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i have an issue...

deadnothingbetterdeadnothingbetter Posts: 2,202
edited April 2005 in Words and Music...Communication
which is killing me to the very core of my soul.

i wasn't sure if i should've posted this on the moving train or if this was just okay.... but i have always loved Pearl Jam. long before i really got into rock, i always enjoyed Pearl Jam's music. They've always been one of my most favorite bands. I always tune in to one of their songs everyday and I always find so much meaning in their songs. Eddie's voice always echoes in my ears and I've even turned out to be a pretty good Ed Vedder impersonator.

I met a girl. We fell in love. But she already had a boyfriend. It turned out he was also a big fan of Pearl Jam. This girl and I dreamed of doing things together, and she planned to leave her boyfriend. I don't know if i got my hopes to high, or i infatuated myself with her so much, but all i know is i was truly looking forward with moving on with her. But as it always turns out, she stayed with him.

I remember how she spoke about her boyfriend, that he was such a big fan of Pearl Jam, and how he and I had common interests in music. Now after all is done, I've tried to move on. I've tried to forget about her as she forgot me. But evertyime I listen to Pearl Jam I want to enjoy their music and contemplate in the good things and beautiful memories taht I have in their music. Instead when I listen to their music I have her in my mind and all the pain that I went through. Sometimes I wish there was a machine that could erase these memories. I want to listen to the songs I love while sippin' on an espresso, without worries and broken heartaches. but I can't find the descency in finding something as simple and as lovely as this. can someone help me out?
This isn't the land of opportunity, it's the land of competition.
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  • Anna_falkAnna_falk Posts: 114
    Maybe you could see the film, the sunshine of the spotless mind, it reminds me of your problem.

    You will get over her and in time you'll stop thinking about her when listening to PJ, that's what I think.

    *Cheers*
    To worry about tomorrow doesn't make it easier,
    it only makes today worse.
  • DitkaDitka Posts: 7
    We have all been there; the music is what survives and allows us to interpret it in our way; I like how PJ does that
  • Superunknown_jamSuperunknown_jam Posts: 83
    We can't erase memories from our head...but I'm sure that with some more time, that will be forgotten, cause nothing lasts forever (except for the Pearl Jam songs ehehe). Pearl Jam are something superior, something that you already had, even before that girl came into your life...but now that she had left, Pearl Jam is still with you/ us :)
    Keep on listening and feeling Pearl Jam songs... and find a girl who likes Pearl Jam as musch as you :) ************

    Sorry for my bad english!
    Speaking as a child of the 90's
  • whoYOUarewhoYOUare Posts: 274
    that happened to me as well, it made it very very hard to listen to Black for quite some time... i know it doesnt help now, but it will pass, you will get new memories of the songs and they will become "new" to you once again. i know it is hard and there is a lot of depth to the situation, more than i can comment on, but no worries life will go on and you will find the light again.
    peace
  • deadnothingbetterdeadnothingbetter Posts: 2,202
    Portuguese_Girl wrote:
    We can't erase memories from our head...but I'm sure that with some more time, that will be forgotten, cause nothing lasts forever (except for the Pearl Jam songs ehehe). Pearl Jam are something superior, something that you already had, even before that girl came into your life...but now that she had left, Pearl Jam is still with you/ us :)
    Keep on listening and feeling Pearl Jam songs... and find a girl who likes Pearl Jam as musch as you :) ************

    Sorry for my bad english!
    hey, not a problem... i guess you're portuguese (girl?)... do portuguese get along with mexicans??? my cousin just flew down from Brazil (is that where you're from?) and I'm sure he's seen a bunch of hotties over there. hmmm... {{i'm trying to picture you}} i'm guessing you must like Pearl Jam as much as I do {{hint}} oops... am i hitting on someone?? j/k
    This isn't the land of opportunity, it's the land of competition.
  • Superunknown_jamSuperunknown_jam Posts: 83
    deadnothingbetter wrote:
    hey, not a problem... i guess you're portuguese (girl?)... do portuguese get along with mexicans??? my cousin just flew down from Brazil (is that where you're from?) and I'm sure he's seen a bunch of hotties over there. hmmm... {{i'm trying to picture you}} i'm guessing you must like Pearl Jam as much as I do {{hint}} oops... am i hitting on someone?? j/k



    Lolololol I'm portuguese, not brasilian! It's the same language, but Portugal is in EUROPE :-p
    And yes, I guess I like Pearl Jam as much as you do***
    **************************************
    Speaking as a child of the 90's
  • deadnothingbetterdeadnothingbetter Posts: 2,202
    Portuguese_Girl wrote:
    Lolololol I'm portuguese, not brasilian! It's the same language, but Portugal is in EUROPE :-p
    And yes, I guess I like Pearl Jam as much as you do***
    **************************************
    Portugal is in Europe??? I thought it was in Asia... j/k Yes, I took World Geography when I was in High School.

    well, send me your email and a picture... i don't like to converse with girls if I'm not sure what they look like... ;)
    This isn't the land of opportunity, it's the land of competition.
  • Thin Air 211Thin Air 211 Posts: 114
    another thing you could do is make new memories with pearl jam songs, yeah know? and if you seem not to be able to do that, you just have to move on. find someone that love pearl jam just like you! :)
    `~.:.~`.History doesn't make something right`~.:.~`
  • Superunknown_jamSuperunknown_jam Posts: 83
    deadnothingbetter wrote:
    Portugal is in Europe??? I thought it was in Asia... j/k Yes, I took World Geography when I was in High School.

    well, send me your email and a picture... i don't like to converse with girls if I'm not sure what they look like... ;)


    LOL and why is that? The fact that you know how I look like or not, doesn't change anything about the way I am or what I write or what musics I'm into...
    Anyway, I'm not a brasilian with 1,80 and a model like you were perhaps imagining at the beggining

    and again, sorry for my terrible english ******
    Speaking as a child of the 90's
  • deadnothingbetterdeadnothingbetter Posts: 2,202
    Portuguese_Girl wrote:
    LOL and why is that? The fact that you know how I look like or not, doesn't change anything about the way I am or what I write or what musics I'm into...
    Anyway, I'm not a brasilian with 1,80 and a model like you were perhaps imagining at the beggining

    and again, sorry for my terrible english ******
    i just want to make sure you're not some big gorilla that eats people... {{yucky}} lol or find out that you look like my bearded uncle with a beer belly and tattoos all around... hehe

    not a brasilian with 1,80??? not sure what it means, but i'm sure i'll find out if you send me your email and a pic. ;)
    This isn't the land of opportunity, it's the land of competition.
  • STXLAXSTXLAX Posts: 46
    hey man i know this sounds extremely cliche and whatnot but the same thing happened to me...well kind of. Try and take those memories of her you still have while listening to PJ and learn to appreciate them. As painful as the memories might be to you now, and as much you want to forget about her, just remember her. Forget all the other crap. Music is such a powerful tool. Pearl Jam's music especially. It can capture all these times and experiences during your life that you can travel back to whenever you listen. Listen to pearl jam for the good memories. Gook Luck.
    "And if you gaze for long into an abyss, the abyss gazes also into you."
    -Nietzsche

    EMPATHY
  • Calvin77Calvin77 Posts: 4
    I prefer the Pavlovian Response technique. I'm sure you're familiar with it. Start playing PJ only when you're doing thing that, not only make you happy, but require a lot of attention, and before you know it your brain will wire the songs to better memories first. An added bonus to this is that you'll get a well rounded philosophical feel that PJ is supposed to conjure up.
    Just a thought.
    For so love shall crown you
    Even So shall he crucify you
    --Khalil Gibran
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