I'm happy where I am in life

megpearlmegpearl Posts: 17
edited December 2008 in The Porch
Okay here goes the venting....I just turned 25 and things are going really well in my life. I've moved to a new state/city and I'm happy. I haven't been able to say that I've actually been happy in years. So here's why I'm posting. It's been three years since I've been with a certain person and now after all this time he comes back into my life. I'm thinking how uncool it is of him to come back into my life. I just wanted some feed back from some cool pearl jam fans and what they thought about exboyfriends/exgirlfriends coming back out of nowhere. After everything he and I have been through I just can't see myself being friends with him. Am I wrong for wanting to be done with him and just move on?
The only things permanent in my life are my tattoo and Pearl Jam.
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  • People can't really come back into your life unless you let them. Don't let him/her, if you don't want to.

    I know it's not always that simple, but sometimes it is.
    everybody wants the most they can possibly get
    for the least they could possibly do
  • red mosred mos Posts: 4,953
    honestly, do what you think is best for you. I let alot of friends/ girlfriends go in my life because I was so miserable around them. Yet, I stand alone, but I feel happy yet wiser in one sense, yet very alone and lonely in another. I know that I am just better off without these people from my past in my life though.

    So in all honestly, really examine your situation with this person both past and present and I say make a decision based on how they have acted in the past.
    My best friend kicked me to the curb for drug addiction. He knew he needed me and help, but yet shot down everything I told him to do. Based on 1000x times I heard him say he was gonna change, sober up, blah blah, blah, he didn't.
    As much as it pained me to kick people I thought were my friends out of my life, it was for the best. Fyi- I found out through one of my mom's close friends' that this so called friend of mine, got arrested about a year ago. I haven't spoken to or talked to him in almost 5 years.
    I don't want to sound like a psycologist or counselor, but as you can see I am better off (even alone, though it sucks). Just really examine your situation and rather you can really trust this person based on your past experience of their behavior and patterns, and make your decision for what is best for you on that.

    Just my .02, Best of luck to you.
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  • go prego pre Posts: 662
    you said things were going well. continue to let them go well. leave him far behind.
    There's a trapdoor in the sun.
  • einatshauleinatshaul Posts: 2,219
    You said it. you are happy. The worst thing you could do right now is answer that phone. I've been there many times, trust me. Go listen to Life wasted and keep moving forward with your life!
  • Your life is yours
    In my past Ive had to push people in my family away from me. Only because they were dragging me down in negativity. 1 took a year to come to me and find a way that they could fit back in. ( the other never did, but because of the strength I found in myself I found room)
    and thats my message If they can change and fit into your life as it is now thats great. if not see ya later.
    but its really your call, lay the ground rules and if they break them dont let it continue.
    or just keep them out completly
    AUSSIE AUSSIE AUSSIE
  • einatshauleinatshaul Posts: 2,219
    SOLAT319 wrote:
    I agree with this guy. And it IS actually THAT simple. Don't answer the phone when he calls. Get a caller ID so that you can see the number. Don't respond to his texts. Don't answer his "hollers" on My Space, Facebook, Twitter or any other teenage made social networking website. Basically, just take him and anything reminds you of him out of your life. YES IT IS THAT SIMPLE. Good luck!

    Still in the same school of thought there :)


    Right on.
  • 2-feign-reluctance2-feign-reluctance TigerTown, USA Posts: 23,344
    megpearl wrote:
    Okay here goes the venting....I just turned 25 and things are going really well in my life. I've moved to a new state/city and I'm happy. I haven't been able to say that I've actually been happy in years. So here's why I'm posting. It's been three years since I've been with a certain person and now after all this time he comes back into my life. I'm thinking how uncool it is of him to come back into my life. I just wanted some feed back from some cool pearl jam fans and what they thought about exboyfriends/exgirlfriends coming back out of nowhere. After everything he and I have been through I just can't see myself being friends with him. Am I wrong for wanting to be done with him and just move on?


    time to talk directly to this person. just my two cents. at the end of the day you are going to do whatever you want to do regardless of what anybody here has to say.
    www.cluthelee.com
  • megpearl wrote:
    Okay here goes the venting....I just turned 25 and things are going really well in my life. I've moved to a new state/city and I'm happy. I haven't been able to say that I've actually been happy in years. So here's why I'm posting. It's been three years since I've been with a certain person and now after all this time he comes back into my life. I'm thinking how uncool it is of him to come back into my life. I just wanted some feed back from some cool pearl jam fans and what they thought about exboyfriends/exgirlfriends coming back out of nowhere. After everything he and I have been through I just can't see myself being friends with him. Am I wrong for wanting to be done with him and just move on?

    Can move this to AET - jeez.

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  • Can move this to AET - jeez.

    I didn't realize you'd be deputized as a board monitor.

    Lighten up, Francis.
    everybody wants the most they can possibly get
    for the least they could possibly do
  • STT757STT757 Posts: 302
    MegPearl,

    Do yourself a huge favor and don't commit or get into any serious relationships right now, your at a great age. Your happy, your in a new place. Enjoy it, try to make some money right now and splurge on yourself. Travel, get a new car, splurge on some clothes etc..

    Don't look for any serious relationships until your maybe 28 or 29, that's a good age to start getting serious. Take this from a Married 33 year old, I got married when I was 31. That's a good age.
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  • mfc2006mfc2006 HTOWN Posts: 37,484
    you have to listen to your gut on issues like this. there are reasons why you started fresh, and those reasons are valid & yours. being in a good "place" isn't just about relocating. it's about re-evaluating your life & taking a long look at your life & your priorities & goals. if this person doesn't match up with those things, then that is your answer.

    it's tough..i know. i've had to cut a few people out of my life that i once truly cared about. but i take comfort in knowing that those weren't impulsive decisions and they made me appreciate my life that much more.

    best of luck to you and congrats on realizing what was happening before it was too late.
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  • I didn't realize you'd be deputized as a board monitor.

    Lighten up, Francis.


    How those Texas shows treating you.

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    Mexico=1, Colombia=1 



  • URthekeyURthekey Posts: 1,800
    The only redeeming quality would be if this guy has a lower 10C# then you.
  • That's no joke. :) He wasn't even a fan of PJ. Just another thing on the long list of reasons not to be with him anymore.
    The only things permanent in my life are my tattoo and Pearl Jam.
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