Inspired by an a**h**e

browneyedgrl

Until You..

She was once.
She was happiness...
joy incarnate...hope fulfilled.
She was what she was...
the smallest yet brightest spark,
breathing in a room void of light.
She was strong and faithful...
She believed in herself.
All of this and more she was...

Until you.

i_love_pirhanas

...wow.

Rayne

Aw hunny....hope this was PAST emotions and not ones you are experiencing now. Very touching.

Talk Show Host

Originally posted by browneyedgrl
Until You..

She was once.
She was happiness...
joy incarnate...hope fulfilled.
She was what she was...
the smallest yet brightest spark,
breathing in a room void of light.
She was strong and faithful...
She believed in herself.
All of this and more she was...

Until you.

how about instead of feeling sorry for herself writing poems and complaining about this asshole, 'she' has some conviction and self-confidence and gets over this asshole.

i_love_pirhanas

Originally posted by Talk Show Host
how about instead of feeling sorry for herself writing poems and complaining about this asshole, 'she' has some conviction and self-confidence and gets over this asshole.

ooh, you're nice :rolleyes:

browneyedgrl

These are emotions from my recent past. I just ran into him yesterday though with his next victim...this just came to me after seeing him again.

i_love_pirhanas

Originally posted by browneyedgrl
These are emotions from my recent past. I just ran into him yesterday though with his next victim...this just came to me after seeing him again.

the poem is beautiful and speaks for itself, you don't need to defend it or justify it

browneyedgrl

Originally posted by Talk Show Host
how about instead of feeling sorry for herself writing poems and complaining about this asshole, 'she' has some conviction and self-confidence and gets over this asshole.

Good advice...

CranMalReign

Originally posted by Talk Show Host
how about instead of feeling sorry for herself writing poems and complaining about this asshole, 'she' has some conviction and self-confidence and gets over this asshole.

Easier said than done.

Some people can be destroyed. It's so hard, sometimes, to get over someone so obviously wicked. Some people wield incredible power over our self esteem and emotions.

The heart, when truly wounded, is slow to heal.

If it were so easy, what worth would there be to love?

Talk Show Host

Originally posted by CranMalReign
Easier said than done.

Some people can be destroyed. It's so hard, sometimes, to get over someone so obviously wicked. Some people wield incredible power over our self esteem and emotions.

The heart, when truly wounded, is slow to heal.

If it were so easy, what worth would there be to love?

good point, and i definitely agree. i wasn't trying to be an asshole or anything, but i've always found the best way to get over someone is to train yourself and rid yourself of all thoughts of that person and anything related to the person. i know the longer someone dwells on the person they want to get over, the harder it gets to finally be over them. so it was rather just encouragement!

Rayne

I'm pretty certain, if I may be so presumptious, that part of the reason she probably wrote the poem in the first place was to attempt to 'get over' the asshole. Poetry is a way of dealing with emotions, good and bad. You go girl, sound like you're in the right frame of mind.

CranMalReign

Originally posted by Rayne
I'm pretty certain, if I may be so presumptious, that part of the reason she probably wrote the poem in the first place was to attempt to 'get over' the asshole. Poetry is a way of dealing with emotions, good and bad. You go girl, sound like you're in the right frame of mind.

Yes indeedy. Accomplishes the double feat of making dude look like a total limpdick (thus making him less desirable and a smidge easier to get over) and setting personal goals for herself (lamenting over what she was... now she needs to work towards the goals she outlined in the poem).

Poetry as therapy. That's what 90% of my stuff is.

browneyedgrl

Originally posted by CranMalReign
Yes indeedy. Accomplishes the double feat of making dude look like a total limpdick (thus making him less desirable and a smidge easier to get over) and setting personal goals for herself (lamenting over what she was... now she needs to work towards the goals she outlined in the poem).

Poetry as therapy. That's what 90% of my stuff is.

Poetry is therapy:) It also does take a while to get over people, especially if one was with that person for 8 yrs. Thanks for your opinions and advice, guys:)

little_wish

That was really incredible. Sounds painful but it's good that you can get it into words to help you. Poetry is release, but only works when there is something real to release.

Talk Show Host

i still disagree though. if you're planning on getting over the asshole, then why write poetry about them? writing about them isn't going to take your mind off them. all poetry does is conjure up the bad feelings you already have for that person, and really doesn't help much in getting over them. i know, 8 years is longer than anything i've ever been involved with, but at the same time, i've been through the heartbreak thing, and i'm no superhero, but i found as soon as i completely blocked that person out, didn't write about them, and just didn't even let the thought of them slip my mind, i felt fine again and quickly got over them.

i mean, it's your life, not mine, but i'm just saying, i felt so much better when i completely blocked that person out of my mind. and when i wrote about them for 'release', it's obvious that it made me think of them, and didn't help at all.

i_love_pirhanas

Originally posted by Talk Show Host
i still disagree though. if you're planning on getting over the asshole, then why write poetry about them? writing about them isn't going to take your mind off them. all poetry does is conjure up the bad feelings you already have for that person, and really doesn't help much in getting over them. i know, 8 years is longer than anything i've ever been involved with, but at the same time, i've been through the heartbreak thing, and i'm no superhero, but i found as soon as i completely blocked that person out, didn't write about them, and just didn't even let the thought of them slip my mind, i felt fine again and quickly got over them.

i mean, it's your life, not mine, but i'm just saying, i felt so much better when i completely blocked that person out of my mind. and when i wrote about them for 'release', it's obvious that it made me think of them, and didn't help at all.

i dunno, sometimes i feel like writing something down helps get it out of the system, though not always (i tend to store all feelings etc up inside) but sometimes writing it down does help.

CranMalReign

Originally posted by Talk Show Host
i still disagree though. if you're planning on getting over the asshole, then why write poetry about them? writing about them isn't going to take your mind off them. all poetry does is conjure up the bad feelings you already have for that person, and really doesn't help much in getting over them. i know, 8 years is longer than anything i've ever been involved with, but at the same time, i've been through the heartbreak thing, and i'm no superhero, but i found as soon as i completely blocked that person out, didn't write about them, and just didn't even let the thought of them slip my mind, i felt fine again and quickly got over them.

i mean, it's your life, not mine, but i'm just saying, i felt so much better when i completely blocked that person out of my mind. and when i wrote about them for 'release', it's obvious that it made me think of them, and didn't help at all.

But sometimes writing is a catharsis. Sometimes it's regaining a personal identity. Especially when a couple have been together for so long, their identities start blending. And when the relationship is severed, identity needs to be recaptured. A sense of worth needs to be re-established. And coming to terms with the end of the relationship is paramount. Writing helps with all of these things.

Now, if you write about your ex for 10 years after the breakup, then there are issues. But for a few months or so... nah.

Everyone works differently. Slamming that door shut may work for you. I know it doesn't work for me, and never will. I can never justify slamming the door on such an influential portion of my life... especially one that probably had many positive things. It's not fair to her, and it's not fair to me. I find that I am able to deal with the fact that she was in my life, and I had these feelings, and I learned from them. I am able to keep photographs and memorabelia. Personally, I think that's a healthier way to deal with things. Accept adversity... don't run from it.

That's just me.

Felicity

"he may be brilliant but he was never your equal and he knew it. i hesitate to use terminology that sounds Victorian...but here it is. it has to do with strength of character. the hardest thing is to be yourself. pretending to be a million others is relatively easy."

i told my best friend, whose actor boyfriend left her, that she will heal, and i wrote the above to her. i love her so much, i don't want her to hurt anymore. but she loves him still.

it's probably easier to think about the positive things when you have advantage. now she has nothing.

i apologize, but i think your attitude is full of holes and full of shit. if you had felt intensely in the first place, you'd be hurting, believe me.

CranMalReign

Originally posted by Felicity
"he may be brilliant but he was never your equal and he knew it. i hesitate to use terminology that sounds Victorian...but here it is. it has to do with strength of character. the hardest thing is to be yourself. pretending to be a million others is relatively easy."

i told my best friend, whose actor boyfriend left her, that she will heal, and i wrote the above to her. i love her so much, i don't want her to hurt anymore. but she loves him still.

it's probably easier to think about the positive things when you have advantage. now she has nothing.

i apologize, but i think your attitude is full of holes and full of shit. if you had felt intensely in the first place, you'd be hurting, believe me.

Out of curiosity... who is the "you" you're speaking to? Just thought that should be cleared up.

browneyedgrl

To respond about - WHY WRITE? - there were many times in my life where, no matter what the situation, I was not able to speak to a particular person about something or clear something out, so my way of letting it out is writing about it.

Sometimes when you block something out or pretend it's not there, it's actually worse than better for you..

CranMalReign

Originally posted by browneyedgrl
To respond about - WHY WRITE? - there were many times in my life where, no matter what the situation, I was not able to speak to a particular person about something or clear something out, so my way of letting it out is writing about it.

Sometimes when you block something out or pretend it's not there, it's actually worse than better for you..

Amen, sister!