I am a Dad once more!!

2-feign-reluctance
2-feign-reluctance TigerTown, USA Posts: 23,462
edited October 2017 in All Encompassing Trip
Talk to me. What's it like? Chances of us having a second aren't looking good & its been tough on me.

EDIT: Last night Isabelle Jane Lee arrived healthy & beautiful making me a Dad for the second time. Today I am a blessed man. 


www.cluthelee.com
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  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    2-feign-reluctance said:

    Talk to me. What's it like? Chances of us having a second aren't looking good & its been tough on me.

    Why not adopt?
  • Fifthelement
    Fifthelement Lotusland Posts: 6,965
    edited January 2017
    I'm sorry to hear that. It must be hard to take right now. I'm afraid I can't offer any advice, just (((hugs))).
    "What the CANUCK happened?!? - Esquimalt Barber Shop
  • 2-feign-reluctance
    2-feign-reluctance TigerTown, USA Posts: 23,462
    whispering hands said:

    2-feign-reluctance said:

    Talk to me. What's it like? Chances of us having a second aren't looking good & its been tough on me.

    Why not adopt?
    Not something I want to do for too many reasons.
    www.cluthelee.com
  • hauntingfamiliar
    hauntingfamiliar Wilmington, NC Posts: 10,401
    I've one. A nine-year-old girl and she is the reason for my existence.
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    Is it tough on your child as well? If not...maybe that question is something you can resolve in time, separately.

    I do respect whatever your (and your wife's) reasons for not adopting may be.
  • hauntingfamiliar
    hauntingfamiliar Wilmington, NC Posts: 10,401
    I won't say it's easy...it's not. It does get easier though, the older they get...and if there are fun neighborhood kids. And also....it's the only thing they know. Sure, I went through the whole, "so and so has brothers and sisters, why don't I" guilt trip phase with my daughter. And I am from from a big family....it can be hard sometimes. But, hey, sometimes life just happens the way it happens. It did for me and now I have a beautiful, extraordinary daughter.
  • Annafalk
    Annafalk Sweden Posts: 4,004
    2-feign-reluctance said:

    Talk to me. What's it like? Chances of us having a second aren't looking good & its been tough on me.

    Sometimes cousins can be like siblings.
  • deadendp
    deadendp Northeast Ohio Posts: 10,434
    My kiddo is an only but not. She is adopted with siblings in other homes.

    Is she well adjusted and great? Absolutely!

    Does she live a life a bit different than children who have other kiddos in the house? Yes. There are pluses and minuses.

    She has gone to museum lectures and concerts, appointments, funerals, programs and all sorts of things with us. She is capable of having appropriate conversations with adults. She is an only raised by two blunt adults who has allowed her to ask any question she has ever had. She has and does talk with us about everything.

    Does she get lonely and pester me about where we can go, what we can do and all that? Sweet love, yes. Does she have two neighbor girls who are also both only children? Yup. Do we study together with her as opposed to sibling help? Yes.

    Having one child isn't something we planned, but it was how life worked out for us. We wouldn't trade K for anything and wouldn't trade the experiences that we have had with her for anything. I will also admit that my daughter's ADD and OCD has led us to say many times, "God knew what he was doing when he gave us only one."

    We love her dearly and you know what? We are good with one.
    2014: Cincinnati
    2016: Lexington and Wrigley 1
  • 2-feign-reluctance
    2-feign-reluctance TigerTown, USA Posts: 23,462
    Thanks for the words guys!
    www.cluthelee.com
  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    Best of luck to you guys!
  • Wma31394
    Wma31394 Posts: 3,045
    Keep slippin em past the keeper..we were told the same and kept trying and had #2. I know situations are difcerent..best of luck.
    "Going where the water tastes like wine!"
  • EB218946
    EB218946 Posts: 4,021
    2-feign I hope everything works out for you. Sorry you are struggling. Just want to send some good vibes your way. I always appreciate reading your posts on these forums. Ed
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    deadendp said:

    My kiddo is an only but not. She is adopted with siblings in other homes.

    Is she well adjusted and great? Absolutely!

    Does she live a life a bit different than children who have other kiddos in the house? Yes. There are pluses and minuses.

    She has gone to museum lectures and concerts, appointments, funerals, programs and all sorts of things with us. She is capable of having appropriate conversations with adults. She is an only raised by two blunt adults who has allowed her to ask any question she has ever had. She has and does talk with us about everything.

    Does she get lonely and pester me about where we can go, what we can do and all that? Sweet love, yes. Does she have two neighbor girls who are also both only children? Yup. Do we study together with her as opposed to sibling help? Yes.

    Having one child isn't something we planned, but it was how life worked out for us. We wouldn't trade K for anything and wouldn't trade the experiences that we have had with her for anything. I will also admit that my daughter's ADD and OCD has led us to say many times, "God knew what he was doing when he gave us only one."

    We love her dearly and you know what? We are good with one.

    I meant to say earlier how much I love this post, and your perspective(s). K is a lucky and lovely young lady.
  • dankind
    dankind Posts: 20,841
    All I can say is those were the days.
    I SAW PEARL JAM
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    dankind said:

    All I can say is those were the days.

    Boy, the way Glenn Miller played.
  • Poncier
    Poncier Posts: 18,020
    hedonist said:

    dankind said:

    All I can say is those were the days.

    Boy, the way Glenn Miller played.
    Songs that made the hit parade.
    This weekend we rock Portland
  • tweedyfanjen
    tweedyfanjen Posts: 881
    My niece is an only child and I think she likes it that way. :lol: But seriously, I know it was hard on my brother not to have any more children but they had such a tough time conceiving my niece (two fertility specialists) that I think he realized how lucky they were to have one.
    I'm through with screaming
  • hauntingfamiliar
    hauntingfamiliar Wilmington, NC Posts: 10,401
    Annafalk said:

    2-feign-reluctance said:

    Talk to me. What's it like? Chances of us having a second aren't looking good & its been tough on me.

    Sometimes cousins can be like siblings.
    True. My daughter is very close to her cousins. It is a sibling-like bond. Just wish they lived a little closer.
  • dudeman
    dudeman Posts: 3,208
    Hang in there, man. We only have one. She gets a lot of attention, we take her places all the time, read a lot of books, teach her about everything we know and make sure she stays engaged and interested in learning.

    She spends a lot of time with our friends kids who are all around the same age.

    Sincerely, I hope that things work out for you the way you want. Best wishes.
    If hope can grow from dirt like me, it can be done. - EV
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    Poncier said:

    hedonist said:

    dankind said:

    All I can say is those were the days.

    Boy, the way Glenn Miller played.
    Songs that made the hit parade.
    And...Archie & Edith had only one child.

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