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Who needs to be loved?
what does it mean
a special feeling
to be wanted or needed
to feel important, at least to one
all that matters
to satisfy our own greed
to cement our self worth
in the grand scheme
prove our importance
to say we mattered
at least to one.
what does it mean
a special feeling
to be wanted or needed
to feel important, at least to one
all that matters
to satisfy our own greed
to cement our self worth
in the grand scheme
prove our importance
to say we mattered
at least to one.
Can not be arsed with life no more.
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take a good look
this could be the day
hold my hand
lie beside me
i just need to say
Not really, but sometimes people enter relationships for all the wrong reasons and none of the right ones and greed is sometimes ones of those.:)
and sometimes people need to leave relationships and can't seem to. and that is greed. or pride. or something else. i'm not quite sure which yet. :(
take a good look
this could be the day
hold my hand
lie beside me
i just need to say
take a good look
this could be the day
hold my hand
lie beside me
i just need to say
that's what IT IS.
take a good look
this could be the day
hold my hand
lie beside me
i just need to say
i think that at our cores, we want to do what's best... we just have no idea what that is and it stalls all forward progress. so... the best thing becomes totally talking about what you're thinking all the freekin' time. it's a chore, but i think if you do the work at the front end, whether it winds up in the dissolution of a relationship or the strengthening of it... what you'll have later is what's best for both people ~ a most clear understand of what the heck's going on.
i mean, you hook up with someone because you really like them, or even love them coming out of the gate. then you get to know them and you find you don't like this and that... and you don't want to say anything because you think you're being petty... and then your feelings are hurt because by you not saying anything, they keep doing or being something that hurts your feelings, or something you don't like... and then all of a sudden, you don't like them or love them anymore... and they had no opportunity to clarify why they do what they do, or change what they do because they really want to be the right person for you... and then you break up and then you can't ever figure out what went wrong... "did I really break up with that person because they walked in front of me a couple of times?"
it's ridiculous, right?
I have no idea what makes some people able to do this easily. Maybe they learned from good parents or role models or something. But I'm reinventing the wheel... I've been working on it for more than 20 years and it looks like I might be on to a model that actually rolls.
yeeshe... look at me babble...
:rolls eyes:
I like the word petty here.
Alot of ppl do alot of nit-picking.
Things for them have to be perfect.
I think alot of ppl do not know who they are at all.
As well as they do not know who they want to be with.
Also, I think alot of ppl are in a relationship based on the bedroom alone.
Communication, holding back I have learned and am still learning, only
does absolutely zero for communications.
Also, I think alot of ppl are on the surface.
"Hear me, my chiefs!
I am tired; my heart is
sick and sad. From where
the sun stands I will fight
no more forever."
Chief Joseph - Nez Perce
Bedroom instinct could be that which drives us to "love"... but honestly, I think it goes deeper than that. I think that by loving, we find out who we are in relationship to the spirit that really is everything. False love does nothing but hurt.
I think the biggest thing people do wrong is to judge themselves and their partners negatively. If we just chilled out and believed that if a relationship ends because we're being real, then it needs to end... no hard feelings, just a bad mix. There's nothing wrong with my ex(es)... we just didn't have a clue how to meet on a level playing field. All promises made and broken? Big whoop. Stay level and real and you (I) should be better than fine. Perfect.
That this is what you must do to be succsesful, a way of measuring people's success in life, I dont know where I'm really going with all this.:)
I guess I'm saying some people do these things because it is excpected of them not because they want to, they are seeking aproval and praise from there piers and society, probably without even realising it.:)
well said.
by the way i like the poem up top
"Hear me, my chiefs!
I am tired; my heart is
sick and sad. From where
the sun stands I will fight
no more forever."
Chief Joseph - Nez Perce
I like the poem, too.
I hear what you're saying, too. I used to maybe think that, too. But now, in hindsight, I think that people themselves expect that path to make them happy, because it's what they were taught by society and family. I'm only speaking for myself, of course, but I didn't go into my first marriage because anyone expected it of me. I did it because I expected it to make me happy. I didn't know that there was so much more to it. I'm not bent about it anymore, now that it's well in the past. I love my life and my house and my kids... and my fiance (holla). I've learned a lot about what ends up good, and what doesn't.
You know you hear all those cliche's about loving yourself... To thine own self be true... all that stuff. I see younger people doing that more and more these days. The average marriage age is older, as is the average first child age, and that's testament to the fact that people are spending more time on themselves. A really good thing.
Congratulations PastaNazi!
PastaNazi, I think you're right about the constant communication being important. It not only waters the plant to keep it alive, but it also allows people to change and feel connected.
Justam... I'm wishing you all the luck in the world