little kid come riding by on his bike, couldn't of been more than 6 years old. He stops in front of my house and yells out "hey Mr." and then sticks his tongue out at me and gives me the finger. Now I start laughing and the mother of the kid who is walking about 50 feet behind him on her cell phone goes, oh don't mind him he just does that because he thinks it is funny and they kept on going down the block. I was like wtf? How is that parenting?

fooking hell. one day I was walking home-home (visiting the ol' family that is. ) and this kid is riding his bike on the street, which is all good and nice. but then he starts cycling towards me, down this hill (and to me everything's still allright) and then I see a fecking knife in this kid's hand! :eek: he's like 10 years old or something.

so he rides past me, not looking too threatening but holding the fecking knife and almost falling off his bike. and when he's gotten down the hill, he turns back and starts coming up it again, basically right behind me and I'm looking over my shoulder - scared of this little kid!

finally I get to this path in a small woods and he won't follow me there.

what kind of parents let their kids bike around with a knife? it was your everyday kitchen knife too.. ok, fair enough, maybe they didn't know he had it but still.

kh65

edvedder913 wrote:

I think most parents accept that kids just speak their minds. I made a HUGE point of explaining to my son not to hurt people's feelings and to always think before saying something - would you like it if it were said to you? he has always been VERY aware of it and very kind to everyone.

I just don't think it's drilled in enough at home. Kids have no filter - it's not their fault - some things need to be taught.

But hell yeah, they can be mean! But so can adults - and we know better

Like my mother says.. Children are like little animals that need to be trained. The problem isn't the kids it is the parents not doing their job. They want to be the kids friend. Be the PARENT not the friend.

lalalalaaaaaaaa

Both kids and adults can be mean...removing the kid from this reality won't help him in the long run. Teach him to deal with this Grace character in some way (hopefully just not in a violent or eye-for-an-eye way).

And no, I don't have kids haha...I hope decides2dream sees this!

kh65

eMMI wrote:

fooking hell. one day I was walking home-home (visiting the ol' family that is. ) and this kid is riding his bike on the street, which is all good and nice. but then he starts cycling towards me, down this hill (and to me everything's still allright) and then I see a fecking knife in this kid's hand! :eek: he's like 10 years old or something.

so he rides past me, not looking too threatening but holding the fecking knife and almost falling off his bike. and when he's gotten down the hill, he turns back and starts coming up it again, basically right behind me and I'm looking over my shoulder - scared of this little kid!

finally I get to this path in a small woods and he won't follow me there.

what kind of parents let their kids bike around with a knife? it was your everyday kitchen knife too.. ok, fair enough, maybe they didn't know he had it but still.

I hadn't heard that Chuck Manson had kids.

Heineken Helen

myhook wrote:

Get this, I was taking the garbage out to the curb last night around 7- 7:30. This little kid come riding by on his bike, couldn't of been more than 6 years old. He stops in front of my house and yells out "hey Mr." and then sticks his tongue out at me and gives me the finger. Now I start laughing and the mother of the kid who is walking about 50 feet behind him on her cell phone goes, oh don't mind him he just does that because he thinks it is funny and they kept on going down the block. I was like wtf? How is that parenting?

In fairness, considering the state of the world today, I thought you were gonna say the woman got on her cell phone and called her husband to come round and beat you up for laughing at her child

sometimes ignoring a kid when they're looking for attention or acting up can be effective... othertimes it can turn them into a serial killer... perhaps she's just trying it out?

GreenTeaDisease

All I know is that when I was kid and starting school I was completely SHOCKED at how mean kids were. flash forward 13 years and I couldn't believe how mean COLLEGE kids were.

myhook

Heineken Helen wrote:

In fairness, considering the state of the world today, I thought you were gonna say the woman got on her cell phone and called her husband to come round and beat you up for laughing at her child

Ha, well that would of made things interesting. And from the looks of his mother I am not sure if she would of called his father or the guy she was sleeping with at the time if you know what I mean. But this woman obviously had no control over her kid anyway. I live on a relatively quiet street but this kid was all over the place. Riding down the middle of the street and without a helmet. Not to mention this kid was on a bike with training wheels. She was clueless.

Rygar

myhook wrote:

Get this, I was taking the garbage out to the curb last night around 7- 7:30. This little kid come riding by on his bike, couldn't of been more than 6 years old. He stops in front of my house and yells out "hey Mr." and then sticks his tongue out at me and gives me the finger. Now I start laughing and the mother of the kid who is walking about 50 feet behind him on her cell phone goes, oh don't mind him he just does that because he thinks it is funny and they kept on going down the block. I was like wtf? How is that parenting?

Maybe she said that cause you were laughing and she thought you thought it was funny.

GraySaturday

Kids are such a direct representation of their parents (or caregivers). I know so many people that just send kids to a time out, or to their rooms when something wrong is done. I don't think kids learn anything from that. When Harrison breaks a rule, or says something mean we sit down and we talk about the effects that his actions can have on others, or even himself. He really understands, and he seems to value the fact that he can LEARN why something is wrong, as opposed to just being "punished" and not learn a lesson from it.

He tends to come to me and ask me why kids at school say certain things that are mean, and we have to talk about how some kids don't think about the things they say. I try to use the kids picking on him to show him how it feels when we say mean things to each other. He really remembers how it felt to get picked on so when I remind him that his unkind words make other people feel that same way, he totally makes that connection.

I think kids benefit from parents (caregivers) to be constantly on them. I don't mean nagging a kid, but I don't let little things go, because the child is just saying them to get attention or whatever. I keep reinforcing good behavior all the time because the battle to raise an upstanding member of society is a never ending one.

myhook

Rygar wrote:

Maybe she said that cause you were laughing and she thought you thought it was funny.

You could be right, who knows. I was mostly laughing out of shock. Like what was I going to do. Pick a fight with a 6 year old, or tell him off..LOL Granted it would make a great SNL skit.

Rygar

myhook wrote:

You could be right, who knows. I was mostly laughing out of shock. Like what was I going to do. Pick a fight with a 6 year old, or tell him off..LOL Granted it would make a great SNL skit.

hehehe, that'd be a sight

kh65

myhook wrote:

You could be right, who knows. I was mostly laughing out of shock. Like what was I going to do. Pick a fight with a 6 year old, or tell him off..LOL Granted it would make a great SNL skit.

You should have punched him and then said "He started it"

myhook

kh65 wrote:

You should have punched him and then said "He started it"

HA, punch him and than take his bike. And as I ride away give him the finger...LOL

decides2dream

yes, they can!
i've witnessed it myself numerous times. on the flip side though, i ALSO have witnessed children be TRULY kind and generous...empathetic...it's a beautiful thing. eh, i guess just like adults?

Keiran

Children run with a herd mentality, like packs of wild hyenas consistently assessing each other's strengths and weaknesses. Until the weakest member of the group is identified and the entire pack turns upon their victim in a savage attack - complete with gnashing of teeth and ripping of flesh. The attack eventually subsides when the pack, usually out of boredom, turns and bears their fangs towards another unsuspecting member of their own clan. The original victim is left, battered, beaten and stripped of dignity, wandering in search of another group in hopes of climbing up from the bottom of the food chain and finding an even weaker victim upon which they too can prey.

Oh, by the way, I teach middle school.

decides2dream

Keiran wrote:

Children run with a herd mentality, like packs of wild hyenas consistently assessing each other's strengths and weaknesses. Until the weakest member of the group is identified and the entire pack turns upon their victim in a savage attack - complete with gnashing of teeth and ripping of flesh. The attack eventually subsides when the pack, usually out of boredom, turns and bears their fangs towards another unsuspecting member of their own clan. The original victim is left, battered, beaten and stripped of dignity, wandering in search of another group in hopes of climbing up from the bottom of the food chain and finding an even weaker victim upon which they too can prey.

Oh, by the way, I teach middle school.

sounds a lot like message boards.





and yes, i too taught preK thru grade 8...so yes, i KNOW what you mean! :eek: haha.

Drop The Leash 10

not as bad as my cousin Jodie who is in kindergarten and organized an attack on the third graders. had eerything planned out. then later that day she kicked the living daylight outta a third grader.