My best friend try to commit suicide (pj related)

Cropduster84

The other night i found my best friend trying to kill himself by strangulation with a phone wire in a public telephone box. He's been suffereing from depression for a while and the other night was basically rock bottom. I sat with him in A@E (accident and emergency) at the hospital all evening as he spoke to counsellors and thankfully things look like they're going to be on the mend soon. He's an amazing person with a good heart and a very good guitar player and I'm just so happy that counselling has been arranged and things are moving forward positively

By chance I listened to Riot Act today for the first time in 2 years and found the lyrics to 'Save You' so moving, found myself full of tears. I guess in a weird way I just want to say thank you to Pearl Jam, the band who have always been there for me now for nearly 10 years.

'You helped me when I was down...I'll help you when you're down
Why are you hitting yourself come on and hit me instead'

Thank you.

Gmoney

wow. that sucks. hopefully they realize how short and sweet life is on its own and that compared to someone else in the world, they are lucky in some way. you are a good friend. good luck, stay strong for them and pray!
g$

guertin32

pray for him dude... thats all you can do.

good luck man.

Joanne

I've always found Save You an incredibly moving song. It embodies the compassion, frustration, desparation, love, and struggle that comes from standing by someone's side through an immense life event. It speaks to the reality that there are so many souls affected by the actions of one - more victims than the actual victim.

Love to you and your friend and may you take care of yourself through this too.

JamilyMan

I am sorry to hear about your friend, and hope things turn around in his life.

I also want to caution you that it sounds like your friend's attempt was not a very high probability attempt, meaning there is a chance that he was reaching out for help more than trying to end his life. As people with severe depression begin to lift out of their depression, there is a higher likelihood that they will make a serious attempt to end their life, especially when anti-depressants are in the mix. This is largely because in the throws of severe, acute depression, many people don't have the energy or motivation to make a real attempt, but as the depression starts to lift they have more energy and drive, and that is when a lot of suicides occus.

I say this to caution you to be there and be cognizant of his behaviors. If you would like to PM me, I can share with you some things to watch for... but I don't want to hijack this thread and go into group therapy on this board.

I hope this is helpful.

PEACE!!!

einatshaul

He is lucky to have you as a friend. Hang in there, and he'll relize it in time. Hopefully your support and the music will seep through and clear things up.

dcfaithful

that's a really good story. he's lucky to have a friend like you.

my sister took her life in June and I still am haunted by it everday..some people just get so down and caught up in there sadness they lose themselves from reality.

i'm sure i'm telling you something you already know, but just be there for a friend

Heineken Helen

Cropduster84 wrote:

The other night i found my best friend trying to kill himself by strangulation with a phone wire in a public telephone box. He's been suffereing from depression for a while and the other night was basically rock bottom. I sat with him in A@E (accident and emergency) at the hospital all evening as he spoke to counsellors and thankfully things look like they're going to be on the mend soon. He's an amazing person with a good heart and a very good guitar player and I'm just so happy that counselling has been arranged and things are moving forward positively

By chance I listened to Riot Act today for the first time in 2 years and found the lyrics to 'Save You' so moving, found myself full of tears. I guess in a weird way I just want to say thank you to Pearl Jam, the band who have always been there for me now for nearly 10 years.

'You helped me when I was down...I'll help you when you're down
Why are you hitting yourself come on and hit me instead'

Thank you.

It really is such an amazing powerful song... why don't you play it to him?

Obsidian22

Stay in your positive space. Keep yourself safe!

To dcfaithfull: I too lost a sibling. My brother hanged himself in July 2006.I am still haunted. It gets easier, but it will take time. If you ever wanna pm me, please do. It helps to share with others, who have felt such tragic loss.

As stated earlier, "they" leave more victims in their path.
Life Wasted is also a song I played alot. Music is therapy.
"The world awaits ,just up the stairs
Leave the pain for someone else.
Nothing back there for you to find,..
Or was it you, you left behind?"

Peace

small town beck

It is always amazing how much this band's music can touch people and in such different ways. Beautiful.

I hope your friend can get some help and gets sorted out. Depression is so terrilble and so many people don't take it seriously because you cant' "see it".. but I think you can if you are looking. Your friend is very lucky to have you. Take care.

Anon

he is very lucky to have a friend like you to stand by his side - wish you both the best

pjalive21

best wishes to you my pj friend

if he hasnt experienced PJ, introduce it to him and maybe, just maybe, he can find some positive from it and use it in his own life to help heal

hang in there....

life is too precious

josevolution

your a good friend to be there for this person god knows he will need you again to be there ,i agree with you about SAVE YOU how can people not like this song is beyond me ....

luvnmuzic

Save You is such an amazing song. But it really hit me after I read your post and related it to your friend's situation. I hear that song in a whole new way now. It is so much more inspirational to me now. It would be an amazing thing to think that somehow Pearl Jam's music could bring some light and love into your friend's life and give him hope for the future. Much love to you and your friend.

cropdustress

Pearl Jam music is very healing and liberating.
Save You is a great example for you and your friends situations, but
there are more songs you can relate to, Im sure. But this one is prefect.

I personally find their music very liberating and just listen to it when I'm down to take all my feelings out, crying and just getting it all out, figuring things out.
I feel a lot better after. Hope you both will work this out, with and/or without music helping, but it sure isnt a distraction.
Hang in there and play Save You for them when the right time comes

smarchee

Save You is one of my top 10 fav PJ songs. It's so powerful.

I'm glad it moved you, I'm sad that it hit you this way.

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Joanne wrote:

..It speaks to the reality that there are so many souls affected by the actions of one - more victims than the actual victim..

I want to say that this is absolutely dead on.

Cropduster84, good luck.

go pre

sorry to sound like a dick and make light of your friend's situation, because it is a serious problem, but when i read the title to this thread, my first thought was, "he only TRIED to commit suicide, it was just a call for help."

i just had to laugh when i read that he "called for help" in a telephone booth.

Obsidian22

go pre: You sound more APATHETIC & IGNORANT!!

i like matt.c

Sorry for your friend Cropduster84. I hope everything turns out well for the both of you.

pjfan31

geez, sad story, hope all is well, and all becomes well. Just talk to him, and look at thye positives of life,. All the best, Save you is a wicked track

Kilgore_Trout

i can remember the night my sister tried to kill herself... i sat in my car in my garage and just blasted ten... that CDs never sounded better

im sorry to hear about your friend and im glad PJ has been able to help you the same way theyve helped so many of us over the years

go pre

Obsidian22 wrote:

go pre: You sound more APATHETIC & IGNORANT!!

yes, maybe so, but you can't deny my point. this guy has problems, but he really did not want to kill himself. if he was serious about it, he would have found a better way than using a phone wire in a phone booth. it's a good thing he has caring people around to answer his call for help before he does something more drastic.

Cropduster84

go pre wrote:

yes, maybe so, but you can't deny my point. this guy has problems, but he really did not want to kill himself. if he was serious about it, he would have found a better way than using a phone wire in a phone booth. it's a good thing he has caring people around to answer his call for help before he does something more drastic.

I appraciate your opinion, but you're wrong, sorry.

But thanks to everyones support, we are sorting out the right counselling for him.

loveatree

Cropduster84 wrote:

The other night i found my best friend trying to kill himself by strangulation with a phone wire in a public telephone box. He's been suffereing from depression for a while and the other night was basically rock bottom. I sat with him in A@E (accident and emergency) at the hospital all evening as he spoke to counsellors and thankfully things look like they're going to be on the mend soon. He's an amazing person with a good heart and a very good guitar player and I'm just so happy that counselling has been arranged and things are moving forward positively

By chance I listened to Riot Act today for the first time in 2 years and found the lyrics to 'Save You' so moving, found myself full of tears. I guess in a weird way I just want to say thank you to Pearl Jam, the band who have always been there for me now for nearly 10 years.

'You helped me when I was down...I'll help you when you're down
Why are you hitting yourself come on and hit me instead'

Thank you.

spooky... 'save you' was playing on my computer as i read the post...

Thoughts_Arrive

I agree about the healing and liberating post earlier.
Their music has often given me a reason to live, to feel alive.

Hope your friend gets well, stay strong.

redeye

i hope he gets better, and glad you drew strength from pj, all the best cropduster..

hitman

I am very happy you were able to stop your friend.. he is really lucky that you were there.... as terrible as depression is, it can be overcome. Thank you for being there for your friend!!

Sadly, I/we were not so lucky with a friend here in the midwest... it's been a year, but we our lost friend to suicide... I wrote a song to help me cope, and her other friends as well... it's in the Poetry Prose and Art section tool...



untitled

there's something out there in the growing distance
you can feel it but you cannot see the light
and moreover there's a dismal subtext
everyone declaring that they thought you might

somewhere out there in the ever after
is a feeling you were chasing all your life
all the pieces that were never fitting
and the judgements handed down that just weren't right

where have you gone
where have you gone?
i'm holding on
holding on
i'm coming back for you

we'll always question if we could've saved you
and all the signs that we just didn't want to see
when all your critics once again forsake you
just forget them... honey, you are finally free

somewhere out there in the growing distance
there's a reason and a purpose all your own
i know you're out there somewhere ever waiting
i know you're out there trying to find your way back home

where have you gone
where have you gone?
i'm holding on
holding on
i'm coming back for you

Thoughts_Arrive

Very cool, wish I could write something that good.