Social media

whispering hands

RogueStoner said:

I happen to like Facebook... it helped me reconnect with old friends that I've lost touch with over the years. We didn't have cell phones back then so if I moved and my friends moved, we lost contact.  It's nice to be able to say hello to an old friend, neighbor, teacher, etc.  I especially like it because it gives me the chance to thank those people in my life that made a difference and I was too young or stupid at the time to fully see it. I think it's important to let people know these things and Facebook gave me that opportunity.
I also like Facebook because people fascinate me and this is like a window into their souls. I know most people are fake, but their posts are still revealing. People's posts don't necessarily sway my friendship but it's good to know who's political, religious, etc, so I can be mindful and respectful of that when I do see them (or stay away, as the case may be). Yes, the "this is what I ate today" posts are a bit much, but that says something too. I don't post much myself, I tried, and found it too much of a chore (mostly of having to censor myself). And I only do 10c and Facebook, both of which can be huge time sucks, but that's my fault. It is great reading for sleepless nights or sitting in waiting rooms.
In conclusion, I like social media because you bastards are funny and how else would I know that?

love you! 

Wobbie

dankind said:

A troubling thing that I've taken note of over the past 10 years or so is how it has almost become detrimental to one's career trajectory if one is not active on social media. I mean if a potential employer cannot find you on LinkedIn or Facebook, then you must be some sort of anti-social miscreant--and no one wants that type of person funking up the happy office. In my field, being savvy with social media is actually a desired skill for many entry-level positions, and it's a requirement as one climbs the ladder.

but, you ARE an anti-social miscreant!

whispering hands

HughFreakingDillon said:

rgambs said:

It's great advertising and networking for small businesses and local events.  

yes, but it kind of creeps me out when I get a notification of "friends that are near you". makes me want to go hide in a closet. why do people let themselves be found by facebook? I don't have a mobile phone, so that I don't get. 

But your friends might. On a PC FB reads your ISP info for location.. beyond creepy to me too.

RogueStoner

whispering hands said:

RogueStoner said:

I happen to like Facebook... it helped me reconnect with old friends that I've lost touch with over the years. We didn't have cell phones back then so if I moved and my friends moved, we lost contact.  It's nice to be able to say hello to an old friend, neighbor, teacher, etc.  I especially like it because it gives me the chance to thank those people in my life that made a difference and I was too young or stupid at the time to fully see it. I think it's important to let people know these things and Facebook gave me that opportunity.
I also like Facebook because people fascinate me and this is like a window into their souls. I know most people are fake, but their posts are still revealing. People's posts don't necessarily sway my friendship but it's good to know who's political, religious, etc, so I can be mindful and respectful of that when I do see them (or stay away, as the case may be). Yes, the "this is what I ate today" posts are a bit much, but that says something too. I don't post much myself, I tried, and found it too much of a chore (mostly of having to censor myself). And I only do 10c and Facebook, both of which can be huge time sucks, but that's my fault. It is great reading for sleepless nights or sitting in waiting rooms.
In conclusion, I like social media because you bastards are funny and how else would I know that?

love you! 

Right back atcha girl!  

wall232

I must admit that at times I do appreciate that my wife is on FB. She keeps me up to date with what's going on with family and friends and it's pretty awesome to see pics of my friends and their kids that I don't see much.  I've almost joined a few times over the years but just haven't pulled the trigger, 

whispering hands

So, my stepmom, joined FB for the first time ever, last week. She has avoided it all these years. She lasted a week! This morning she told us she deleted it, citing unnecessary drama, the ludicrously narcissistic 'live' feeds, and it being a time suck.. you're better off without it Mom!

SmallestOceans

whispering hands said:

So, my stepmom, joined FB for the first time ever, last week. She has avoided it all these years. She lasted a week! This morning she told us she deleted it, citing unnecessary drama, the ludicrously narcissistic 'live' feeds, and it being a time suck.. you're better off without it Mom!

She's a smart woman

Bentleyspop

I have never  been on any social media and don't  miss it at all.

What's really disconcerting about social media and cell phones is when you go out to a bar or restaurant or brewery and see couples, families, and groups of friends and they ALL have their noses buried in their phones rather than interacting with each other.
 SAD!

HughFreakingDillon

Bentleyspop said:

I have never  been on any social media and don't  miss it at all.

What's really disconcerting about social media and cell phones is when you go out to a bar or restaurant or brewery and see couples, families, and groups of friends and they ALL have their noses buried in their phones rather than interacting with each other.
 SAD!

one thing I've come to realize, is that today's facebook is yesterday's newspapers, or toys, or Walkmans, whathaveyou. people bury themselves in whatever it is they have available. 

that being said, we often get annoyed at my brother for constantly checking his phone because he gets emails from work at all hours, weekends, holidays, etc. so it's irritating when the family is together and this grown-ass man is constantly staring at his phone. but professional availability is a whole other ball of wax. it's coming to the point where if you don't turn your phone off, you are basically working 18 hours a day. SHUT OFF!!!

HughFreakingDillon

wall232 said:

I must admit that at times I do appreciate that my wife is on FB. She keeps me up to date with what's going on with family and friends and it's pretty awesome to see pics of my friends and their kids that I don't see much.  I've almost joined a few times over the years but just haven't pulled the trigger, 

what's really hilarious about this, and thanks for admitting this, is that a friend of mine has always mocked everyone of us for being on facebook, saying the same thing "you lost contact with those people for a reason". but his wife is on it. and we found out recently he spends more time on her facebook creeping on everyone else than she does. 

if she wasn't on it, I guarantee you he'd have his own profile. 

Ms. Haiku

I love social media. I love following knitting stores, runners, and cafes on Instagram; I love staying in touch with friends and family on Facebook (and watching baby elephant videos); I love following news feeds of journalists and cultural campaigns on Twitter; I love watching knitting videos or videos of late night shows on YouTube; I look up people I will interview with on LinkedIn, which also has job postings; and I'm a member of this board and Ravelry. I read articles referenced on social media sites, but I rarely go directly to a blog. I have blogs, but I use them as historical references to where I have been.

When I post about where I drink coffee I consider it free advertising for the cafe, and I feel like I'm contributing to something greater than myself. When I post during the Orioles games it is to show support for my team and to be a part of the virtual Camden Yards.

In the 90s I wished there was a way for me to pair my words with my photography. Social media is a dream come true.

FinsburyParkCarrots

Me: I think I'll delete my social media presence. It's distracting me from my work
My wife: Don't be silly. How will you get your Doug the Pug fix every day?
Me: True dat. (Keeps social media)

dimitrispearljam

seems like some  misunderstood me..isnt the issue if are good or bad..
thing got me thinking is lthat people seems to ive via them..like what matters is what u post..so u post everything to make eveerything matters..cos if u dont is like those things doesnt exist...the matters isnt if are good or like em,,i like em,,i use them too..

HughFreakingDillon

dimitrispearljam said:

seems like some  misunderstood me..isnt the issue if are good or bad..
thing got me thinking is lthat people seems to ive via them..like what matters is what u post..so u post everything to make eveerything matters..cos if u dont is like those things doesnt exist...the matters isnt if are good or like em,,i like em,,i use them too..

I think it's hard to say what is really motivating people to post. if they post every detail of their day, that might be a bit of a narcissism issue. 99% of the world don't give a shit what others are doing most of their day. and if people think it doesn't matter unless it's posted on social media, that's a bit of a problem. 

dimitrispearljam

HughFreakingDillon said:

dimitrispearljam said:

seems like some  misunderstood me..isnt the issue if are good or bad..
thing got me thinking is lthat people seems to ive via them..like what matters is what u post..so u post everything to make eveerything matters..cos if u dont is like those things doesnt exist...the matters isnt if are good or like em,,i like em,,i use them too..

I think it's hard to say what is really motivating people to post. if they post every detail of their day, that might be a bit of a narcissism issue. 99% of the world don't give a shit what others are doing most of their day. and if people think it doesn't matter unless it's posted on social media, that's a bit of a problem. 

i hear yeah,.,but i disagreeabout 99%..people loves to look in other peoples life and what they doing,,and gossip of course and have opinion about others peoples life

HughFreakingDillon

dimitrispearljam said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

dimitrispearljam said:

seems like some  misunderstood me..isnt the issue if are good or bad..
thing got me thinking is lthat people seems to ive via them..like what matters is what u post..so u post everything to make eveerything matters..cos if u dont is like those things doesnt exist...the matters isnt if are good or like em,,i like em,,i use them too..

I think it's hard to say what is really motivating people to post. if they post every detail of their day, that might be a bit of a narcissism issue. 99% of the world don't give a shit what others are doing most of their day. and if people think it doesn't matter unless it's posted on social media, that's a bit of a problem. 

i hear yeah,.,but i disagreeabout 99%..people loves to look in other peoples life and what they doing,,and gossip of course and have opinion about others peoples life

yeah, i guess I can only speak for myself. as a former-facebook-addict-now-moderate-user I can attest to the fact I rarely, if ever, look on anyone's page. I stick to my news feed, and even then I don't get through it all. too much shit. especially george takai. I need to unfollow that guy. so many posts. 

most of the people I'm friends with on there no longer post inane things like their dinner choices though, either, which is a relief. or did I just unfollow them? don't know. 

brianlux

HughFreakingDillon said:

dimitrispearljam said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

dimitrispearljam said:

seems like some  misunderstood me..isnt the issue if are good or bad..
thing got me thinking is lthat people seems to ive via them..like what matters is what u post..so u post everything to make eveerything matters..cos if u dont is like those things doesnt exist...the matters isnt if are good or like em,,i like em,,i use them too..

I think it's hard to say what is really motivating people to post. if they post every detail of their day, that might be a bit of a narcissism issue. 99% of the world don't give a shit what others are doing most of their day. and if people think it doesn't matter unless it's posted on social media, that's a bit of a problem. 

i hear yeah,.,but i disagreeabout 99%..people loves to look in other peoples life and what they doing,,and gossip of course and have opinion about others peoples life

yeah, i guess I can only speak for myself. as a former-facebook-addict-now-moderate-user I can attest to the fact I rarely, if ever, look on anyone's page. I stick to my news feed, and even then I don't get through it all. too much shit. especially george takai. I need to unfollow that guy. so many posts. 

most of the people I'm friends with on there no longer post inane things like their dinner choices though, either, which is a relief. or did I just unfollow them? don't know. 

Mr. Takai does indeed post a LOT of stuff!  The thing is, for me, sometimes what he says is right on and I like it.  I'll glance at his post and if looks worth reading I read it and if it looks uninteresting, I just move on.  Which is pretty much how I use FB, a lot of skimming with occasional slow-down-and-reads. 

One thing I don't like is that FB keeps resetting my news feed to "Top Stories" instead of, "Most recent".  I'll decide what is most important, thank you very much cyber-entity!

brianlux

Here's a question that came to mind while reading all this:  How much different do you see social media is from sites like with forums like AET?  I see a lot of similarities between FB and these forums or others (I'm thinking the Hoffman TV forum a few of us here are on).

MayDay10

Social media can be positive.  I do like to stay 'connected' to people in my past, if for nothing else, but to keep tabs on them.  It is great for organizing activities and keeping up to date with local happenings and my town's politics have become active on facebook.  I only really do facebook and message boards.  I have a twitter account and never use it.  

I only really post every blue moon on facebook.  I mainly use it to observe.  There are certainly many people who have 'wired' in their lives with it.  A lot of these people, I find as entertainment.  

I find myself using message boards too much though and I always want to reduce my participation.  

whispering hands

They ARE the same, just one set  is completely fluid, and the other set, is post and refresh. If we didn't have to refresh pages to see new posts, this site becomes a completely different format. I forget the term for it, but it is highly mis-functional, and thus didn't survive too well as communication formats evolved. 

Social media, is just what it's name implies.. it is a form of communication via media.. media is an application adverb in a sense. It describes a format being used to communicate, that allows for no subliminal information to be shared or conveyed. Hence the need for emoticons/now emojis in this form of communication.In behavior studies, we call this dead communication. The liquid volatility factor is always in play, because we are missing 70% of our information context!!  So the telephone is not considered social media because inflection and connotations apply.  Subliminal information is still being shared vocally. 
Social media is a very inefficient way to communicate. It is effective for ramblings, and poetry, fiction, etc.. but it translates so differently from reader to reader, that it creates that LVF, making it a volatile and unstable form of communication. 
But in reality, they are simlly two different forms of Social Media.. just one is much slower, and thus allows for time to consider your response, unlike FB, where we just shoot off at the fingers reactively versus intelligibly.