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ShynerShyner Posts: 1,226
edited February 2018 in All Encompassing Trip
For no reason. 
I was 17. It still makes me feel like i was raped. 
I'll never forget. 
I'll never compromise. 
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  • brianluxbrianlux Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 42,802
    Only by my best friend in 9th grade and maybe my brother ( we hit each other all over) a couple of times.  I love them both.  Love hurts.
    Shyner said:
    For no reason. 
    I was 17. It still makes me feel like i was raped. 
    I'll never forget. 
    I'll never compromise. 
    Bummer!  I'm sorry to hear that, Shyner.
    "Don't give in to the lies.  Don't give in to the fear. Hold on to the truth.  And to hope."
    -Jim Acosta











  • hedonisthedonist Posts: 24,524
    I've been violated in other ways, but never hit in the face.

    (Trust me, I'd rather that than be raped; I know your feelings / reactions are yours, but not sure if the two are close to comparable.)
  • mcgruff10mcgruff10 New Jersey Posts: 28,757
    been in three fights in my life and all have resulted with punches/kicks to the face.  i have also been hit by an estimated 88 mph fastball to the face and many deflected shots in hockey have ended up hitting me in the face.  all good.
    I'll ride the wave where it takes me......
  • jnimhaoileoinjnimhaoileoin Baile Átha Cliath Posts: 2,682
    Only by a football or a shuttlecock (which is bloody painful, believe me!)
  • mcgruff10mcgruff10 New Jersey Posts: 28,757
    edited February 2018
    jnimhaoileoin said:
    Only by a football or a shuttlecock (which is bloody painful, believe me!)
    for the love of god call it a birdie! lol  do you really want people to know that a cock hit you in the face while being bloody painful?!
    Post edited by mcgruff10 on
    I'll ride the wave where it takes me......
  • oftenreadingoftenreading Victoria, BC Posts: 12,848
    jnimhaoileoin said:
    Only by a football or a shuttlecock (which is bloody painful, believe me!)
    When I was in elementary school a kid threw an iceball at my face and it hit me right between the eyes. It was incredibly painful and I couldn’t see anything but jagged flashes of light for a few minutes. I thought I had gone blind, which freaked me out even more than the pain. 

    No actual punches to the face, though. 
    my small self... like a book amongst the many on a shelf
  • ShynerShyner Posts: 1,226
    edited February 2018
    Regret sharing
    Post edited by Shyner on
  • WhatYouTaughtMeWhatYouTaughtMe Posts: 4,957
    Shyner said:
    I've been raped and getting hit in the face is comparable. 
    That might be the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard.
  • jnimhaoileoinjnimhaoileoin Baile Átha Cliath Posts: 2,682
    edited February 2018
    Shyner said:
    I've been raped and getting hit in the face is comparable. 
    I know you are speaking of your own personal experience and I'm very sorry that you went through that. So I'm loathe to question it but I don't see how the two could be comparable. Maybe to you personally they were and only you can speak to that. Generally though, there is a big difference between being a victim of rape and being hit in the face
  • PJ_SoulPJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,149
    I have been sexually assaulted and I know I would much prefer being hit in the face!
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • Thoughts_ArriveThoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Yes. My mum hit me with the telescope of a vacuum cleaner and also a cricket bat. As well as slaps over the years.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • jnimhaoileoinjnimhaoileoin Baile Átha Cliath Posts: 2,682
    mcgruff10 said:
    jnimhaoileoin said:
    Only by a football or a shuttlecock (which is bloody painful, believe me!)
    for the love of god call it a birdie! lol  do you really want people to know that a cock hit you in the face while being bloody painful?!
    Given that Americans can't play badminton to save their lives, we're not going to adopt your name. Sorry :tongue:
  • Thoughts_ArriveThoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    edited February 2018
    ...
    Post edited by Thoughts_Arrive on
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • ShynerShyner Posts: 1,226
    edited February 2018
    Regret sharing
    Post edited by Shyner on
  • brianluxbrianlux Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 42,802
    I'm not sure I (or anyone else)  have/has the right to criticize any other's own personal experience of being raped vs hit in the face.  It happened to them, not us. 
    "Don't give in to the lies.  Don't give in to the fear. Hold on to the truth.  And to hope."
    -Jim Acosta











  • jnimhaoileoinjnimhaoileoin Baile Átha Cliath Posts: 2,682
    brianlux said:
    I'm not sure I (or anyone else)  have/has the right to criticize any other's own personal experience of being raped vs hit in the face.  It happened to them, not us. 
    I did acknowledge that
  • RogueStonerRogueStoner Sunny AZ Posts: 1,716
    I’m sorry many of you have been violated in this, or much worse ways. Love and healing thoughts to all. :hug:

    And FWIW, I have been violated many times and while Shyner’s comparison may be offensive at first, people should be able to describe their trauma any way they can. So many can’t speak about it at all. 
  • hedonisthedonist Posts: 24,524
    There has been no judgement at all.  Nor criticism.

    But, if the door is opened, expect some to walk through.  Risk taken in opening yourself up to that.

    Funnily enough, I am reveling in Release from Wrigley from a couple years ago.

    Which way to go?

    Forward.  Even if a bit back now and then.......move on.  If for our own sake.
  • ShynerShyner Posts: 1,226
    edited February 2018
    I don't mind telling stories of my lifetime. 
    I really don't care what judgement is made. 
    I think a couple walked through the door just to be seen. 
    If it makes anyone feel better then heck go for it

    I'll keep takin punches till they're(their) will grows tired
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  • WobbieWobbie Posts: 30,662
    “their” :wink:
    If I had known then what I know now...

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  • ShynerShyner Posts: 1,226
    Haha. 
  • hedonisthedonist Posts: 24,524
    Ugh.  Put yourself out there?  Awesome.  It takes balls.

    Discount or misinterpret others' responses?  Not so much.  Along with the claim of being judged, when it's been implicitly said it is not.

    Maybe the punches you infer aren't even close to what is given, at least beyond your own realm.

    Really, please let go.  Ease up on yourself, and then you can extend that to those with whom you speak.
  • ShynerShyner Posts: 1,226
    https://youtu.be/At7MQbyGHsQ
  • rgambsrgambs Posts: 13,576
    It seems I missed an interesting thread.
    Monkey Driven, Call this Living?
  • brianluxbrianlux Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 42,802
    rgambs said:
    It seems I missed an interesting thread.
    The title changed.  It was originally about getting punched in the face then became a discussion of which was worse- punched in the face or raped.
    "Don't give in to the lies.  Don't give in to the fear. Hold on to the truth.  And to hope."
    -Jim Acosta











  • rgambsrgambs Posts: 13,576
    brianlux said:
    rgambs said:
    It seems I missed an interesting thread.
    The title changed.  It was originally about getting punched in the face then became a discussion of which was worse- punched in the face or raped.
    Yeah, which is completely fascinating and inexplicable to me.  

    Monkey Driven, Call this Living?
  • RogueStonerRogueStoner Sunny AZ Posts: 1,716
    hedonist said:
    Ugh.  Put yourself out there?  Awesome.  It takes balls.

    Discount or misinterpret others' responses?  Not so much.  Along with the claim of being judged, when it's been implicitly said it is not.

    Maybe the punches you infer aren't even close to what is given, at least beyond your own realm.

    Really, please let go.  Ease up on yourself, and then you can extend that to those with whom you speak.
    Hope you’re feeling better today. Sounds like you had a rough day/night. 
  • hedonisthedonist Posts: 24,524
    Thanks, RS.  It was actually far from a bad time, was simply responding to what was put out there.  Sometimes attempts to combine compassion with honesty don't come through as intended.
  • RogueStonerRogueStoner Sunny AZ Posts: 1,716
    hedonist said:
    Thanks, RS.  It was actually far from a bad time, was simply responding to what was put out there.  Sometimes attempts to combine compassion with honesty don't come through as intended.
    Oh, ok. I must’ve missed whatever you were replying to. Glad you’re well. :)
  • tempo_n_groovetempo_n_groove Posts: 40,579
    I'm putting this song here because I can't hug anyone through a computer...
    https://youtu.be/YYOKMUTTDdA
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