Happy International Women's Day!!

darwinstheory

F Me In The Brain said:

darwinstheory said:

F Me In The Brain said:

Here's to hoping nobody does these items today, beyond that one special man who you obviously agree on communication standards with:

Calls you honey
pats you on the ass
steers you by grabbing your elbow as you are walking
Asks you to smile
comments on your clothes
comments on your hair
comments on the amount of food you do/do not eat

Wait, comments on hair and clothes are frowned upon?

Would this be the same as, or different than complimenting a woman who wears her hair down when it's up 49 out of 50 days? Or pointing out their new hairstyle? I'm totally guilty of noticing a new hair color/hairdo.

Either way, we (most of us) appreciate (most of) you. 

Basically, you want to avoid 'Your face looks thinner when you wear your hair down like that', 'those pants look nice', or something like that.

Sorry, I started typing about 5 other reactions and just deleted.  They were progressively worse and I am sure not too many people would have laughed beyond myself.

It's all definitely a slippery slope these days...but I maintain that funny is in fact funny. But yes, you never talk to women about weight. 

I agree, I like if someone notices someone notices something about me. Buy it would be completely different if I liked a revealing blouse a woman was wearing and let her know by saying: "that low cut top looks GREAT from here".

tweedyfanjen

hedonist said:

When the whole Anita Hill thing went down last...century?!...the men in our office were told they couldn't even say "you look nice today" or "I like your outfit".  One old-school guy was continually reprimanded for it, and I always felt bad for him since it came from a good place.

The men in my office never comment (out loud anyway) on what we wear. But for some reason it's ok for women to comment on each other.  I guess it's less threatening? But still, rude. 

tweedyfanjen

darwinstheory said:

F Me In The Brain said:

Here's to hoping nobody does these items today, beyond that one special man who you obviously agree on communication standards with:

Calls you honey
pats you on the ass
steers you by grabbing your elbow as you are walking
Asks you to smile
comments on your clothes
comments on your hair
comments on the amount of food you do/do not eat

Wait, comments on hair and clothes are frowned upon?

Would this be the same as, or different than complimenting a woman who wears her hair down when it's up 49 out of 50 days? Or pointing out their new hairstyle? I'm totally guilty of noticing a new hair color/hairdo.

Either way, we (most of us) appreciate (most of) you. 

I personally don't mind if someone notices/compliments my hair. However, something like "wow, your hair looks so much better than it did last week" is not appreciated.

KC138045

tweedyfanjen said:

hedonist said:

When the whole Anita Hill thing went down last...century?!...the men in our office were told they couldn't even say "you look nice today" or "I like your outfit".  One old-school guy was continually reprimanded for it, and I always felt bad for him since it came from a good place.

The men in my office never comment (out loud anyway) on what we wear. But for some reason it's ok for women to comment on each other.  I guess it's less threatening? But still, rude. 

i hear women make comments behind other women's backs all the time at work.  I think that's just as bad as a man making a harassing or sexual comment to a woman.

dankind

Someone on here is always disparaging my hair.

curmudgeoness

F Me In The Brain said:

Here's to hoping nobody does these items today, beyond that one special man who you obviously agree on communication standards with:

Calls you honey
pats you on the ass
steers you by grabbing your elbow as you are walking
Asks you to smile
comments on your clothes
comments on your hair
comments on the amount of food you do/do not eat

OMG, what is with the commenting on how much I eat?!?! Seriously, I'm pushing 50 and was floored when I discovered the other day that men still do that! ["Are you sure you want to order that? It's a really big portion!" Yes I'm sure I want to order it, I'm starving and, if you were to look at me, you'd see that I'm shredded. Now, bring me my food, dammit!]

I'm no fan of the elbow-steering, but it's not as bad as the guy who decided to steer me by placing his hands on my (very) lower back. He nearly lost those hands....

If you wouldn't do it to another man, don't do it to a woman. Or, this:

https://medium.com/@annevictoriaclark/the-rock-test-a-hack-for-men-who-dont-want-to-be-accused-of-sexual-harassment-73c45e0b49af

F Me In The Brain

curmudgeoness said:

F Me In The Brain said:

Here's to hoping nobody does these items today, beyond that one special man who you obviously agree on communication standards with:

Calls you honey
pats you on the ass
steers you by grabbing your elbow as you are walking
Asks you to smile
comments on your clothes
comments on your hair
comments on the amount of food you do/do not eat

OMG, what is with the commenting on how much I eat?!?! Seriously, I'm pushing 50 and was floored when I discovered the other day that men still do that! ["Are you sure you want to order that? It's a really big portion!" Yes I'm sure I want to order it, I'm starving and, if you were to look at me, you'd see that I'm shredded. Now, bring me my food, dammit!]

I'm no fan of the elbow-steering, but it's not as bad as the guy who decided to steer me by placing his hands on my (very) lower back. He nearly lost those hands....

If you wouldn't do it to another man, don't do it to a woman. Or, this:

https://medium.com/@annevictoriaclark/the-rock-test-a-hack-for-men-who-dont-want-to-be-accused-of-sexual-harassment-73c45e0b49af

Sorry -- but I am not picturing women as the Rock.  I can just take a coffee, a lunch, a meeting, and a drink to mean that it is people who are antiquated with one another hanging out.  I laughed at the pictures, though, that was pretty funny.  I think the author's larger point should just be spelled out instead of hinted at -- don't be a creep! 

Hand to the small of the back.  Good one.
I also see pictures sometimes that make me wonder....the dude will have his hands wrapped around the side of the woman.  Is that welcomed?