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12345against112345against1 Posts: 24
edited April 2008 in The Porch
A friend of mine from high school is getting married on the date of the first Boston show. We used to be pretty close but now I only see her a couple times a year. Going to 7 shows already this tour. Should I blow off her wedding and make it 8? Or would I be being a selfish prick?
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  • freealcibiadesfreealcibiades Posts: 365
    Not sure if you would be a prick or not, but at the very least you're terrible with grammar. "Delema"...dude....?
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  • juannisjuannis Posts: 73
    most new yorkers are selfish pricks i have noticed. rise above and go to the wedding.
    No time to be void and save up on life, you gotta spend it all.

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  • yosi1yosi1 Posts: 3,272
    Um, if it was the only PJ show, I'd say it would be tough. But, you're seeing them seven other times. This should not even be a question.
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  • DaytimeDilemmaDaytimeDilemma Posts: 2,008
    WTF IS A Delema?
  • wickedmonkeyzwickedmonkeyz Posts: 489
    wedding for sure
    looking for 2 to Columbia...

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  • 12345against112345against1 Posts: 24
    Ok thanks for the insight and setting me straight people, and I get it, I spelt dilemma wrong. Unfortuantley I do not believe you can edit thread titles, so the jokes on me. See you at night two.
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  • bharQbharQ Posts: 1,201
    umm 7 shows?!?!? go to the wedding dude
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  • markymark550markymark550 Columbia, SC Posts: 5,157
    fuck weddings, they are overrated
  • JaneNYJaneNY Posts: 4,438
    You only see her a couple times a year? I mean, do you guys send birthday and Christmas presents and talk on the phone? If not, that doesn't sound too close. The thing to take into consideration when you make your choice is how much will she honestly miss you? If not that much, pick the show. (I'm terrible! and a New Yorker ;) )
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  • vedder360vedder360 Posts: 97
    I would only choose the wedding if it was me getting married or I was best man, otherwise screw the wedding!!!
  • chinobaezachinobaeza Santiago Posts: 2,489
    wedding....if you are single friends always come first, if you are married let your wife decides for you :D
  • HermanBloomHermanBloom Posts: 1,764
    Weddings suck
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  • red mosred mos Posts: 4,953
    If you are already going to 7 shows outside of your friend's wedding, then I would go to the wedding. For the 8th show you would have seen well, someone will have you covered on audio boot I think. That's awesome that you can go to 7-8 shows on a tour. I live in pearl jam's most hated state (It seems) and unfortunately I'm going to 0 shows
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  • DeLukinDeLukin Posts: 2,757
    Go to the show. Trust me you won't regret it (unlike the wedding).
    I smile, but who am I kidding...
  • SPALMASPALMA Posts: 2,279
    I think you are talking about a problem dealing with values or even ethics... not quite a moral decision.

    enjoy your 7 shows.
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  • MelissaphishMelissaphish Posts: 150
    12345against1 wrote:
    A friend of mine from high school is getting married on the date of the first Boston show. We used to be pretty close but now I only see her a couple times a year. Going to 7 shows already this tour. Should I blow off her wedding and make it 8? Or would I be being a selfish prick?

    My friend is getting married that day and I am going - perhaps the same wedding LOL?
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  • AmentsChickAmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    You can always make new friends. ;):p
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  • Kel VarnsenKel Varnsen Posts: 1,952
    Is it an open bar? Seriously though if your friend invited you she wants you there. I would go to the wedding.
  • meisteredermeistereder Posts: 1,577
    I am leaning toward the show on this one.

    If this is just a casual acquaintance who you used to be good frineds with but not anymore, you'll end up sitting at a table full of people who annoy you, thinking about what you are missing at the show.
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  • AnonAnon Posts: 11,175
    I'm going to the Hartford show and Mansfield II... I also have a wedding to attend that Saturday night.
    I'm hoping for a third Mansfield show!

    You guys will be rockin' that Sat night...
    I'll be doing the chicken dance!

    :(

    But, we'll see ya on Monday night!!!
  • firecrotch23firecrotch23 Posts: 586
    12345against1 wrote:
    A friend of mine from high school is getting married on the date of the first Boston show. We used to be pretty close but now I only see her a couple times a year. Going to 7 shows already this tour. Should I blow off her wedding and make it 8? Or would I be being a selfish prick?
    A friend of mine has the same problem for the camden shows, dinner on thursday and wedding on friday. i told him to go to both shows, its not his wedding or even a relative, but these are the only shows he is going to
    Small my table, seats just 3, its not crowded, its just lucky me
  • blondieblue227blondieblue227 Va, USA Posts: 4,509
    don't blow her off!
    *~Pearl Jam will be blasted from speakers until morale improves~*

  • Stephen FlowStephen Flow Posts: 3,327
    I would be lying if I said I was with the majority here...

    How close you are to them determines if you'd go or not.
  • SuzieMSuzieM Posts: 113
    12345against1 wrote:
    A friend of mine from high school is getting married on the date of the first Boston show. We used to be pretty close but now I only see her a couple times a year. Going to 7 shows already this tour. Should I blow off her wedding and make it 8? Or would I be being a selfish prick?

    Concert, unless this is someone that adds a tremendous amount to your life. Just say you already had a prior engagement, send a gift and your regrets. Weddings are overrated unless you're in the bridal/groom party which means it still sucks but that at least you are there for someone you care about.
  • PilatesBettermanPilatesBetterman Posts: 306
    vedder360 wrote:
    I would only choose the wedding if it was me getting married or I was best man, otherwise screw the wedding!!!

    I'm going to a 3pm wedding tomorrow then the Ed show at 7:30 and I'm the one getting married, lol
    "So forget the other boys because my love is real.
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  • FifthelementFifthelement Lotusland Posts: 6,961
    PilatesBetterman wrote:
    I'm going to a 3pm wedding tomorrow then the Ed show at 7:30 and I'm the one getting married, lol

    Congratulations on your wedding and a most awesome start to the honeymoon. I do hope that you are taking the person you are marrying.

    Cheers!
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  • PilatesBettermanPilatesBetterman Posts: 306
    Fifthelement wrote:
    Congratulations on your wedding and a most awesome start to the honeymoon. I do hope that you are taking the person you are marrying.

    Cheers!
    Indeed we are going together:) HER idea, that's how I knew she's the one
    "So forget the other boys because my love is real.
    Come off your battlefield."
  • goldenegggoldenegg Posts: 371
    Definitely the wedding. It wouldn't even matter if that date was the only PJ show you could attend. Friends and family are MUCH more important than seeing a band perform live.
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