Fraternities and Sororities-Time To Go?
rgambs
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http://www.rollingstone.com/culture/features/a-rape-on-campus-20141119?page=2
http://www.businessinsider.com/west-virginia-university-suspends-greek-system-after-rumored-death-of-student-2014-11
At what point does student safety and respect for human dignity trump tradition?
http://www.businessinsider.com/west-virginia-university-suspends-greek-system-after-rumored-death-of-student-2014-11
At what point does student safety and respect for human dignity trump tradition?
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They don't throw wild parties or haze.So other then costing me a bunch of money every year I see only good in it.They even require GPA to remain high or you don't get to do certain things within the chapter,
I say don't throw the baby out with the bath water .
My wife was in APO I think...it was service oriented but didnt have a chapter house like a true Frat, so it was really just a student activity group. Wouldn't groups like these two flourish out from under the Greek system, which is built on heirarchical (is that a real word?) competetion?
Sigma Pi until you die!
To boot... seeing all those dorks walk around in their sweaters offered mild amusement throughout rather drab days.
These notions alone justify their existence.
back then i enjoyed it. when i joined i had just given up D1 college baseball due to injury. the only people i knew were the people on my team. i went through rush to meet people. and got in to one of the largest organizations on campus. there were a lot of guys from all different backgrounds and walks of life that i never would have met otherwise. some of the greatest experiences of my college years were a direct result of being in that organization. spring breaks, homecomings, charity events, being involved in student government, the occasional random, stupid and irresponsible road trip, etc. i have made lifelong friends that i still talk to all of the time. those people live all over the country. we helped each other with our classes, we helped each other land jobs, because you have a huge network when you get out of school.
all of that said, there were a few bad things that happened. the main component was the lack of control of the underage drinking. we ended up on probation for a year because some sorority woman was at our house, walked across the street to her house, and passed out in the front yard. other houses got in trouble for hazing, one got busted by the dea for selling cocaine and steroids to undercover agents.... we had a little bit of hazing, but it was not drink hazing and it wasn't very physical. it was more mind games than anything, like being put in a no win situation where you were going to piss off one active or another. you just had to pick who could fuck you over less. one new years eve, a kid who was in a pledge class where i was a pledge trainer, was killed by a drunk driver on new years eve. that kind of ruined the whole experience for me. things got very real after that. not a new years eve goes by where i do not think of matt armin.
in the end, every house on campus lost their charter at some point. we lost ours in 2006 i think. we got re-colonized in 2013. the greek system there now is all dry houses, meaning no alcohol on the property. it is a good thing in my opinion. we had our fun with it, but looking back things could have been much, much worse.
i don't have any answers for how to stop the sexual assaults. it is shameful. i never heard of anything like that happening in my house, but i am sure that they would have been kicked out and probably reported to the police, because disrespect of women was the one thing that did not fly in the house i was in.
i will say that you can ban the greek system, but what is to stop a group of students from forming their own group who is unsanctioned by a national body? at least being sanctioned provides some sort of oversight to make sure that some of these things do not happen.
"Well, you tell him that I don't talk to suckas."
How could none of the Phi Psi guys report this? Seriously, a gang rape? Did other guys in the house know about it and not say anything?
But I don't think you can destroy the greek system. Boot the Phi Psi chapter from UVa though.
http://vimeo.com/user20932862/review/112529177/b57f3948c3
"I thought at 12 mins and at 18 she said pretty terrible things... If a student admits guilt, he deserves a lesser sanction, and that they are trying to balance the rights of the accused with the rights of the victim (???). "
"Well, you tell him that I don't talk to suckas."
Yay, you admitted you sexually assaulted someone. Pat on the back!
Wow. It's beyond insulting to me, not just as a woman but as a human being.
UVa has a great honor system. It's strict - if you cheat, you get expelled. That's one of the things this woman talks about on the interview - if you cheat in an academic sense, you get expelled. If you rape someone, you can get a second chance. Or suspended for a year. What?????
To your last paragraph I say it goes both ways. Being sanctioned by a national body MIGHT (the bigwigs know what is happening in frats every day, they know perfectly well) provide some oversight, but it also affords some protection to the members as well. If a gang rape occurs in an off campus house with an unofficial group the police will be the only ones to get involved and they will come down hard. If it occurs in a nationally acclaimed fraternity there will be lawyers and PR demons and ladies like the one in the video that will get involved and dilute the process of making sure these disgusting men get what SHOULD be coming to them in prison.
and just to be fair, i have attended off campus parties thrown by people not in any greek organizations that have been just as crazy, if not, crazier than anything thrown by the fraternities. at least in the fraternities, you hire some sort of security to have the out of control people leave.
again i am not condoning anything at all. i am just trying to figure out the right answers to where everyone is safe. college should be about learning, but it should be about discovering who you are and what you believe, and having fun too. but it has to be safe for everyone. i have seen plenty of dumb shit occur when i joined 20 years ago. there has to be a better way.
"Well, you tell him that I don't talk to suckas."
My chapter was well known in the city for legendary parties. When I was there, I felt we were fairly responsible about who we let party with us. We didn't let people drive if they were drunk. We took car keys at the door. We made sure that at least 6 brothers were not drinking at our parties to help oversee the house. We tried to keep women from leaving with guys they didn't know. We tried to protect you if you were partying with us. We rarely had interactions with the police. When we did, we were able to squirm our way out of trouble.
Shortly after my class left, things went downhill. Those tradition I mentioned slowly faded. Cops were called on several occasions, the school put pressure on the house, and our nationals increased the random visits. The alumni put pressure on the actives to get their shot together. We warned them, we even cut funding and cancelled an alumni banquet. Eventually it led to us losing our charter. Fortunately, nobody was hurt.
Of rank and follow weave through in life is built on it. Psychology says that's why siblings fight, it's ingrained in us, all living things. There must be leaders and there must be followers.. So there IS a system of hierarchy that applies even on the deepest of levels. And on that note, I am out of this convo, cause I have nothing concrete or based to contribute. Very interesting subject though!
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http://www.safercampus.org/blog/2009/11/facts-about-college-sexual-assault/
"34% percent of rapes and 45% of attempted rapes of college women take place on campus. Almost 60% of the rapes that take place on campus occur in the victim’s residence, 31% occur in another residence, and 10% occur in a fraternity."
https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&ei=UqJzVIzoPPfdsAS79oK4DA&url=http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Campus_rape&ved=0CCkQFjAE&usg=AFQjCNEBoUE1BUJxqhy6dB7LHXznqvGCpA
"Fifty-five to seventy percent of gang rape perpetrators belong to fraternities. Eighty-six percent of off-campus attempted rape or sexual assaults are at fraternity houses.[29] College gang rape tends to be perpetrated by middle- to upper-class men.[30]"
http://www.fris.org/CampusSexualViolence/CampusSexViolence.html
"Sexual assaults occur both on and off campus, in the victims' living quarters and other living quarters and at fraternities, bars, nightclubs and work settings (Fisher, Cullen & Turner, 2000). Research suggests that students who live in sorority houses or belong to sororities have an increased risk for sexual victimization (Copenhaver & Grauerholz, 1991; Franklin, 2010; Kalof, 1993; Mohler-Kuo et al., 2004; Tyler, Holt & Whitbeck, 1998)."
"As indicated above, there is some evidence that being a member of a sorority increases the risk of sexual victimization. Fraternity members and student athletes are more likely than any other men on campus to commit a sexual assault (Murnen & Kohlman, 2007). Fisher, Cullen and Turner (2000) found that of the rapes reported by students surveyed in their study, 10.3 percent occurred in a fraternity house."
"Well, you tell him that I don't talk to suckas."
"Well, you tell him that I don't talk to suckas."
Rolling Stone apologizes for 'discrepancies' in UVA rape story
Facing increased scrutiny over an article about an alleged gang rape on the campus of the University of Virginia, Rolling Stone has issued a formal apology for its reporting .....
news.yahoo.com/rolling-stone-uva-rape-story-retraction-180722194.html