7 reasons to quit Facebook ?

brianlux

benjs said:

brianlux said:

benjs said:

As said here - anyone who's travelled or has friends/family abroad will immediately understand the value of Facebook. It is, simply put, the easiest means of staying in touch. And has facilitated more real-life interactions with friends I'd have lost touch with otherwise for me. The advantages over email or phone numbers is that people are likely to change their email or phone numbers, but a Facebook account follows you through multiple email or phone numbers. Don't want to be in touch? Remove a person from your account, and they won't know you've done that until they look you up!

Those are good points, benjs although there are other points that are also worth looking at: Could not Facebook have been created without so much emphasis on commercialism such that much of it feels invasive to some of us? That new record sleeve I was looking up information on the internet is now being pushed on my Facebook. Really? Facebook, did I ask your opinion? NO! And the other point the article makes is about the amount of time spent on FB that is not constructive or communicative and the ill health affects of FB. Not saying it should be outlawed or over-regulated, but these things are well worth considering and being aware of.

Brian, I think the answer is that businesses do what is best for businesses. I think this can be countered through open-source behaviour. The open-source movement exists as a means for people to speak up for people in the realm of technological development. I believe that a competitor to Facebook could one day exist as a donation-run service akin to Wikipedia, open-sourced and developed as a not-for-profit organization. For this to happen, we need to accept the tremendous benefits to social networking (primarily the potential for social development and social engineering), and then organize ourselves in ways to make an indispensable tool grow, and to remove some of the corrupt elements from it.

An independent, non-profit social media. I'll buy support that!

mcgruff10

I like Facebook. I ve found many friends that I lost contact with because of facebook. It s nice seeing how people are doing, what their kids are up to....Etc. Yeah you have some asshole/annoying posts but you have those type of people here on the 10c boards.

HughFreakingDillon

brianlux said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

PJfanwillneverleave1 said:

brianlux said:

rgambs said:

People fail to give proper credit to Facebook.
Yes it is annoying in all the usual ways, but if you don't like Billy's posts about what he is eating you can easily avoid it. It is tops for keeping up with family and friends from a distance, it can't be beat. I'm not going to email all the relatives and friends regularly and they won't either, it's too much hassle, but having one site where we all go to post our pictures, our thoughts, our day to day life allows us all to keep in the loop without any extra effort. I can hop on and look at the latest artwork by my neice in art school in Boston, see how my cousin in Colorado is doing with his new wife and latest business venture, talk to my mother who lives in Colorado, and look at pictures from my Army buddy's kids in Kentucky... And all of that vice versa with my baby boy, whom they are familiar with and a part of his life even if they haven't met him yet.

That's pretty amazing.

Exactly! If used judiciously, it can be a great way to keep up with people. I prefer (in order) cards and letter, phone calls, email and lastly, Facebook but I use Facebook because in some cases there are friends and family (mostly younger people) who only keep in touch that way.

If you really want to know how others are doing make a phone call.
If you really want to let others know how you are doing make a phone call.
When parents have almost stopped communicating with their children via phone and the preferred method is facebook to me that is a signal of how botic we have become.

Send actual printed pics to your friends and family you'd be amazed how uplifting it is to receive physical mail. Pics of children and vacations on facebook are boring now not novel.

Pick up that phone!

funny. think about your post for a sec. any behaviour that involves technology was once criticized by the generation or that did not have the ability to benefit from it. the phone, for instance. when that first came out, there were people who said "you want to talk? dont waste your time on that damn telephone! go to their house for a visit for christ sakes!". facebook is this generations landline phone (which, as a kid, i would spend literally hours on) or the tv, which was once marketed as a tool to bring your family closer together, just as social media has. its all in how ypu use it. you can filter through the crap you dont want to see instaed of wasting an entire evening at your uncles house looking at his slides of his disney vacation. the previous generations wasted just as much time, if not more, on these so-called family togetherness activities, when they were actually anything but.

Hey, wait a minute there you young whipper snapper! Hahaha!

But seriously, it's true- technology changes and we either change with it or, to some extent, miss out. But I still like the idea of (working back in time):

Email: same ability to e-text a message without FB trying to push some product on me or hook me up with a singles group ("Um, hello Facebook, I'm happily married, thanks anyway, dummy!")

Phone call: for me, the sound of voice still trumps a quickly dashed off message or copy-and-paste e-card.

Cards and letters: Hand written! Some of us still know hand writing! I save them all. Will make great fire starting material at the edge of the apocalypse!

Family gatherings: These are the best. If you're 18 years or older you can always opt out. But for me, a holiday gathering of family and friends is as real as it gets. But granted, it may be that some humans are losing the ability to enjoy reality. Hmmm.

Now, here's a little thought experiment: In the future people with have little implants in their brain that will allow them to communicate without pen and paper, Morse code, flag semaphore, signal lamps, string and tin cans, smoke signals, phone, or electronics. How does that grab you?

I am not the phone type. Haven't been in two decades. So texting, which I only recently took up, and emailing are my preferred methods, unless face to face is available.

Humans are social animals, so I can't forsee a time when computers will take the place of gatherings, but think of what something like skype has done for families that live far apart. The first time i heard about it, i was like "so the Visaphone from the Jetsons is REAL??". Now, do I need to awkwardly speak with my parents semi-daily when they are on winter holiday? No, but some people love that stuff. And I don't blame them.

I agree though that cursive writing is heading to extinction. I dont care what technology we have, we always need to be prepared if that technology is no longer available. I'm glad my daughter is learning it in school. I'm waiting for the day they abandon it for being "outdated and unnecessary".

FoxyRedLa

Good points here. I use mine minimally. Just not super interested. I am, however, a person that enjoys modern conveniences - texting is a big one for me. I'm not a hermit but not a big talker either.

callen

Hardly have time for my immediate family and friends not needing to add people that I used to know and stopped talking to and surely not wanting to hook up or even open my life up to ex's, don't want the drama. or NEW FRIENDS. Have enough. Bah humbug.

And benefiting corporations?!? And submitting to data mining. Yeah I spread my info get that but try to limit. The icing here.

I get the appeal and see some benefits, just not worth it and doesn't add value for me.

And waste enough time here.

rr165892

FoxyRedLa said:

Good points here. I use mine minimally. Just not super interested. I am, however, a person that enjoys modern conveniences - texting is a big one for me. I'm not a hermit but not a big talker either.

Texting is right up there with DVRs and Digital movies for the best shit going in last 15 years

Last-12-Exit

rr165892 said:

FoxyRedLa said:

Good points here. I use mine minimally. Just not super interested. I am, however, a person that enjoys modern conveniences - texting is a big one for me. I'm not a hermit but not a big talker either.

Texting is right up there with DVRs and Digital movies for the best shit going in last 15 years

Phones period.....
Check out Louis ck on you tube and search airplanes and cell phones.

Gern Blansten

I like when an old friend pops up but that happens less and less. When FB first became popular I got back in touch with a lot of friends and family. I guess it is still nice for that.

I tailored my feed by blocking "friends" that post garbage and leaving mostly a news feed. What bothers me now is that most "news" posters on FB are now going for clickbait. I will literally see the same post about two bear cubs playing on HuffPost, Time, Boston Globe, my local newschannel, etc. Really fucking annoying.

HughFreakingDillon

Gern Blansten said:

I like when an old friend pops up but that happens less and less. When FB first became popular I got back in touch with a lot of friends and family. I guess it is still nice for that.

I tailored my feed by blocking "friends" that post garbage and leaving mostly a news feed. What bothers me now is that most "news" posters on FB are now going for clickbait. I will literally see the same post about two bear cubs playing on HuffPost, Time, Boston Globe, my local newschannel, etc. Really fucking annoying.

yeah, it's nice they added (or I discovered) that feature of being able to hide people. I was getting so annoyed that I'd just delete them before. Now I just hide them. I even blocked my sister. LOL.

Gern Blansten

What is really annoying me now is an old high school friend that will post a picture or status update and then immediately like his own post. Or he will post a youtube video to his timeline and then share it. Really fucking annoying.,

HughFreakingDillon

i've never understood liking your own post. it's the social media equivalent of being the only one laughing at your own jokes.

callen

rr165892 said:

FoxyRedLa said:

Good points here. I use mine minimally. Just not super interested. I am, however, a person that enjoys modern conveniences - texting is a big one for me. I'm not a hermit but not a big talker either.

Texting is right up there with DVRs and Digital movies for the best shit going in last 15 years

Quickly saw benefit of texting. Some though only text. That can get old. Pick up your phone!

Great to be part of generation that lived before all this stuff. Great perspective.

badbrains

Last-12-Exit said:

rr165892 said:

FoxyRedLa said:

Good points here. I use mine minimally. Just not super interested. I am, however, a person that enjoys modern conveniences - texting is a big one for me. I'm not a hermit but not a big talker either.

Texting is right up there with DVRs and Digital movies for the best shit going in last 15 years

Phones period.....
Check out Louis ck on you tube and search airplanes and cell phones.

Funny shit

benjs

badbrains said:

Last-12-Exit said:

rr165892 said:

FoxyRedLa said:

Good points here. I use mine minimally. Just not super interested. I am, however, a person that enjoys modern conveniences - texting is a big one for me. I'm not a hermit but not a big talker either.

Texting is right up there with DVRs and Digital movies for the best shit going in last 15 years

Phones period.....
Check out Louis ck on you tube and search airplanes and cell phones.

Funny shit

Everything is awesome, and nobody's happy. Love the guy. Louie the TV show is also brilliant, in case anyone here hasn't watched it.

Last-12-Exit

"Can you give it a second? To get from space?"

ldent42

HughFreakingDillon said:

Gern Blansten said:

I like when an old friend pops up but that happens less and less. When FB first became popular I got back in touch with a lot of friends and family. I guess it is still nice for that.

I tailored my feed by blocking "friends" that post garbage and leaving mostly a news feed. What bothers me now is that most "news" posters on FB are now going for clickbait. I will literally see the same post about two bear cubs playing on HuffPost, Time, Boston Globe, my local newschannel, etc. Really fucking annoying.

yeah, it's nice they added (or I discovered) that feature of being able to hide people. I was getting so annoyed that I'd just delete them before. Now I just hide them. I even blocked my sister. LOL.

+1

I really do agree that it is what you make it. I have done the "hide" things from there too. I turn off all the notifications from all FB Groups (and I'm in quite a few.)
I have to say though I LOVE the ability to connect with other PJ fans and get involved in cool shit (like raffles) and trade stickers and pins and spare tickets and stuff! The best I think is being able to meet people from all over the world during tour time and maintain those relationships via FB. I've made some really awesome friends that way. The clickbait headlines do annoy the fuck out of me though. Also I have found FB to be a great info resource for stuff like concerts and games - I swear if it weren't for the FB Supporters' groups I'd never know when a single match was on nor what channel to watch it on. I guess I am one of those people who sort of don't get caught up in the "drama" of FB - I don't endlessly scroll or go looking for specific people's profiles just to snoop on them, I use Messenger more than texting now I think.

Edited to add: I'm really fucking glad there was no Facebook when I was a teenager. I can't imagine the effect of social media on kids lives these days

HughFreakingDillon

for me it's actually mostly a tool to get all my music news in one place. bands don't post stuff on their websites anymore, they post it all to twitter and facebook. and not every music website covers all the bands I like. so it's perfect for me.

PJ_Soul

TBH, I kind of miss MySpace. It was cool that you could design your page and have music set to it and everything. It was fun and creative. It also forced me to learn HTML, which definitely came in handy.

But facebook is a good way to stay in touch with people, stay informed about bands, and it's a great way to find people with similar specific interests through the groups feature (and I love that groups can be closed to the public). It's also an easy way to keep up with news headlines and live sports, and concert feeds. I don't think FB has to be negative. The individual user is the one who makes it negative or positive IMO. Also, you can create a "fake" account, so I'm not too sure what the privacy issue is about, really.

F Me In The Brain

I would rather drive a nail through my bag than join FaceTard. I am happy for those who like it but I never have, never will. Have seen it cause much drama -- like when my wife facetards with people she met visiting the town I grew up in during visits over the last 10-15 years. Now when I go to visit my family I have to tell my wife not to post anything on Tard that relates to my visit or I have people that I dont want visiting stopping to visit. Then somehow I am the bad guy when I tell them that I dont have time for them and am there visiting family.
If I wanted to see you I would have called you and told you I was coming to town. Go f off!
Now, that does make me sound like the bad guy - - but if my wife didnt get into Tarding then I would not have had that drama to deal with.
(And there are 500 other stories like that. I am sure we all have them.)

Those who like it? Rock on, I am very pleased for you.

WhatYouTaughtMe

It's a publicly traded company. So your thoughts, pictures, and locations have become a commodity. That's the part that troubles me and why I refuse to use it. Of course anytime you post anything online it doesn't really belong to you anymore. It's just weird to me. People are literally trading on your vacation photos. I'm sure this place is similar in some way but the scale of Facebook is incredible.