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loz4965

not particulary expecting any replies, but having listened to betterman for the umpteenth time in my life i just realied how much it reminds me of my mum and dads relationship.

i know she always had it hard with him ever since we were young because of all sorts of shit, but now me and my sister have flown the nest she is kinda in a position to put up some sort of a fight.

i've been seeing a girl of a different skin colour to me for the last 12 months and my dad doesnt approve at all. everyone else in the family understands my position and is on my side. My mum says that she is and i believe her. She's made threats to leave him if he doesn't change his mind, but he knows that won't happen.

and thats the way i see this song. she's become conditioned to believe what he says, and is too frightened to stand up for herself " she practices her speech" as though the time has come to stand up "as he opens the door she rollls over, pretends to sleep as he looks her over." but then she decides it's easier just to put up with someone that you've lived with for 25 years and agreee with them than it is to try and make a new start and perhaps be lonely for a while or end up losing your marital home etc

i don't begrudge her for what she does i kinda understand, i just wish she'd stop defending him all the time when really he is a complete ****

*tried to edit the title in hindsight but it won't let me*

Lizard

Isn't it amazing how PJ songs can just hit you and apply so well to something in your life at any moment? At this stage it probably is easier for your mom to stay--could she support herself on her own. Who knows. I hope your dad comes around and sees past skin color.

darthvedder88

A good friend of mine was dating a guy for about two years and she could never stand up to him at all. She's always tell me that she'd stick up for herself and that she'd move on, but she never did. When they did break up, she got back together with him after a week and then the same thing happened a few months later. She thought she'd never be with anyone else, that she'd never find a "betterman."