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Footsteps at a Wedding

ringoringo Posts: 504
edited July 2008 in The Porch
So the wife and I just got back from a wedding where we (she) chatted up the DJ and had him play Footsteps. We danced and sang to each other which was really awesome since I'm not much of a dancer. We pretty much kicked off the dancing for the wedding besides the bride and groom's first dance.
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  • hiding103006hiding103006 Posts: 452
    pretty cool! i would have went with blood though.
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  • mattcozeamattcozea Posts: 377
    A song about a man on death row... yeah, perfect for a wedding. :p
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  • CityMouseCityMouse Posts: 1,010
    um, you do realize this is a song about a guy who killed people and is waiting to die right??? that was a pretty stupid DJ to listen to you. if the bride and groom know anything at all, they're probably pretty pissed at you right now.

    Honestly, there are not many PJ songs that are appropriate for weddings. the only one I would say is thin air, but that's only somewhat vaguely dancable so there's not much point. PJ isn't about your typical love song (which is why I love them, love songs have been done to death)
  • go prego pre Posts: 662
    i got married about a month ago. my wife forgot to tell the dj about our one pj song per hour deal, but we still got parachutes and closed out the dance with yellow ledbetter.

    good times.

    but, yeah, footsteps seems like a downer for a wedding dance.
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  • hiding103006hiding103006 Posts: 452
    sheesh take it easy on the guy... i'm sure everyone there was analyzing the lyrics and were aghast in horror...
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  • Fighting HellfishFighting Hellfish Posts: 3,170
    I can't believe the DJ had Footsteps on hand, ready to play
  • jocelynjocelyn Posts: 67
    CityMouse wrote:
    um, you do realize this is a song about a guy who killed people and is waiting to die right??? that was a pretty stupid DJ to listen to you. if the bride and groom know anything at all, they're probably pretty pissed at you right now.

    Honestly, there are not many PJ songs that are appropriate for weddings. the only one I would say is thin air, but that's only somewhat vaguely dancable so there's not much point. PJ isn't about your typical love song (which is why I love them, love songs have been done to death)


    Yep, ringo and I were promptly escorted from the property. Wedding=ruined.

    Dude, no one knew any better! It was just us and it was cooler than any of the other PJ songs he had.

    Seriously, bad day or something?
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  • flyersfan62379flyersfan62379 Posts: 58
    I'm getting married in November. I'm not a dancer, same goes for my fiance. It's really just going to be short and sweet. Basically dinner with 25 people. I want to play some PJ, but honestly, there's nothing to play that's appropreciate for a wedding. Very little.
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  • bootlegger10bootlegger10 Posts: 16,066
    flyersfan62379 wrote:
    I'm getting married in November. I'm not a dancer, same goes for my fiance. It's really just going to be short and sweet. Basically dinner with 25 people. I want to play some PJ, but honestly, there's nothing to play that's appropreciate for a wedding. Very little.

    Exactly. Footsteps at a wedding reception = far too obsessed (and self-absorbed to do it at someone else's wedding).
  • slightofjeffslightofjeff Posts: 7,762
    bootlegger10 wrote:
    Exactly. Footsteps at a wedding reception = far too obsessed (and self-absorbed to do it at someone else's wedding).

    It would be one thing if it were used in the wedding ceremony.

    But the reception is just a party. Any music goes.

    Hell, at my wedding reception, my three groomsmen and I got up at swapped verses on "Pancho and Lefty" by Willie Nelson.

    People play "YMCA" and do the chicken dance.

    None of that stuff has anything to do with marriage, either.

    I agree that "Footsteps" during the ceremony would be frightening. Once the ceremony is over and the party begins, who gives a shit?
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  • flyersfan62379flyersfan62379 Posts: 58
    I went to a wedding 2 years ago. Someone came around and asked me what I wanted to hear from the DJ. I said Pearl Jam, but I didn't think she'd really place a Pearl Jam request for me. The DJ played "Last Kiss" later that night. Awesome. A song about death at a wedding.
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  • slightofjeffslightofjeff Posts: 7,762
    flyersfan62379 wrote:
    I went to a wedding 2 years ago. Someone came around and asked me what I wanted to hear from the DJ. I said Pearl Jam, but I didn't think she'd really place a Pearl Jam request for me. The DJ played "Last Kiss" later that night. Awesome. A song about death at a wedding.

    again, if it was just at the reception, who cares?
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  • bootlegger10bootlegger10 Posts: 16,066
    slightofjeff wrote:
    again, if it was just at the reception, who cares?

    Obviously it is just a song at a reception. A song can't hurt anybody. And nobody will remember that Last Kiss or Footsteps were played five minutes later. But seriously, can we set aside the obsession for 2 hours at a reception? It is a song about a murderer that you can't dance too. To have it played at your own reception, fine, but to request it out of nowhere? Everything about it is just dumb. Just plain dumb. I'm drawing the line on this one. Dumb.
  • MistrblankMistrblank Posts: 29
    Thin Air seemed like a good song, till you realize it's more of a death song as well (they sang it for chris matthews in camden, it was awesome).

    My fiance and I are toying with Parachutes for our first wedding dance. I hated the song completely until I got in the car after our first date (and kiss) together and it was the song playing on the CD Player. Now both of us love the song.

    I'm having a hard time with it though, the last line is perfect, but a lot of the rest of the song is up and down....
  • Corey LynnCorey Lynn Posts: 681
    I gave my DJ a list of all of the songs that I wanted played (including PJ despite the song meaning...it would have been cool to hear) at my reception and he played none of them. I hate that guy. I have seen him at other wedding's since and really want to kick him in the balls...but, I guess you get what you pay for and I agreed to go cheap on the DJ (stupid me!). At the ceremony our wedding party walked down the isle to "In my Life" by The Beatles and we walked back out when it was over to "Three Little Birds" by Bob Marley (so at least that part went well). We heard that the pastor that married us was "let go" a couple of months later because "He was too liberal". I hope it had nothing to do with our unconventional music selection. : )


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  • kcherubkcherub Posts: 961
    Corey Lynn wrote:
    I gave my DJ a list of all of the songs that I wanted played (including PJ despite the song meaning...it would have been cool to hear) at my reception and he played none of them. I hate that guy. I have seen him at other wedding's since and really want to kick him in the balls...but, I guess you get what you pay for and I agreed to go cheap on the DJ (stupid me!). At the ceremony our wedding party walked down the isle to "In my Life" by The Beatles and we walked back out when it was over to "Three Little Birds" by Bob Marley (so at least that part went well). We heard that the pastor that married us was "let go" a couple of months later because "He was too liberal". I hope it had nothing to do with our unconventional music selection. : )

    "In My Life" was our wedding song!!!

    Back to the original thread topic...as far as song "meanings" go, I think that everyone who loves a song takes their own "meaning" from it, no matter what the original intent of the songwriter was. If a song is pretty, which I think Footsteps is, then it's pretty. When I jump around to Alive, it is not because my father was not my father and so on and so forth.

    I was a wedding consultant in a former life and have heard much, much worse at a reception (where yes, anything really goes). Try Kid Rock.

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  • cheeseandricecheeseandrice Posts: 206
    Light Years and Soldier Of Love at our wedding. Footsteps is a little intense, but I'm sure no one cared.
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  • CityMouseCityMouse Posts: 1,010
    slightofjeff wrote:
    again, if it was just at the reception, who cares?


    people get REALLY picky about wedding reception music!! the bride usually makes a list of all the songs beforehand, they usually don't even take requests. I was at one wedding where a bunch of drunkards decided to all request Sweet Child...so about 10 of us one by one asked the DJ to play Sweet Child (which seems like it would be ok- it's somewhat cheesey love song that every knows) but he wouldn't budge, he said the bride had a strict playlist set up. And actually, when I was helping my friend plan her wedding, there were many "bride guides" that instruct brides not to allow guests to "ruin" the wedding by telling the DJ not to accept requests.
  • slightofjeffslightofjeff Posts: 7,762
    CityMouse wrote:
    people get REALLY picky about wedding reception music!! the bride usually makes a list of all the songs beforehand, they usually don't even take requests. I was at one wedding where a bunch of drunkards decided to all request Sweet Child...so about 10 of us one by one asked the DJ to play Sweet Child (which seems like it would be ok- it's somewhat cheesey love song that every knows) but he wouldn't budge, he said the bride had a strict playlist set up. And actually, when I was helping my friend plan her wedding, there were many "bride guides" that instruct brides not to allow guests to "ruin" the wedding by telling the DJ not to accept requests.

    I guess this is just us then. We didn't care what was played at our reception, as long as it wasn't over-the-top raunchy. I didn't want my new 4-year-old cousins listening to "Back that ass up."

    I wanted to have the DJ play "Did it all for the nookie" as a joke, but my wife vetoed that one as well.

    Obviously, you need to pick a meaningful song for the first dance.

    Other than that, it's just a party. People should listen to music they like.
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  • Pearl Jam_iePearl Jam_ie Posts: 821
    Top Pearl Jam songs for a wedding:

    Last Exit
    I Got Shit
    Whipping
    Life Wasted
    Sad
    Don't Gimmie No Lip

    Just kidding, I'm really not that cynical. Footsteps doesn't really fit the theme of a wedding, but I'm guessing there weren't too many people there that knew what it meant anyways. Yellow Ledbetter and RITFW were the last two songs played at our reception, was fun to end it that way. We had a pretty casual event though.
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  • CityMouseCityMouse Posts: 1,010
    slightofjeff wrote:
    I
    Obviously, you need to pick a meaningful song for the first dance.
    .

    a lot of people I know are skipping that whole thing now, which seems like a good idea to me. one of my friends who did it said it was horrible just having everyone staring at them for like 4 minutes! Haha I don't think I could take that!
    slightofjeff wrote:
    Other than that, it's just a party. People should listen to music they like.

    well that's just it, you need to have music that will "pass" for party music for all the guests. I'm a total DJ at heart, and I think that setting up a playlist for a wedding would be a really big balance. I mean people want to dance, but you don't want anything cheesey/raunchy as someone said. then you have to accomodate 90 year old grandmas and 60 year old parents and 30 year old friends and 15 year old cousins...tough, tough, tough. I'd love to DJ a wedding, it would be a killer challenge.
  • indifferentmanindifferentman Goshen, IN Posts: 731
    Footsteps would have kind of a sour context at a wedding. Personally, I'd like to incorporate some Pearl Jam song into my wedding reception, but I wouldn't go crazy with it. I'd probably really want to put Thin Air into it, and maybe YLB. If I REALLY pushed it, I could "maybe" see doing Hail, Hail, Wishlist, or Elderly Woman. The later too just because they have a "happy feeling" to them.

    In general, I think I'm just gonna butt out of that whole process. I HATE 90% of pop music and rap out there, and that's the kind of crap that people dance to unfortunately. Nobody is going to dance to or even like most of the stuff I listen too. I'd probably look over the setlist and see if there's anything I REALLY hate on it, otherwise who cares? I just wanna make sure people have fun (i.e. have lots of alcohol on hand).
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  • itsmyblood248itsmyblood248 Posts: 47
    I am getting married next summer and thinking of kicking off the reception with "All night" when they introduce the groomsmen and stuff. Probably go with a live version. Might be cool, just kicking it around now.
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  • satansbedbugssatansbedbugs On Tour Posts: 2,412
    mattcoz wrote:
    A song about a man on death row... yeah, perfect for a wedding. :p


    LMAO......I had a friend who had footsteps on her wedding list, We immediately talked her into replacing it with TYAAM
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  • Left PorchLeft Porch Posts: 846
    I'm with what someone said earlier, if it's not your wedding leave your PJ obsesion behind for a few hours. Footsteps seems a little depressing for a wedding reception. Long Road woud probably be a pretty good wedding song I guess.
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  • slightofjeffslightofjeff Posts: 7,762
    Left Porch wrote:
    I'm with what someone said earlier, if it's not your wedding leave your PJ obsesion behind for a few hours. Footsteps seems a little depressing for a wedding reception. Long Road woud probably be a pretty good wedding song I guess.

    so footsteps, a song about death, is too depressing for a wedding?
    But Long Road, another song about death, is not?

    Huh. Interesting.
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  • Drop The Leash 10Drop The Leash 10 Posts: 7,011
    who cares??? if this guy wanted footsteps, he got it ! lets stop complaining, songs mean different things to different people.
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  • Left PorchLeft Porch Posts: 846
    slightofjeff wrote:
    so footsteps, a song about death, is too depressing for a wedding?
    But Long Road, another song about death, is not?

    Huh. Interesting.


    Long Road has lots of cheesy lines in it that people might like. Anyway what the fuck do I know about wedding songs. I've only been to 2 weddings.
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