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forgive vs. forget

tellmesomethingtruetellmesomethingtrue Posts: 35
edited March 2007 in Words and Music...Communication
thinking about the line on Rearviewmirror "tried to endure what i could not forgive"
how bad does it have to be to not forgive?
and are we really forgiving ? or forgetting?
who am i to "forgive" someone. shouldn't that be left up to a greater power than myself?
what if you get hurt, in some way, and someone else is to blame. or maybe you are to blame. if we are all supposed to love each other, well, than forgiveness doesn't even enter the mind.
now, enduring what you can't forget....that's a hard road.
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  • Ms. HaikuMs. Haiku Posts: 7,265
    Iit's hard to forgive what I know was a choice. Some people think that we don't necessarily need to forgive our perpetrators, but rather to forgive ourselves if we felt we caused something that was someone else's choice. I think forgiving the perpetrator, and forgiving myself is not necessarily for me, the second particularly since I don't really understand the concept. The best thing I realized was that it was a choice, and it was in the past, and when I am able to lead my life without attaching energy to that scene then I have truly recovered. I think it's hard to forgive a parent for choosing to beat the shit out of a kid as is referenced in Rearview Mirror. It doesn't make sense to me.
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  • justamjustam Posts: 21,410
    I don't know what to think about it really.

    There are some people I've forgiven and felt relieved because of it, and there are other people I've totally turned my back on and won't even consider forgiving. I don't think anyone could convince me to either. :p

    I don't what the difference is either. Maybe it's immature not to forgive, or maybe it's just a natural need to defend one's self. I don't know.
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  • wolfbearwolfbear Posts: 3,965
    This is one of my favorites. I think he is just saying that you forgive as much as you can. You can't ever forget, but learn to live with it and move on.
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  • jamjamjamjam Posts: 491
    I choose to forgive
    even in circumstances where I probably shouldn't

    forgetting is a different story
    i find you learn from situations
    soo maybe it's better to remember some things.
  • NothinGBetteRPJMaNNothinGBetteRPJMaN Posts: 530
    There are many things that youll never be able to forget but I think it's best to forgive.

    You shouldn't beat yourself up over something in the past and maybe you had no control over it, no matter how bad. If you try to forgive and forget the negative feelings you will be much happier. One of the best things you can do for yourself is to forgive someone not for their sake! but for your own. You dont deserve what certain people do to you but the thing that you really really dont deserve is to let it continue to affect you and bring you down and fill with hate...Dont beat yourself up

    Im not sure what anything i said has to with anything in the thread

    Sorry!
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  • jamjamjamjam Posts: 491
    NothinGBetteRPJMaN wrote:
    There are many things that youll never be able to forget but I think it's best to forgive.

    You shouldn't beat yourself up over something in the past and maybe you had no control over it, no matter how bad. If you try to forgive and forget the negative feelings you will be much happier. One of the best things you can do for yourself is to forgive someone not for their sake! but for your own. You dont deserve what certain people do to you but the thing that you really really dont deserve is to let it continue to affect you and bring you down and fill with hate...Dont beat yourself up

    Im not sure what anything i said has to with anything in the thread

    Sorry!

    no, you're so right.
    it's not only others that you should forgive
    but you should also forgive yourself, it frees you
    "don't beat yourself up" so true--- we've all made mistakes.
    be kind to yourself, don't be so hard on yourself.
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